Anonymous
Post 03/23/2020 11:36     Subject: Hospitals no longer allowing partners or support people
Anonymous wrote:I’m due at the end of June. I was hoping we’d be on the other side of the curve by then, but who knows how long this will drag out. Not having a support person isn’t as terrifying as being separated from my newborn for 14 days. That sounds so awful.


Can they enforce that? I would just say no. I don't know, maybe I'm insane but the long term risks of a baby being separated from its mother for the first two weeks of life outweigh the risks is corona virus in my mind.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2020 11:29     Subject: Hospitals no longer allowing partners or support people
I’m due at the end of June. I was hoping we’d be on the other side of the curve by then, but who knows how long this will drag out. Not having a support person isn’t as terrifying as being separated from my newborn for 14 days. That sounds so awful.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2020 11:23     Subject: Hospitals no longer allowing partners or support people
Anonymous wrote:In Ontario, Canada they are allowing ONE person in with you for the birth. They have to pack what they need to be there and stay, including their own food. No running home or leaving the maternity ward for anything. Once that one person leaves the maternity ward there will be no re-entry.



This seems like the best option.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2020 11:12     Subject: Hospitals no longer allowing partners or support people
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hospitals will always need to deliver healthy babies and keep moms safe, I would imagine that they are keep L and D and maternity staff separate. Let’s be positive here


With the new rules in place they have to be taking extra precaution. NYP will be having a staff member in the role of a doula for 2-3 patients to help bridge the gap in care. That's wonderful news. They are trying and they understand how scary it is. I'm sure this wasn't an easy decision for the hospitals to make.


I'm sorry but that's not enough. 1 person for 2-3 patients is not adequate support.
Women will be laboring alone.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2020 11:05     Subject: Hospitals no longer allowing partners or support people
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There seem to be a lot of people commenting in this thread who aren't pregnant right now and have a lot of opinions on this topic, and can I just say, STOP. You have no idea the unimaginable fear pregnant women are living with right now. We don't know how this affects pregnancy or newborns, we are worried about hospitals being over crowded, needing an emergency c-section and there not being enough ventilators, NICUs running out of ventilators, there being a nationwide blood shortage. All of these things and now facing the possibility of having to give birth alone. So if this situation doesn't apply to you just STFU because I don't want to hear one single opinion on the matter.


+1000
All of this is concerning. No partner for support is just the icing on the cake.


+1000000000000
It is an incredibly stressful time to be pregnant!
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2020 11:00     Subject: Hospitals no longer allowing partners or support people
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:And what happens when some of those L&D and postpartum staff start coming down with covid-19 (because you know they will), there's staffing shortages, and no support person available to advocate and help the patient?

Yes, I feel like L&D nurses and postpartum staff are more likely to have COVID-19, than the support person you've probably been social distancing with for the past 1-3 months. Banning a spouse "for safety" makes no sense. Is it to protect the spouse from getting exposed to the virus?


Its to protect the hospital workers in case hubby is a carrier w/o symptoms.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2020 10:55     Subject: Hospitals no longer allowing partners or support people
Anonymous wrote:There seem to be a lot of people commenting in this thread who aren't pregnant right now and have a lot of opinions on this topic, and can I just say, STOP. You have no idea the unimaginable fear pregnant women are living with right now. We don't know how this affects pregnancy or newborns, we are worried about hospitals being over crowded, needing an emergency c-section and there not being enough ventilators, NICUs running out of ventilators, there being a nationwide blood shortage. All of these things and now facing the possibility of having to give birth alone. So if this situation doesn't apply to you just STFU because I don't want to hear one single opinion on the matter.


+1000
All of this is concerning. No partner for support is just the icing on the cake.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2020 10:52     Subject: Hospitals no longer allowing partners or support people
^^^oh and all of you who come in here just to say "wowww so glad I'm not pregnant right now!" can also shove it and keep it to yourself.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2020 10:50     Subject: Hospitals no longer allowing partners or support people
There seem to be a lot of people commenting in this thread who aren't pregnant right now and have a lot of opinions on this topic, and can I just say, STOP. You have no idea the unimaginable fear pregnant women are living with right now. We don't know how this affects pregnancy or newborns, we are worried about hospitals being over crowded, needing an emergency c-section and there not being enough ventilators, NICUs running out of ventilators, there being a nationwide blood shortage. All of these things and now facing the possibility of having to give birth alone. So if this situation doesn't apply to you just STFU because I don't want to hear one single opinion on the matter.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2020 10:32     Subject: Hospitals no longer allowing partners or support people
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My father who is 93 was hospitalized for internal bleeding today near Albany NY. His care manager was not allowed to stay with him or even go into the ER with him. He has memory issues and we are concerned for him.

They do not have any confirmed coronavirus patients. I bet this new hospital rule of patients only will become true for all hospitals in a week or two.


I hope your dad is doing okay. So scary. We just went through this with my DH grandpa too


Yes my grandma as well. She's in a memory care facility and is not doing well with the lack of visitors or contact. She can't use an ipad or phone (deaf and blind) and is really upset. She had a 1-1 aide that we paid for that is now not allowed in either. So I imagine her care has gone down significantly.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2020 10:24     Subject: Hospitals no longer allowing partners or support people
I can't have a baby without a c-section. It isn't physically possible. I sure hope certain women are exempted from the "no elective c-section" thing because I can't be the only person ever to have this problem. Thank goodness I am NOT currently having a baby.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2020 10:15     Subject: Hospitals no longer allowing partners or support people
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hospitals will always need to deliver healthy babies and keep moms safe, I would imagine that they are keep L and D and maternity staff separate. Let’s be positive here


With the new rules in place they have to be taking extra precaution. NYP will be having a staff member in the role of a doula for 2-3 patients to help bridge the gap in care. That's wonderful news. They are trying and they understand how scary it is. I'm sure this wasn't an easy decision for the hospitals to make.


They’re going to get pregnant women with COVID though so it doesn’t really matter that the staff is separate.



Sigh. You're right.

Those babies will be separated from their moms for two weeks minimum. Which is good and safe but I've reading so much conflicted info on breastfeeding even if you test positive.

Obviously I think they need to do whatever to protect those babies and I'm not smart enough to be in the room making those calls. Just empathizing how hard it will be
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2020 10:13     Subject: Hospitals no longer allowing partners or support people
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hospitals will always need to deliver healthy babies and keep moms safe, I would imagine that they are keep L and D and maternity staff separate. Let’s be positive here


With the new rules in place they have to be taking extra precaution. NYP will be having a staff member in the role of a doula for 2-3 patients to help bridge the gap in care. That's wonderful news. They are trying and they understand how scary it is. I'm sure this wasn't an easy decision for the hospitals to make.


They’re going to get pregnant women with COVID though so it doesn’t really matter that the staff is separate.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2020 10:12     Subject: Re:Hospitals no longer allowing partners or support people
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We forget that, what, just 30-40 years ago men weren't allowed in L&D. It really, really sucks but we got this ladies. We'll make it through.


All alone with an OB on Twilight sleep and a strap to bite down on and no recollection thereafter is my dream delivery, but they won't do it these days...


Right? I would prefer to go full Betty Draper.


So drugged out that you couldn't hold your baby?


Sure. Let me get some sleep and I'll wake up and hold the baby.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2020 10:07     Subject: Hospitals no longer allowing partners or support people
Anonymous wrote:Hospitals will always need to deliver healthy babies and keep moms safe, I would imagine that they are keep L and D and maternity staff separate. Let’s be positive here


With the new rules in place they have to be taking extra precaution. NYP will be having a staff member in the role of a doula for 2-3 patients to help bridge the gap in care. That's wonderful news. They are trying and they understand how scary it is. I'm sure this wasn't an easy decision for the hospitals to make.