Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 18:33     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.


They were on display. Would you go to someone else’s house and “tidy up” a finished puzzle? The equivalent for an adult would be more than a 1000 piece puzzle.

Learn to respect other people’s efforts.


It's just her daughter's house. It's not like it's her husband's boss's house. And once you've completed a puzzle, there's nothing left to do after you admire it for five seconds. It'd be fine with me if someone took it apart. Toys are meant to be played with. Not set on a shelf and admired from afar.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 18:32     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.


How old are your kids?


6, 7.5, 9, and 11. Not sure how their ages are relevant though.


Your post comes off as someone who doesn’t have kids.
If you read the posts on the first page, you’ll see that the grandmother got defensive right away and blamed the kid, even though the Legos were set aside and not in the way of anything. THAT was the big deal here. OP wouldn’t have posted had her mom just owned it, apologized and helped to fix it. Instead the grandmother doubled down.


Yeah, I read the first page. I still maintain the grandma had good intentions and was trying to help by cleaning up toys. If my kids want something left out/alone, they need to put a note near/on it. Someone else may need the space, or the supplies, or not realize the importance to the creator, etc. So it seems totally reasonable to me.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 18:31     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.


They were on display. Would you go to someone else’s house and “tidy up” a finished puzzle? The equivalent for an adult would be more than a 1000 piece puzzle.

Learn to respect other people’s efforts.


Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 18:28     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.


How old are your kids?


6, 7.5, 9, and 11. Not sure how their ages are relevant though.


Your post comes off as someone who doesn’t have kids.
If you read the posts on the first page, you’ll see that the grandmother got defensive right away and blamed the kid, even though the Legos were set aside and not in the way of anything. THAT was the big deal here. OP wouldn’t have posted had her mom just owned it, apologized and helped to fix it. Instead the grandmother doubled down.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 18:23     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.


How old are your kids?


6, 7.5, 9, and 11. Not sure how their ages are relevant though.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 18:18     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’d speak to my mother and if she continued this attitude, I’d tell her to leave. No-one comes into our home gets to treat my children this way; not even parents.


Wish I'd had a mom like you.


Aw. Sending hugs. I’m this way because my parents never stood up for my siblings and me.


Yeah. I feel like this it wasn't "a thing" when a lot of us were kids. I would have been somehow blamed for this and the grandmother defended at all costs. It's nice to see better.


Yes, it's called respecting adults. It's not a thing anymore. Sometimes for the better, usually for the worse.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 18:07     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.



Saying sorry would just be the start. You don't mess with stuff that does not belong to you in someone else's home. Saying sorry is empty words. She needs to set things right by sitting with him and taking the time to sort kits out again.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 18:05     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’d speak to my mother and if she continued this attitude, I’d tell her to leave. No-one comes into our home gets to treat my children this way; not even parents.


Wish I'd had a mom like you.


Aw. Sending hugs. I’m this way because my parents never stood up for my siblings and me.


Yeah. I feel like this it wasn't "a thing" when a lot of us were kids. I would have been somehow blamed for this and the grandmother defended at all costs. It's nice to see better.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 17:55     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.


How old are your kids?
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 17:52     Subject: Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is like throwing away a favorite lovey.

I left my favorite lovey on the seat at a restaurant when I was 6 and my grandpa wouldn't let me go back inside to retrieve it (we were in the parking lot, so not far away). I cried myself to sleep for weeks missing that lovey. It still hurts a little. Nothing else from childhood effected me the way that did. It's the only thing i think of when people talk about my grandpa.


This makes me want to cry.


My greatest parenting moment ever was going back to a hotel in Vegas to get ds’s lovey. The look on his face as we stood at the car and he realized it wasn’t with him got to me. It was a Herculean effort that involved a 10-minute walk back to the hotel, giving a credit card to get the room key back, and showing up at the wrong entrance to the hotel while spouse and kids were waiting in the car at a different entrance. It was a huge hotel with 2 entrances. We made it to our flight just in time.

He was very appreciative. Years later, I don’t hesitate to play that card when I need to.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 17:49     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 17:44     Subject: Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
Anonymous wrote:My parents are staying this week and this morning I hear my son 6 start crying(he isn’t a crier.) Before anyone woke up she decided to “clean” the playroom” and took apart all of sons LEGO sets and mixed them together. When she saw how upset he was, she scolded him for not cleaning them up. He was mostly upset about the brand new Minecraft legos that he got for Christmas that he has worked for days on. They were on a kid table, so they certainly weren’t in her way, I can’t figure out why she felt the need to take apart already put together legos. Wasn’t like it was a bunch of scattered legos on the floor.


Your mom has emotional problems. If being cruel to a 6 year old is an emotional problem. Some would call it something else.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 17:42     Subject: Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
I just looked up LEGO creations. It’s pretty obvious that they are a lot of work especially for a child. Especially if it’s one you got for Christmas and showed your mom. Granny seems jealous and vindictive.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 17:24     Subject: Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
Anonymous wrote:This is like throwing away a favorite lovey.

I left my favorite lovey on the seat at a restaurant when I was 6 and my grandpa wouldn't let me go back inside to retrieve it (we were in the parking lot, so not far away). I cried myself to sleep for weeks missing that lovey. It still hurts a little. Nothing else from childhood effected me the way that did. It's the only thing i think of when people talk about my grandpa.


This makes me want to cry.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 17:08     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
My son would have been devastated. I feel so bad for your little boy.

I wouldn’t know how to separate the pieces and doubt he, at six, would.