I don’t understand the wall you’re putting up — as if it’s an absolute no-go. You have 6 months left working for him. I just don’t see why any of this is a deal-breaker. But, okay.

ha, I used to screw my boss....no regrets!

You are not practical, you are waaaay tooooo slooooooow
Don’t be silly, go get him.

Anonymous wrote:Where is this "homeland" of his?

It’s Alexander skarsgard. Go for it or send him my way!

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like the plot to half the Hallmark Christmas movies.

Let’s name it Troll City.

The whole dcum Nanny Forum is filled with this hypothetical fake drama. It’s like D grade Young Adult fake literature.

This is what i’d do. Play it safe for the next couple of months. Drop occasional hints about visiting Scandinavia after the kids get settled. In all honesty, you’ll want to keep in touch with the kids. Visit and see where’s things go.

To quote the great Ed Sheeran " people fall out in love in mysterious ways."

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Anonymous wrote:Where is this "homeland" of his?

Scandinavia. I don't want to be more specific than you that.

Where kids all born in US? Just trying gauge the likelihood of him returning for yrs again.

All were born in America, wife was American.

No he's not a prince. WTF?

I don't play the guitar. Can't sing, and the furthest thing from Catholic or religion in general.

Yes I'm still nannying at 38. I have a bachelor's degree and worn many hats in my life. I'm from a typical suburban middle class American background. I date. Though not recently and despite being a nanny I have always avoided men with kids.
We kissed. I enjoyed it, but realize it won't be happening again.

I truly don't believe he is trying to use his position as my boss to take advantage of me. I would not still be working for him if I did.

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Anonymous wrote:Where is this "homeland" of his?

Scandinavia. I don't want to be more specific than you that.

Go for it!!!
Do something and close the deal.

This is fake.

Anonymous wrote:In 6 months he/ they are moving back to his homeland and likely won't need a full time nanny.

Is he a prince of an unknown principality in Europe?

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Anonymous wrote:Where is this "homeland" of his?

Scandinavia. I don't want to be more specific than you that.

Where kids all born in US? Just trying gauge the likelihood of him returning for yrs again.

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Anonymous wrote:You are wasting your time
Do not date a guy with kids
Do not date a guy who is in love with a ghost

Date a guy who is in love with you
A for whom you are his first choice

This guy would not go for you if his wife was alive. You are not her and he is still in love with her, not you

He is just being lazy

This is the truth. He is lazy and doesn't want to enter the dating market. He wants a woman with no kids of her own, and most likely younger. There's also a unequal power dynamic here. Will his social set or family accept you? What happens to your relationship when the kids are grown. . . Unless you plan to get pregnant and keep your nanny status going.

She is low income, depends on him for salary
She is not his equal

Uh oh. Sounds like a triggered insecure DW. Don't worry I'm sure your husband isn't attracted to your nanny. Feel better now?

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like the plot to half the Hallmark Christmas movies.

This sounds like the Sound of Music.

Anonymous wrote:Where is this "homeland" of his?

Scandinavia. I don't want to be more specific than you that.