Anonymous
Post 12/02/2019 10:08     Subject: Awkward situation with nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don't pay her in cash anymore. No more confusion.

If my employer overpaid me it would come off my next cheque. What makes people think a nanny should be different?

Does anybody here get a "Thanksgiving bonus"?



Are you a household employee who gets paid under the table in cash? If not, the comparison is irrelevant. Sit down.


Why do you think the Nanny should get to keep money she isn't entitled to? Because she chooses to be paid under the table? (Op wasn't smart to agree to that)

What about a minimum wage worker... maybe a waitress. Should they get to keep money paid in error? They don't make much.


If a patron overpaid me, I would assume it was a tip. They wouldn't have a leg to stand on to come back to the restaurant later and ask for their money back. Sorry, babe.
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2019 08:36     Subject: Awkward situation with nanny
Well, for anyone who wants to know how the saga ends. Nanny came in this morning as usual and I told her I am sorry for the confusion and we don’t want to make an issue over $60, so I handed it to her in cash. She said thanks and took the money and hopefully that’s that. I think a part of me was thinking she would not accept it since it clearly was a mistake in the first place, but guess not.
n.walker
Post 12/01/2019 22:25     Subject: Awkward situation with nanny
I get the nanny's reaction. I'd have thought it was a bonus.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2019 17:45     Subject: Awkward situation with nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don't pay her in cash anymore. No more confusion.

If my employer overpaid me it would come off my next cheque. What makes people think a nanny should be different?

Does anybody here get a "Thanksgiving bonus"?



Are you a household employee who gets paid under the table in cash? If not, the comparison is irrelevant. Sit down.


Why do you think the Nanny should get to keep money she isn't entitled to? Because she chooses to be paid under the table? (Op wasn't smart to agree to that)

What about a minimum wage worker... maybe a waitress. Should they get to keep money paid in error? They don't make much.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2019 17:33     Subject: Awkward situation with nanny
Anonymous wrote:Don't pay her in cash anymore. No more confusion.

If my employer overpaid me it would come off my next cheque. What makes people think a nanny should be different?

Does anybody here get a "Thanksgiving bonus"?



Are you a household employee who gets paid under the table in cash? If not, the comparison is irrelevant. Sit down.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2019 17:32     Subject: Awkward situation with nanny
Don't pay her in cash anymore. No more confusion.

If my employer overpaid me it would come off my next cheque. What makes people think a nanny should be different?

Does anybody here get a "Thanksgiving bonus"?

Anonymous
Post 12/01/2019 17:07     Subject: Awkward situation with nanny
OP, people are tough with you. You were honest, I don't get the nanny's reaction at all.

Nanny.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2019 10:17     Subject: Awkward situation with nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wonder how many of these holier-than-thou posters are paying under the table IRL.


You’re a moron to do this.

My friend did and it cost her a pretty penny. The nanny fell down the stairs and broke her wrist in two places and required surgery. She had paid her under the table to avoid taxes and all the “messy” things that come with hiring help. The nanny had to go to the ER by ambulance, which was called by my friend’s son. The ER worked it up as an employer compensation case and then learned she had none. Because of the way she was classified when she came in, the nanny’s insurance wouldn’t pay for her care since her injury happened at work. My friend ended up having to pay out of pocket plus got investigated.


Cool story bro. Not believable “a pretty penny” LOL
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2019 10:12     Subject: Awkward situation with nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:People are being harsh and frankly none of them could afford a nanny in the first place.
This is a very awkward situation. You are a generous employer and she hasn’t worked there long. That she “forgot” you overpaid her is a bit concerning. I would be firm and explain but I don’t know the future of this relationship.



Oh, please. You are as ridiculous as OP. I, and other posters, employ nannies.

I’m sure you do. Not.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2019 10:02     Subject: Awkward situation with nanny
I can’t believe you’re making a big deal like this over sixty dollars.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2019 10:02     Subject: Awkward situation with nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would have just let her keep the $60 and never mentioned it.


+1

It was your error. Be more careful next time.


Tritto
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2019 10:00     Subject: Awkward situation with nanny
Anonymous wrote:People are being harsh and frankly none of them could afford a nanny in the first place.
This is a very awkward situation. You are a generous employer and she hasn’t worked there long. That she “forgot” you overpaid her is a bit concerning. I would be firm and explain but I don’t know the future of this relationship.


What do you mean? Tons of people here have nannies and almost everyone withholds and pays their employer taxes.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2019 09:50     Subject: Awkward situation with nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am the PP who overpaid my nanny about $200 (a day's pay). I'm curious what they would say about my situation. Is $200 enough to NOT overlook? (And two weeks into employment to boot.) How much is too much to overlook? $60 may be a lot to the OP.


I would say you are fairly ignorant as you cannot count. There is a huge difference in overpaying $60 to $200! I also hope all of you who cheat your nanny by paying in cash/hiring undocumented person get caught and pay a huge price.


Yeah, that’s exactly my question. How much is too much to overlook?
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2019 08:46     Subject: Awkward situation with nanny
Anonymous wrote:I am the PP who overpaid my nanny about $200 (a day's pay). I'm curious what they would say about my situation. Is $200 enough to NOT overlook? (And two weeks into employment to boot.) How much is too much to overlook? $60 may be a lot to the OP.


I would say you are fairly ignorant as you cannot count. There is a huge difference in overpaying $60 to $200! I also hope all of you who cheat your nanny by paying in cash/hiring undocumented person get caught and pay a huge price.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2019 21:47     Subject: Awkward situation with nanny
She is t dishonest or trying to cheat you. She thought you were over paying to be nice. This isn’t uncommon for people to do for babysitters so she likely has had the experience before when she babysat and was just applying here to her nanny situation.