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Anonymous wrote:There is no chance he would have to pay alimony so take this deal as quickly as you can before he gets any advice.

And if you both make similar salaries, there’s no way he’d be paying child support either.

He’s being generous.

It depends on how he views his obligations. My ex was paying me child support, despite us having similar incomes. But he did not pay a penny more for anything. Medical insurance, deductibles, summer camps, babysitters - I was ultimately responsible for everything. I had my own reasons to accept the deal, but I don’t think it was that generous.

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Anonymous wrote:Lawyer.

Offer marriage counseling. If you can save your marriage, put your spouse first this time.

THis. If you can save your marriage, your spouse comes dead first. Your child comes second. Your relatives are a distant third that you see maybe once a month or once a quarter.

Anonymous wrote:$500 month? Wtf?

That’s nothing.

My kids are 12 and 14. Travel sport alone is $3200k each. We haven’t even gotten to school costs, food, clothing.

How much do you make?

Anonymous wrote:Getting a divorce should not be dramatic, expensive nor time-consuming. Share the kid, split everything, good to go. In your case, the divorce is best for everybody. How did you 2 even get together?

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Anonymous wrote:I am blindsided.

I don’t want out but he does.

We’ve been married for 6 years. We have one child together. He said we are too different.

He is introverted and I am very extroverted. This weekend I went away with my family: my sister, brother, parents and my nieces and nephews. DH didn’t want to come, he stayed home with our son. When I tried to FaceTime or text, he declined the calls and didn’t answer.

He doesn’t like my family. He says we are too enmeshed. I see my family about once a week and he sees his once per year, if that. This has been an ongoing point of contention in our marriage for years. He agreed to come to Thanksgiving and Christmas only. He said he is getting tired of declining invites every week. He doesn’t like my family at all, they’re very republican or just not interested in politics. My husband is left wing and doesn’t agree with their ambivalence or lack of interest. My dad is an alcoholic and he doesn’t want our son exposed to that, which was another point of contention in our marriage. He complained that even when things are going well, he has to repeat himself 2-3x when he asks me a question, we never agree on anything, and we are constantly bickering. He said I need to find a man who wants to be a part of my family and do the weekend camping trips or attend the birthday parties. I’m so hurt.

He has asked for 50/50 custody. He said he will take less of the split of equity in the home in exchange for no alimony. He is offering $500/month or child support. We make the same amount of income. He wants to file in 6 months after a trial separation and to give us time to pay down our mutual debts.

. Gee, who wouldn’t want to hang out with a Republican alcoholics

Anonymous wrote:Team husband. He’s right, you just never heard him.

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Anonymous wrote:Total loser. He should embrace your alcoholic father and hard-line right-wing relatives instead of avoiding them.

Lol.

Anonymous wrote:I am blindsided.

I don’t want out but he does.

We’ve been married for 6 years. We have one child together. He said we are too different.

He is introverted and I am very extroverted. This weekend I went away with my family: my sister, brother, parents and my nieces and nephews. DH didn’t want to come, he stayed home with our son. When I tried to FaceTime or text, he declined the calls and didn’t answer.

He doesn’t like my family. He says we are too enmeshed. I see my family about once a week and he sees his once per year, if that. This has been an ongoing point of contention in our marriage for years. He agreed to come to Thanksgiving and Christmas only. He said he is getting tired of declining invites every week. He doesn’t like my family at all, they’re very republican or just not interested in politics. My husband is left wing and doesn’t agree with their ambivalence or lack of interest. My dad is an alcoholic and he doesn’t want our son exposed to that, which was another point of contention in our marriage. He complained that even when things are going well, he has to repeat himself 2-3x when he asks me a question, we never agree on anything, and we are constantly bickering. He said I need to find a man who wants to be a part of my family and do the weekend camping trips or attend the birthday parties. I’m so hurt.

He has asked for 50/50 custody. He said he will take less of the split of equity in the home in exchange for no alimony. He is offering $500/month or child support. We make the same amount of income. He wants to file in 6 months after a trial separation and to give us time to pay down our mutual debts.