Anonymous wrote:I'm a bisexual woman who has been in polyamorous relationships previously. Stable triads and quads exist, but it's generally considered much more difficult and complicated than network polyamory, where you may live alone and have 2 boyfriends who are just friends or you may be married, but you and your wife each have other partners you see 2x a week.

My husband and I rarely have the same taste in other lovers, it would be unusual to find one person who felt that way about both of us and each or us loved in return.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and i literally spent the episode not caring about what house they picked but trying to understand what their deal was. We basically wondered who was shagging who.

We felt like the tall lady was super gay, though she said she was bi, then they got married and rather than have her leave him, he lets her swing- but this time she really connected with the chick. We didn’t really feel either chick was oriented toward him. We both thought the other chick must have bad self esteem, though we thought she was cute. We just couldn’t get what she was getting out of the situation.

Then we felt bad for the kids- in a private situation you can deal with questions but I would never have made such an unusual choice so public and wouldn’t have a allowed the kids to be filmed. Dealing with neighbours is one thing. Once you have kids it’s just not about you anymore, so they came off as narcissistic and clueless. Their daughter looked so miserable in their wedding photo so we felt sad for her and their son looked “eff yeah!” So we were LOLLing about that.

What was their house budget?

I'm just curious what three incomes buys.

NOT much! Max was 450 but they spent 525 and the house was just whatever.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and i literally spent the episode not caring about what house they picked but trying to understand what their deal was. We basically wondered who was shagging who.

We felt like the tall lady was super gay, though she said she was bi, then they got married and rather than have her leave him, he lets her swing- but this time she really connected with the chick. We didn’t really feel either chick was oriented toward him. We both thought the other chick must have bad self esteem, though we thought she was cute. We just couldn’t get what she was getting out of the situation.

Then we felt bad for the kids- in a private situation you can deal with questions but I would never have made such an unusual choice so public and wouldn’t have a allowed the kids to be filmed. Dealing with neighbours is one thing. Once you have kids it’s just not about you anymore, so they came off as narcissistic and clueless. Their daughter looked so miserable in their wedding photo so we felt sad for her and their son looked “eff yeah!” So we were LOLLing about that.

What was their house budget?

I'm just curious what three incomes buys.

Anonymous wrote:DH and i literally spent the episode not caring about what house they picked but trying to understand what their deal was. We basically wondered who was shagging who.

We felt like the tall lady was super gay, though she said she was bi, then they got married and rather than have her leave him, he lets her swing- but this time she really connected with the chick. We didn’t really feel either chick was oriented toward him. We both thought the other chick must have bad self esteem, though we thought she was cute. We just couldn’t get what she was getting out of the situation.

Then we felt bad for the kids- in a private situation you can deal with questions but I would never have made such an unusual choice so public and wouldn’t have a allowed the kids to be filmed. Dealing with neighbours is one thing. Once you have kids it’s just not about you anymore, so they came off as narcissistic and clueless. Their daughter looked so miserable in their wedding photo so we felt sad for her and their son looked “eff yeah!” So we were LOLLing about that.

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Anonymous wrote:Colorado Springs...maybe they are Mormon? I think I remember Colorado Springs being mentioned in multiple memoirs I have read that were written by former LDS women.

Some polygamists sects of Mormon culture practice multiple wives but the wives never share the same bed. I don't judge this throuple couple btw. If one man can be married to multiple women, why can't one person be in a committed relationship with several people?

At what point does that end? If you want to be married to 10 people at once, why bother getting "married" at all? It would basically render your marriages meaningless. You are only 1/10th committed to your spouses and their kids and never fully committed to anyone. It's very self serving.

A marriage is about being committed to the partner and any kids that results equally.

If you have 6 kids and 1 partner, aren't you by nature committing less to each individual person than someone who has 1 partner and only 1 kid?

I mean that's your argument isn't it?

Nope. You're not having sex with your kids...or hopefully you're not, since you can't tell the difference between being a spouse/being a parent.

You're the one who said you're committed to your kids. So you aren't committed to your kids then?

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Anonymous wrote:Holy crap there are still people who object to interracial marriage?

To think I got banned for a week for saying a certain deceased athlete was a rapist but that lady just here chilling.

It was a troll.

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Anonymous wrote:Colorado Springs...maybe they are Mormon? I think I remember Colorado Springs being mentioned in multiple memoirs I have read that were written by former LDS women.

Some polygamists sects of Mormon culture practice multiple wives but the wives never share the same bed. I don't judge this throuple couple btw. If one man can be married to multiple women, why can't one person be in a committed relationship with several people?

At what point does that end? If you want to be married to 10 people at once, why bother getting "married" at all? It would basically render your marriages meaningless. You are only 1/10th committed to your spouses and their kids and never fully committed to anyone. It's very self serving.

A marriage is about being committed to the partner and any kids that results equally.

If you have 6 kids and 1 partner, aren't you by nature committing less to each individual person than someone who has 1 partner and only 1 kid?

I mean that's your argument isn't it?

Nope. You're not having sex with your kids...or hopefully you're not, since you can't tell the difference between being a spouse/being a parent.

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Anonymous wrote:Colorado Springs...maybe they are Mormon? I think I remember Colorado Springs being mentioned in multiple memoirs I have read that were written by former LDS women.

Some polygamists sects of Mormon culture practice multiple wives but the wives never share the same bed. I don't judge this throuple couple btw. If one man can be married to multiple women, why can't one person be in a committed relationship with several people?

At what point does that end? If you want to be married to 10 people at once, why bother getting "married" at all? It would basically render your marriages meaningless. You are only 1/10th committed to your spouses and their kids and never fully committed to anyone. It's very self serving.

A marriage is about being committed to the partner and any kids that results equally.

If you have 6 kids and 1 partner, aren't you by nature committing less to each individual person than someone who has 1 partner and only 1 kid?

I mean that's your argument isn't it?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm just curious....

If we accept gay people as being ok because they love who they love and all that.
And we accept transgendered people because they were born in the wrong body, etc...


Why cant we accept polyamory? Is it for me? Absolutely not. But if 3 or more people consent and care about each other what does it really matter?

Being gay or whatever gender isn't a choice. Polyamory is definitely a choice. I don't need to "accept" or normalize your choice of who/how many people you sleep with or swing with any more than you need to accept my bad poetry into your poetry journal. If you choose to be polyamorous, own it and stop looking for others to validate your choices or agree with you so that you can feel accepted by society for your choices. And I say this as the poster upthread who mentioned the disastrous love quadrangle that involved buying/selling a house together, as well as the introduction of babies born into this mess (who are coincidentally being raised as genderless) and then the faux divorce and dissolution of the quadrangle.

Doesn't change the fact that being gay or gender binary was illegal for much of the last century (as in you could be locked up for buggery) and only in the last five years was actually recognized as a valid legal act of marriage.

It's still illegal to be openly transgender in the military.

https://www.thenation.com/article/archive/trans-military-dadt/

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/04/10/magazine/lgbt-military-army.html

Polygamy is a different thing entirely than being gay or gay marriage. Polygamy has historically been used to exploit, coerce, and abuse woman and girls. If polygamy becomes legal here, the consequences will be similar to basically every culture where polygamy is considered socially and legally acceptable. It is bad for women.

Polygamy based on religious pre-cepts (see Mormonism and Islam) has been used to exploit, coerce, and abuse women and girls.

As far as I can tell this is a polyamorist throuple who have an equal and balanced relationship and its not just about the man having sex with two women since everyone is into everyone else.

A good example of this

But you can't make plural marriage legal or socially acceptable and then tell religious people they can't have 4 wives. If we accept throuples and multiple marriages, we have to accept polygyny too, and the result will have negative consequences for many women.