Anonymous
Post 09/24/2019 21:45     Subject: Ugh ..AP is not a downgrade
This conversation went south super quick.

Op I hope you’ve tapped out of this thread by now.

You know what you need to do honey.

Hugs.

BTW, she’s not an upgrade.

Anonymous
Post 09/24/2019 20:45     Subject: Re:Ugh ..AP is not a downgrade
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That dating woman knew he was married that's why she was judged the way she was. Big difference between a home wrecker, and a DW that is cheated upon.


I'll refer you back to the earlier comment:

"Either he didn’t mislead her and she’s a whore, or he did and she’s dumb as a box of rocks and a whore."

You are not responding to the conversation we are having, but to some other one which has emotional impact for you. I'm honestly sorry if you were cheated on. If it was done with full knowledge of everyone involved, then yes, there are multiple people at fault.

But again, that is your conversation, not the one at hand.

If women who are duped by a man are "dumb as a box of rocks," then all of them duped by a man are. I don't agree with that myself.


She was dumb for dating a married guy without confirming he was even separated. Probably because she didn't care which also puts in the the second category. That is how I view it. BTW I wasn't the original poster who posted the whore and box of rocks post. Seems there's 2 you are confusing.


I'm not confusing you. You responded to a question in an ongoing conversation, but you were not taking into account what had already been discussed. It's not a big deal, but I wasn't attributing your words to anyone else -- I was pointing to the thread above, which was the conversation I quoted in my post.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2019 20:19     Subject: Re:Ugh ..AP is not a downgrade
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That dating woman knew he was married that's why she was judged the way she was. Big difference between a home wrecker, and a DW that is cheated upon.


I'll refer you back to the earlier comment:

"Either he didn’t mislead her and she’s a whore, or he did and she’s dumb as a box of rocks and a whore."

You are not responding to the conversation we are having, but to some other one which has emotional impact for you. I'm honestly sorry if you were cheated on. If it was done with full knowledge of everyone involved, then yes, there are multiple people at fault.

But again, that is your conversation, not the one at hand.

If women who are duped by a man are "dumb as a box of rocks," then all of them duped by a man are. I don't agree with that myself.


She was dumb for dating a married guy without confirming he was even separated. Probably because she didn't care which also puts in the the second category. That is how I view it. BTW I wasn't the original poster who posted the whore and box of rocks post. Seems there's 2 you are confusing.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2019 20:12     Subject: Ugh ..AP is not a downgrade
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s so pathetic how everyone is jumping on the OW and not
OP’s husband. Maybe he told her they were separated or divorcing. We have no idea what her perception of his marital status was. HE is the cheater yet here you all go slamming the woman he may have duped and misled as well.


Either he didn’t mislead her and she’s a whore, or he did and she’s dumb as a box of rocks and a whore.

Someone who can’t pull together enough facts over a period of time to realize they’re a side piece isn’t some wonderful catch either.


And yet she's not the one who married the guy, much less (often) had kids with him. What does that say about the wife?


That she's a poor judge of character who attracts garbage humans.


Exactly!

Cheaters target people who they perceive won't catch on, or will tolerate their abuse.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2019 18:13     Subject: Ugh ..AP is not a downgrade
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Interesting that when the wife misjudges the man's character, it doesn't reflect on her, but if a dating woman misjudges the man's character (and believes him if he lies), "she’s dumb as a box of rocks and a whore." Double standard.

That says a lot about the people making the judgements.


PS: I've never had an affair myself, though I have been married. I haven't been cheated on that I know of, though my husband was encouraging an emotional affair with a co-worker. We divorced primarily for other reasons.

I just dislike hypocrisy when I read it.


Thank you.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2019 17:17     Subject: Re:Ugh ..AP is not a downgrade
Anonymous wrote:That dating woman knew he was married that's why she was judged the way she was. Big difference between a home wrecker, and a DW that is cheated upon.


I'll refer you back to the earlier comment:

"Either he didn’t mislead her and she’s a whore, or he did and she’s dumb as a box of rocks and a whore."

You are not responding to the conversation we are having, but to some other one which has emotional impact for you. I'm honestly sorry if you were cheated on. If it was done with full knowledge of everyone involved, then yes, there are multiple people at fault.

But again, that is your conversation, not the one at hand.

If women who are duped by a man are "dumb as a box of rocks," then all of them duped by a man are. I don't agree with that myself.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2019 17:08     Subject: Ugh ..AP is not a downgrade
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s so pathetic how everyone is jumping on the OW and not
OP’s husband. Maybe he told her they were separated or divorcing. We have no idea what her perception of his marital status was. HE is the cheater yet here you all go slamming the woman he may have duped and misled as well.


Either he didn’t mislead her and she’s a whore, or he did and she’s dumb as a box of rocks and a whore.

Someone who can’t pull together enough facts over a period of time to realize they’re a side piece isn’t some wonderful catch either.


And yet she's not the one who married the guy, much less (often) had kids with him. What does that say about the wife?


That she's a poor judge of character who attracts garbage humans.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2019 17:07     Subject: Re:Ugh ..AP is not a downgrade
That dating woman knew he was married that's why she was judged the way she was. Big difference between a home wrecker, and a DW that is cheated upon.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2019 17:05     Subject: Ugh ..AP is not a downgrade
Anonymous wrote:Interesting that when the wife misjudges the man's character, it doesn't reflect on her, but if a dating woman misjudges the man's character (and believes him if he lies), "she’s dumb as a box of rocks and a whore." Double standard.

That says a lot about the people making the judgements.


PS: I've never had an affair myself, though I have been married. I haven't been cheated on that I know of, though my husband was encouraging an emotional affair with a co-worker. We divorced primarily for other reasons.

I just dislike hypocrisy when I read it.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2019 17:01     Subject: Ugh ..AP is not a downgrade
Interesting that when the wife misjudges the man's character, it doesn't reflect on her, but if a dating woman misjudges the man's character (and believes him if he lies), "she’s dumb as a box of rocks and a whore." Double standard.

That says a lot about the people making the judgements.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2019 16:54     Subject: Ugh ..AP is not a downgrade
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s so pathetic how everyone is jumping on the OW and not
OP’s husband. Maybe he told her they were separated or divorcing. We have no idea what her perception of his marital status was. HE is the cheater yet here you all go slamming the woman he may have duped and misled as well.


Either he didn’t mislead her and she’s a whore, or he did and she’s dumb as a box of rocks and a whore.

Someone who can’t pull together enough facts over a period of time to realize they’re a side piece isn’t some wonderful catch either.


And yet she's not the one who married the guy, much less (often) had kids with him. What does that say about the wife?


It only says she misjudged his character, otherwise she didn't do anything wrong. Would you say that about the women men kill. Did Chris Watt's wife deserve to be called names for marrying a horrible family annihilator? A lot of good people are fooled by sociopaths. No news there.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2019 14:22     Subject: Ugh ..AP is not a downgrade
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s so pathetic how everyone is jumping on the OW and not
OP’s husband. Maybe he told her they were separated or divorcing. We have no idea what her perception of his marital status was. HE is the cheater yet here you all go slamming the woman he may have duped and misled as well.


Either he didn’t mislead her and she’s a whore, or he did and she’s dumb as a box of rocks and a whore.

Someone who can’t pull together enough facts over a period of time to realize they’re a side piece isn’t some wonderful catch either.


And yet she's not the one who married the guy, much less (often) had kids with him. What does that say about the wife?


That she's the only non-POS in the triangle.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2019 14:18     Subject: Ugh ..AP is not a downgrade
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s so pathetic how everyone is jumping on the OW and not
OP’s husband. Maybe he told her they were separated or divorcing. We have no idea what her perception of his marital status was. HE is the cheater yet here you all go slamming the woman he may have duped and misled as well.


Either he didn’t mislead her and she’s a whore, or he did and she’s dumb as a box of rocks and a whore.

Someone who can’t pull together enough facts over a period of time to realize they’re a side piece isn’t some wonderful catch either.


And yet she's not the one who married the guy, much less (often) had kids with him. What does that say about the wife?