Anonymous
Post 01/27/2020 00:49     Subject: Re:Husband's request
I was shocked when I read this and told my husband last night. I said “can you imagine...” He said it’s disrespectful and unacceptable the way it was asked, but he could imagine a situation - especially if one’s relationship has been struggling - where being reminded of the good / value you each bring to the relationship would have its place. Not asked like that though!
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2020 20:23     Subject: Re:Husband's request
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Man here - your husband has brass balls. I am curious as to what his job is because the question is so cold, consulting-like. I’m pretty much an alpha male but I can’t fathom asking my wife that question given I know she’d give me a death stare and then rip me another butt hole. I make many multiples of my wife but I could never do what I do without her at my side.


Or a mental disorder rending him incapable of emotions, empathy or connecting with others.


I actually thought he might have Aspergers.

That said, line up a good divorce attorney.

In the meantime, do not respond and if he asks, laugh it off.

Counseling tends to make narcissists and spaths worse. The couples counselor focuses on the only party likely to change (and your DH is not it) and it can actually make the dynamic worse imhe.

Warning: he likely has someone else and may really fight for custody to play happy families with his next victim. Get a good lawyer. Narcissists split, you are on a pedestal, until they swing to contempt. Protect yourself.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2020 19:13     Subject: Re:Husband's request
Anonymous wrote:
'It's an ongoing issue. Things have been rocky for a while. We are in therapy but it's not really helping.'

With a HHI of $700,000, how can you have any problems?

? Have you never heard of the saying "Money doesn't buy happiness"? It buys comfort but not happiness.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2020 18:29     Subject: Re:Husband's request

'It's an ongoing issue. Things have been rocky for a while. We are in therapy but it's not really helping.'

With a HHI of $700,000, how can you have any problems?
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2020 17:21     Subject: Husband's request
Anonymous wrote:Your marriage is over.

It was insulting. He doesn't respect you or anything you bring to the table, with a question like that.

Get to the lawyer before he does. Protect your assets.


+100
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2020 17:03     Subject: Re:Husband's request
Anonymous wrote:What ethnic background is this fool? The reason why I’m asking is a close friend of mine’s husband asked the same question, but even worse, out-sourced the question to his mother. The MIL emailed my friend about 1 month after she gave birth and asked the same question. She said a good Korean wife would be able to take care of baby AND meet husband’s needs. They are divorced now, but had a nasty battle. I’m also Asian and have noticed this could be cultural and generational. Not an excuse for such disrespect though.

I agree with everyone who says don’t answer the question and look into divorce and protecting yourself and the kids financially and emotionally.

I am Korean, and if this happened to me, in the words of a previous poster, I'd rip him another butthole. Good for your friend for divorcing him. IMO, this kind of attitude, though, isn't just all of a sudden. These types of guys show misogynistic selfish tendencies from earlier on. Some women like that alpha male, high earner, but some of those men are selfish pr*cks from the get go.