Anonymous
12/10/2019 22:59
Subject: Re:Men only want one thing
Sex seemed like such a small part of the marriage until my wife lost interest. Now it's the black cloud over the marriage. For those who see it as a trivial or only semi important factor, wait till your marriage goes cold then come chime in here.
Anonymous
12/10/2019 22:34
Subject: Re:Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not sure why so many women here are struggling with the logical concept of "necessary but not sufficient".
Men regard sex as necessary to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: so do women).
Men do not regard sex as sufficient to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: neither do women).
No, men don't "only" want sex - they want other things too - but they think it is necessary, and if you take it away, the marriage will fall apart.
Not really struggling. Just summarizing. Sex is the most important thing. Other things like work, food, alcohol, kids can be important. Women should prioritize sex over any other item for happy relationship. Men may be more forgiving if women don’t do those other things if sex is good.
This is what men and women need to teach their daughters based on many of the threads on this board.
Man here. Guilty as charged. Sex is THE most important thing to me and my gender. Yes, Teach your daughters and the world will be a happier place, divorce rates will plummet.
So you seem angry. Tell me what in here isn’t a summary of what you read on here. If women disagree on how it should be, we are told that we are clueless and don’t see the reality. The other cheating thread has many men indicating that most UMC men will cheat on their wives because of opportunity. So this is what women on here hear all the time. Are you upset because it’s true or because it isn’t true?
Anonymous
12/10/2019 22:18
Subject: Men only want one thing
I asked H. He said he wanted a best friend with a v that could cook.
Anonymous
12/10/2019 22:17
Subject: Re:Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:^LOL. This is the education that girls should get about men. Not sure if men will agree but what I’m reading on here.
And what education should boys get about women?
The truth? Work hard, be a good kisser, smell nice. Beyond that- Just nod and smile, plead ignorance if you get in a bind. Your wife will handle everything anyway!
Anonymous
12/10/2019 22:14
Subject: Re:Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not sure why so many women here are struggling with the logical concept of "necessary but not sufficient".
Men regard sex as necessary to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: so do women).
Men do not regard sex as sufficient to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: neither do women).
No, men don't "only" want sex - they want other things too - but they think it is necessary, and if you take it away, the marriage will fall apart.
Not really struggling. Just summarizing. Sex is the most important thing. Other things like work, food, alcohol, kids can be important. Women should prioritize sex over any other item for happy relationship. Men may be more forgiving if women don’t do those other things if sex is good.
This is what men and women need to teach their daughters based on many of the threads on this board.
Man here. Guilty as charged. Sex is THE most important thing to me and my gender. Yes, Teach your daughters and the world will be a happier place, divorce rates will plummet.
Oh I think most women know this but will never truly understand. For most women, the kids would rank as most important. At least that is putting someone else first. But sex first...seems very selfish. Important sure but first? No, women will never truly understand that, no.
Anonymous
12/10/2019 22:13
Subject: Re:Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:^LOL. This is the education that girls should get about men. Not sure if men will agree but what I’m reading on here.
And what education should boys get about women?
Anonymous
12/10/2019 22:10
Subject: Re:Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes for men sex is most important by far. After that general companionship and what they want there varies by the guy. They really don’t care that much about kids and expect the wife to take care of that- particularly the day to day- but would never admit it out loud. I’ve yet to meet a man who truly cares about household matters beyond not pissing his wife off. For women this list is basically reversed (with kids as #1) and voila- the reason so many people are unhappily married.
short... succinct... and on point. End thread.
-signed a woman, married about 20 years, two kids.
So....you're ok with a guy that doesn't "care that much about kids"???
My DH cares a lot about me and our kids.
NP here. I am pretty sure my husband would die for our kids, but he isn’t really invested in their day to day. More like George Bailey than Atticus Finch.
exactly.
Of course my DH loves and cares for our kids, but he just doesn't care about day to day stuff as much. He does it because he knows I care about it. How many dads do you think research daycares and summer camps. I did all of it, and he has very little opinion about what summer camp our kids should go to.
Also, I bet most men don't really care if they have kids or not. Many go along with it because that's what the woman wants. IMO, most men would probably be happy not having kids so that they don't have to be responsible for anyone but themselves.
+2. Yes exactly. My DH loves our kids but is not invested in the day to day really. He would have been totally fine not having kids. I think a lot of men are this way.
Anonymous
12/10/2019 21:54
Subject: Re:Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not sure why so many women here are struggling with the logical concept of "necessary but not sufficient".
Men regard sex as necessary to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: so do women).
Men do not regard sex as sufficient to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: neither do women).
No, men don't "only" want sex - they want other things too - but they think it is necessary, and if you take it away, the marriage will fall apart.
Not really struggling. Just summarizing. Sex is the most important thing. Other things like work, food, alcohol, kids can be important. Women should prioritize sex over any other item for happy relationship. Men may be more forgiving if women don’t do those other things if sex is good.
This is what men and women need to teach their daughters based on many of the threads on this board.
Man here. Guilty as charged. Sex is THE most important thing to me and my gender. Yes, Teach your daughters and the world will be a happier place, divorce rates will plummet.
Anonymous
12/10/2019 20:13
Subject: Re:Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not sure why so many women here are struggling with the logical concept of "necessary but not sufficient".
Men regard sex as necessary to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: so do women).
Men do not regard sex as sufficient to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: neither do women).
No, men don't "only" want sex - they want other things too - but they think it is necessary, and if you take it away, the marriage will fall apart.
Not really struggling. Just summarizing. Sex is the most important thing. Other things like work, food, alcohol, kids can be important. Women should prioritize sex over any other item for happy relationship. Men may be more forgiving if women don’t do those other things if sex is good.
This is what men and women need to teach their daughters based on many of the threads on this board.
One more thing to add to this summary from that other thread on cheating rates: majority of UMC men will cheat over their lifetime just because they can.
That’s the summary from reading what men post here.
Except you’re pretending people aren’t quoting stats under 50%. So you’re lying.
I think so many men were making the case that people who believe cheating rates are lower than 50% are delusional. We are wives who are being blind.
Anonymous
12/10/2019 19:52
Subject: Re:Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:Not sure why so many women here are struggling with the logical concept of "necessary but not sufficient".
Men regard sex as necessary to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: so do women).
Men do not regard sex as sufficient to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: neither do women).
No, men don't "only" want sex - they want other things too - but they think it is necessary, and if you take it away, the marriage will fall apart.
+1
Anonymous
12/10/2019 19:20
Subject: Re:Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not sure why so many women here are struggling with the logical concept of "necessary but not sufficient".
Men regard sex as necessary to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: so do women).
Men do not regard sex as sufficient to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: neither do women).
No, men don't "only" want sex - they want other things too - but they think it is necessary, and if you take it away, the marriage will fall apart.
Not really struggling. Just summarizing. Sex is the most important thing. Other things like work, food, alcohol, kids can be important. Women should prioritize sex over any other item for happy relationship. Men may be more forgiving if women don’t do those other things if sex is good.
This is what men and women need to teach their daughters based on many of the threads on this board.
One more thing to add to this summary from that other thread on cheating rates: majority of UMC men will cheat over their lifetime just because they can.
That’s the summary from reading what men post here.
Except you’re pretending people aren’t quoting stats under 50%. So you’re lying.
Anonymous
12/10/2019 19:19
Subject: Re:Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes for men sex is most important by far. After that general companionship and what they want there varies by the guy. They really don’t care that much about kids and expect the wife to take care of that- particularly the day to day- but would never admit it out loud. I’ve yet to meet a man who truly cares about household matters beyond not pissing his wife off. For women this list is basically reversed (with kids as #1) and voila- the reason so many people are unhappily married.
short... succinct... and on point. End thread.
-signed a woman, married about 20 years, two kids.
So....you're ok with a guy that doesn't "care that much about kids"???
My DH cares a lot about me and our kids.
NP here. I am pretty sure my husband would die for our kids, but he isn’t really invested in their day to day. More like George Bailey than Atticus Finch.
exactly.
Of course my DH loves and cares for our kids, but he just doesn't care about day to day stuff as much. He does it because he knows I care about it. How many dads do you think research daycares and summer camps. I did all of it, and he has very little opinion about what summer camp our kids should go to.
Also, I bet most men don't really care if they have kids or not. Many go along with it because that's what the woman wants. IMO, most men would probably be happy not having kids so that they don't have to be responsible for anyone but themselves.
Anonymous
12/10/2019 19:06
Subject: Re:Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not sure why so many women here are struggling with the logical concept of "necessary but not sufficient".
Men regard sex as necessary to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: so do women).
Men do not regard sex as sufficient to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: neither do women).
No, men don't "only" want sex - they want other things too - but they think it is necessary, and if you take it away, the marriage will fall apart.
Not really struggling. Just summarizing. Sex is the most important thing. Other things like work, food, alcohol, kids can be important. Women should prioritize sex over any other item for happy relationship. Men may be more forgiving if women don’t do those other things if sex is good.
This is what men and women need to teach their daughters based on many of the threads on this board.
One more thing to add to this summary from that other thread on cheating rates: majority of UMC men will cheat over their lifetime just because they can.
That’s the summary from reading what men post here.
Anonymous
12/10/2019 19:05
Subject: Re:Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes for men sex is most important by far. After that general companionship and what they want there varies by the guy. They really don’t care that much about kids and expect the wife to take care of that- particularly the day to day- but would never admit it out loud. I’ve yet to meet a man who truly cares about household matters beyond not pissing his wife off. For women this list is basically reversed (with kids as #1) and voila- the reason so many people are unhappily married.
short... succinct... and on point. End thread.
-signed a woman, married about 20 years, two kids.
So....you're ok with a guy that doesn't "care that much about kids"???
My DH cares a lot about me and our kids.
NP here. I am pretty sure my husband would die for our kids, but he isn’t really invested in their day to day. More like George Bailey than Atticus Finch.
Anonymous
12/10/2019 18:25
Subject: Re:Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I want an exclusive, serious relationship with a woman. And I want lots of sex in that relationship.
So it’s mainly about sex as OP asked?
I want a women that will spread her legs with glee!