Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 12:11     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.


This.
Also, stop musing on FB. It’s not your diary or journal.


Agreed.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 12:08     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
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Anonymous wrote:To everybody saying relax it’s a joke and that she’s overreacting would be flipping their lives if a mother-in-law had said that.


This


I wouldn’t because she’d be right.


I wouldn't have said what OP said, and certainly not to my MIL. "Hey, MIL, it's so great that your son will keep going to work every day while I sit around the house with nothing to do!"


The neighbor's comment was not a joke. It was an attempt to shame a woman in front of her spouse and social community. It was misogynistic and inappropriate, and shame on those of you who think that it is ok or funny or those of you saying the OP was at fault. Let us please not promote this false narrative that SAHMs must be personally tending to their children at all the times of every day or they are somehow "less than" and worthy of public ridicule.

When I was SAH and put my kid in part day pre-school, my mother and my MIL said "do the five day option, not the three day option." Sorry your MIL is such a bitch and doesn't support your overall well-being.


This is cringeworthy. The 'public ridicule' was prompted by OP's ridiculously clueless post about how glad she is to be rid of her kid so she can do nothing.

Not sure about you, but people post all the time about how happy they are to be on kidless vacation. People post about their retirement. I don’t think twice. I don’t wish them any Ill will for getting a break. Not sure why this bothers you?
OP can post whatever she wants and neighbor can ignore it if it bothers him.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 12:08     Subject: Re:Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:Charge him.
Tell him that you started a part time job watching other people's kids.
$30/hr sound reasonable?


YES!!!!!

I was in the camp of saying no but this is SO much better!!!! Please do this OP.

Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 12:06     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
You know what OP? There are so many kind people out there who are struggling, why would you waste your time helping a$$holes?

Say no to the neighbor.



Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 12:03     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To everybody saying relax it’s a joke and that she’s overreacting would be flipping their lives if a mother-in-law had said that.


This


I wouldn’t because she’d be right.


Exactly what job do you think she can get from 9 AM to 1 PM weekdays that lets her be off when School is closed? there are not that many.


It would actually be from 9:30am - 12:30pm because she would need time to get to her job - unless this was a job at the preschool.

Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 12:01     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To everybody saying relax it’s a joke and that she’s overreacting would be flipping their lives if a mother-in-law had said that.


This


I wouldn’t because she’d be right.


I wouldn't have said what OP said, and certainly not to my MIL. "Hey, MIL, it's so great that your son will keep going to work every day while I sit around the house with nothing to do!"


The neighbor's comment was not a joke. It was an attempt to shame a woman in front of her spouse and social community. It was misogynistic and inappropriate, and shame on those of you who think that it is ok or funny or those of you saying the OP was at fault. Let us please not promote this false narrative that SAHMs must be personally tending to their children at all the times of every day or they are somehow "less than" and worthy of public ridicule.

When I was SAH and put my kid in part day pre-school, my mother and my MIL said "do the five day option, not the three day option." Sorry your MIL is such a bitch and doesn't support your overall well-being.


This is cringeworthy. The 'public ridicule' was prompted by OP's ridiculously clueless post about how glad she is to be rid of her kid so she can do nothing.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 12:00     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Omg you sound needy and obnoxious
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 11:58     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:OP you have every right to post WHATEVER YOU WANT on facebook.

Ten years from now you will want to go back and reflect on those days--how much it meant to you to have a break so that when you picked up your little one you were rested and "fresh' and the fun things you were able to do the rest of the day.

Your neighbor is an ass. You owe him nothing.


+1. He made an obnoxious comment. Which isn't a big deal. But the fact he won't let it go and has made comments to your DH shows he's an ass. I'd say no.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 11:38     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To everybody saying relax it’s a joke and that she’s overreacting would be flipping their lives if a mother-in-law had said that.


This


I wouldn’t because she’d be right.


I wouldn't have said what OP said, and certainly not to my MIL. "Hey, MIL, it's so great that your son will keep going to work every day while I sit around the house with nothing to do!"


The neighbor's comment was not a joke. It was an attempt to shame a woman in front of her spouse and social community. It was misogynistic and inappropriate, and shame on those of you who think that it is ok or funny or those of you saying the OP was at fault. Let us please not promote this false narrative that SAHMs must be personally tending to their children at all the times of every day or they are somehow "less than" and worthy of public ridicule.

When I was SAH and put my kid in part day pre-school, my mother and my MIL said "do the five day option, not the three day option." Sorry your MIL is such a bitch and doesn't support your overall well-being.


+10000

We all know that OP would still be doing housework and it’s not as if she’ll really be sitting around eating chocolate all day. What she gets to do now is housework and cooking and errands in peace and quiet.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 11:36     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To everybody saying relax it’s a joke and that she’s overreacting would be flipping their lives if a mother-in-law had said that.


This


I wouldn’t because she’d be right.


I wouldn't have said what OP said, and certainly not to my MIL. "Hey, MIL, it's so great that your son will keep going to work every day while I sit around the house with nothing to do!"


The neighbor's comment was not a joke. It was an attempt to shame a woman in front of her spouse and social community. It was misogynistic and inappropriate, and shame on those of you who think that it is ok or funny or those of you saying the OP was at fault. Let us please not promote this false narrative that SAHMs must be personally tending to their children at all the times of every day or they are somehow "less than" and worthy of public ridicule.

When I was SAH and put my kid in part day pre-school, my mother and my MIL said "do the five day option, not the three day option." Sorry your MIL is such a bitch and doesn't support your overall well-being.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 11:34     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.


This.
Also, stop musing on FB. It’s not your diary or journal.

I regret posting it and I’ve since deleted my account because I assessed my behavior and believe it’s desperate to post on FB. But he’s still a jerk who can’t stop wondering when I’m going to get a job.


I wonder when you are going to get a job too.

That also makes you a jerk. For everyone saying her status on fb is desperate, posting something like this on a message board is pretty pathetic too.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 11:04     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To everybody saying relax it’s a joke and that she’s overreacting would be flipping their lives if a mother-in-law had said that.


This


I wouldn’t because she’d be right.


I wouldn't have said what OP said, and certainly not to my MIL. "Hey, MIL, it's so great that your son will keep going to work every day while I sit around the house with nothing to do!"
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 10:35     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To everybody saying relax it’s a joke and that she’s overreacting would be flipping their lives if a mother-in-law had said that.


This


I wouldn’t because she’d be right.


Exactly what job do you think she can get from 9 AM to 1 PM weekdays that lets her be off when School is closed? there are not that many.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 10:19     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
I think the FB comments were a joke, although I'd be annoyed if he keeps bringing it up.

How do the kids get along? If my kid would enjoy having the other over for the afternoon, I would agree to do it for a day or two.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 10:14     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To everybody saying relax it’s a joke and that she’s overreacting would be flipping their lives if a mother-in-law had said that.


This


I wouldn’t because she’d be right.