Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you cheat --- do you *not* understand the intense pain you cause, the pain you cause to the person *you say* you love.

Is that love? If you don't practice loving behavior, what makes you think you love them?

I want to keep our family intact. I love my DH but after years of marriage I am not in love with him. I want passion, sensuality, butterflies, all of which are gone in my marriage. I don’t want to hurt my DH and family, however I have very strong feelings for someone, also married. I have never cheated, never felt the need to, until now. It’s an all encompassing feeling I can’t shake, I think I am in love, and am allowing myself to feel these feelings. Will I act on it, not sure yet but I constantly think about this person, I need him so badly. I think we both are waiting for the other person to make a move, we are both paralyzed with fear.