Anonymous
09/09/2019 16:33
Subject: If you’re a stay at home mom do you get any breaks?
Anonymous wrote:OP was asking for tips after a long week. If you don’t SAH you may not be the best person to give advice.
Many of the replies WERE from SAHM's, including me. Preschool WAS my break and I never had as many preschool hours as OP. It worked for me. That's what being a SAHM is. Maybe its not as glamorous and fun as OP hoped, but that's the reality of it. If I were even half as miserable as she is I would have gone back to work in a nanosecond. I'm actually really worried about her - she does not sound in a good place.
Anonymous
09/09/2019 16:30
Subject: Re:If you’re a stay at home mom do you get any breaks?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.
OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.
Everyone has medical appointments and sickness and car trouble.
I can’t imagine you were actually talking on the phone the whole day to doctors — probably on hold? So put phone on speaker and fire up Netflix or what not.
Honestly, I think you should look into seeing a doctor yourself; your level of exhaustion and distress to your situation warrants evaluation.
It’s a special needs situation which is why so many phone calls and paperwork. Your level of being a b*tch deserves self reflection.
I understood it was special needs. From my experience with our therapists they don’t run sessions over the phone. So you were literally speaking with doctors for hours over the phone? Please recommend your doctors since ours only talk at length in session. Paperwork — I would actually bug your DH to do some of that while waiting at airport or in hotel after work.
I wasn’t trying to be critical; I was sincere that it sounds like you need some self-care. If I wanted to be snarky I would add anger management, dear.
Ok. Let’s take today for instance. I call his normal pediatrician and let them know I need a certain record for the dev pediatrician. This is at 9am and after several times contacting with no calls back. They assure me that they have not received the full report I need. I can’t get a call back from the actual OT that came to our house so I go to the staffing company that organizes this, based on the address in their website. They have moved and it is an empty office in a complex. I then call the main line of staffing and finally get through and the call cuts out. I wait 30 min just to see if they call back. I finally get a call from the out of state main office and they give me the same address that they are no longer at. It was never updated with the new regional office. They insist my normal pedi has the test results. I call back pedi and after waiting on hold and asking them to double check and insist they may have the full report they see they yes they do. Now I will spend another hour going in person to get it because none of them can be relied on to get that to me and I need to sign patient release. Now I need to call insurance and verify that the testing he needs done is covered by insurance. It is supposed to be a 5 day wait since the OT submitted but it has actually been over a month. Well it turns out that OT didn’t submit until Friday and sat on it for that long. So what should have been 5-10 min of time actually does require multiple calls and going over to the physical location. And while in theory it sounds great to bug my DH to do it he doesn’t go to 99 percent of these appointments so he’s not familiar with the multiple providers and information to fill out.
Now imagine having to deal with all of that and also pull in a paycheck to help support your family. Get a damn babysitter with all your money and get over yourself. Also, going to the OT staffing address was a complete waste of your time, and I hope you didn't actually do that and are just exaggerating. If its this much work to get a piece of paper from your regular pediatrician you need a new one. Same with your OT. Usually companies that provide the testing with get the authorization for you. You are not being smart with your time which is why you feel like you don't have any.
And what does that have to do with it? You’ve managed to turn this into some mommy martyr drama and all I asked is if anyone else was in a similar situation and struggling with this season of parenting and had any advice since going back to work is extremely challenging due to my husbands work travel and no family nearby. Get over yourself. I could say some stuff about my own life right now that would shut you up real fast. There’s more possibilities to issues in life than financial.. you understand that right? It’s not all about money. and I’m sorry you’re not “DC rich” .. you’re bitterness over this is coming through loud and clear. I am so sorry your family needs you to work so you can go on that trip to Europe and pay your fancy gym bill. Life is tough for you, tell me more. It must be hard to go to the office everyday and have to pull in that paycheck and have time from your cushy office to be on an internet forum arguing with someone else to check their privilege.
You sound completely unhinged OP. Before getting your child’s special needs addressed, I’d recommend therapy and possibly medication for you. The world is not out to get you. You know how the saying goes, “Put your own oxygen mask on first.”
+1. OP sounds terrible. I can’t imagine even thinking these things.
OP you don’t sound remotely kind. I can’t imagine that your attitude and how you treat others isn’t one of the causes of your frustrations in life.
And some of the PP do? It was a response to personal attacks from one particular person . That didn’t come out of no where. Getting advice from someone who can’t relate at all isn’t helpful. There was nothing in the OP that was offensive or called for personal attacks about privilege or pissing contests.
OP called multiple PPs b*tch. It wasn’t one particular person she was attacking. And her response were to comments that were pretty civil.
I can’t imagine she will do better working; I think an au pair would be far more appropriate and helpful.
Anonymous
09/09/2019 16:21
Subject: Re:If you’re a stay at home mom do you get any breaks?
It sounds like maybe SAH is just not for you. Can you go back to work and rely on hired help — maybe a nanny for the kids? I know you say it would be difficult to work with your husband’s schedule but you have to take care of yourself too and not just your kids!
Anonymous
09/09/2019 16:11
Subject: If you’re a stay at home mom do you get any breaks?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP was asking for tips after a long week. If you don’t SAH you may not be the best person to give advice.
OP doesn’t have kids 10 hours a week; some moms with PT jobs of 20 hours have been shamed as not really SAHMs.
And there have been plenty of tips but OP keeps escalating in anger over folks saying ‘well you have it pretty good so try to appreciate that’
OP implies there is something more going on (her bring you up fast) but fails to describe these extenuating challenges which may be relevant to any advice.
OP here. Some people have 2 jobs, 5 kids, single, low income and no breaks and manage just fine. The point is I’m stressed in my situation and looking for some helpful advice to manage two high energy kids at tough ages. I’m not even sure why my income was brought into play. What does it matter what someone else’s situation is compared to mine? I already noted in the original post that I knew this was harder for ME than other SAHM, because for whatever reason I find caring for two young children absolutely exhausting around the clock. I know there are other mothers who thrive being with their children at all times and don’t need breaks from them. Everyone is different and it is easy to sit and make judgments and assumptions but until you have walked in someone’s shoes and exact situation.. why not hold the snark and nastiness and give actual feedback? You really have no idea how stressful or not someone else’s parenting situation is. There are a million factors that cannot be assessed from one moment in a message forum. Temperament of the kids, family support, health of the mother, support and time husband is involved. So instead of making assumptions and judgement why not stick to the topic at hand and give actual advice? This is not directed at the people who did which there were many but the few PP that took it upon themselves to school me on my privilege.
My situation is unique in that I feel I would be better working yet our personal situation and my husband’s job makes that extremely difficult.
Anonymous
09/09/2019 16:06
Subject: If you’re a stay at home mom do you get any breaks?
Uh, the 10 hours a week both kids are in school?
Anonymous
09/09/2019 16:02
Subject: Re:If you’re a stay at home mom do you get any breaks?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.
OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.
Everyone has medical appointments and sickness and car trouble.
I can’t imagine you were actually talking on the phone the whole day to doctors — probably on hold? So put phone on speaker and fire up Netflix or what not.
Honestly, I think you should look into seeing a doctor yourself; your level of exhaustion and distress to your situation warrants evaluation.
It’s a special needs situation which is why so many phone calls and paperwork. Your level of being a b*tch deserves self reflection.
I understood it was special needs. From my experience with our therapists they don’t run sessions over the phone. So you were literally speaking with doctors for hours over the phone? Please recommend your doctors since ours only talk at length in session. Paperwork — I would actually bug your DH to do some of that while waiting at airport or in hotel after work.
I wasn’t trying to be critical; I was sincere that it sounds like you need some self-care. If I wanted to be snarky I would add anger management, dear.
Ok. Let’s take today for instance. I call his normal pediatrician and let them know I need a certain record for the dev pediatrician. This is at 9am and after several times contacting with no calls back. They assure me that they have not received the full report I need. I can’t get a call back from the actual OT that came to our house so I go to the staffing company that organizes this, based on the address in their website. They have moved and it is an empty office in a complex. I then call the main line of staffing and finally get through and the call cuts out. I wait 30 min just to see if they call back. I finally get a call from the out of state main office and they give me the same address that they are no longer at. It was never updated with the new regional office. They insist my normal pedi has the test results. I call back pedi and after waiting on hold and asking them to double check and insist they may have the full report they see they yes they do. Now I will spend another hour going in person to get it because none of them can be relied on to get that to me and I need to sign patient release. Now I need to call insurance and verify that the testing he needs done is covered by insurance. It is supposed to be a 5 day wait since the OT submitted but it has actually been over a month. Well it turns out that OT didn’t submit until Friday and sat on it for that long. So what should have been 5-10 min of time actually does require multiple calls and going over to the physical location. And while in theory it sounds great to bug my DH to do it he doesn’t go to 99 percent of these appointments so he’s not familiar with the multiple providers and information to fill out.
Now imagine having to deal with all of that and also pull in a paycheck to help support your family. Get a damn babysitter with all your money and get over yourself. Also, going to the OT staffing address was a complete waste of your time, and I hope you didn't actually do that and are just exaggerating. If its this much work to get a piece of paper from your regular pediatrician you need a new one. Same with your OT. Usually companies that provide the testing with get the authorization for you. You are not being smart with your time which is why you feel like you don't have any.
And what does that have to do with it? You’ve managed to turn this into some mommy martyr drama and all I asked is if anyone else was in a similar situation and struggling with this season of parenting and had any advice since going back to work is extremely challenging due to my husbands work travel and no family nearby. Get over yourself. I could say some stuff about my own life right now that would shut you up real fast. There’s more possibilities to issues in life than financial.. you understand that right? It’s not all about money. and I’m sorry you’re not “DC rich” .. you’re bitterness over this is coming through loud and clear. I am so sorry your family needs you to work so you can go on that trip to Europe and pay your fancy gym bill. Life is tough for you, tell me more. It must be hard to go to the office everyday and have to pull in that paycheck and have time from your cushy office to be on an internet forum arguing with someone else to check their privilege.
You sound completely unhinged OP. Before getting your child’s special needs addressed, I’d recommend therapy and possibly medication for you. The world is not out to get you. You know how the saying goes, “Put your own oxygen mask on first.”
+1. OP sounds terrible. I can’t imagine even thinking these things.
OP you don’t sound remotely kind. I can’t imagine that your attitude and how you treat others isn’t one of the causes of your frustrations in life.
And some of the PP do? It was a response to personal attacks from one particular person . That didn’t come out of no where. Getting advice from someone who can’t relate at all isn’t helpful. There was nothing in the OP that was offensive or called for personal attacks about privilege or pissing contests.
Anonymous
09/09/2019 16:00
Subject: If you’re a stay at home mom do you get any breaks?
Anonymous wrote:OP was asking for tips after a long week. If you don’t SAH you may not be the best person to give advice.
OP doesn’t have kids 10 hours a week; some moms with PT jobs of 20 hours have been shamed as not really SAHMs.
And there have been plenty of tips but OP keeps escalating in anger over folks saying ‘well you have it pretty good so try to appreciate that’
OP implies there is something more going on (her bring you up fast) but fails to describe these extenuating challenges which may be relevant to any advice.
Anonymous
09/09/2019 15:56
Subject: If you’re a stay at home mom do you get any breaks?
OP was asking for tips after a long week. If you don’t SAH you may not be the best person to give advice.
Anonymous
09/09/2019 15:52
Subject: Re:If you’re a stay at home mom do you get any breaks?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.
OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.
Everyone has medical appointments and sickness and car trouble.
I can’t imagine you were actually talking on the phone the whole day to doctors — probably on hold? So put phone on speaker and fire up Netflix or what not.
Honestly, I think you should look into seeing a doctor yourself; your level of exhaustion and distress to your situation warrants evaluation.
It’s a special needs situation which is why so many phone calls and paperwork. Your level of being a b*tch deserves self reflection.
I understood it was special needs. From my experience with our therapists they don’t run sessions over the phone. So you were literally speaking with doctors for hours over the phone? Please recommend your doctors since ours only talk at length in session. Paperwork — I would actually bug your DH to do some of that while waiting at airport or in hotel after work.
I wasn’t trying to be critical; I was sincere that it sounds like you need some self-care. If I wanted to be snarky I would add anger management, dear.
Ok. Let’s take today for instance. I call his normal pediatrician and let them know I need a certain record for the dev pediatrician. This is at 9am and after several times contacting with no calls back. They assure me that they have not received the full report I need. I can’t get a call back from the actual OT that came to our house so I go to the staffing company that organizes this, based on the address in their website. They have moved and it is an empty office in a complex. I then call the main line of staffing and finally get through and the call cuts out. I wait 30 min just to see if they call back. I finally get a call from the out of state main office and they give me the same address that they are no longer at. It was never updated with the new regional office. They insist my normal pedi has the test results. I call back pedi and after waiting on hold and asking them to double check and insist they may have the full report they see they yes they do. Now I will spend another hour going in person to get it because none of them can be relied on to get that to me and I need to sign patient release. Now I need to call insurance and verify that the testing he needs done is covered by insurance. It is supposed to be a 5 day wait since the OT submitted but it has actually been over a month. Well it turns out that OT didn’t submit until Friday and sat on it for that long. So what should have been 5-10 min of time actually does require multiple calls and going over to the physical location. And while in theory it sounds great to bug my DH to do it he doesn’t go to 99 percent of these appointments so he’s not familiar with the multiple providers and information to fill out.
Now imagine having to deal with all of that and also pull in a paycheck to help support your family. Get a damn babysitter with all your money and get over yourself. Also, going to the OT staffing address was a complete waste of your time, and I hope you didn't actually do that and are just exaggerating. If its this much work to get a piece of paper from your regular pediatrician you need a new one. Same with your OT. Usually companies that provide the testing with get the authorization for you. You are not being smart with your time which is why you feel like you don't have any.
And what does that have to do with it? You’ve managed to turn this into some mommy martyr drama and all I asked is if anyone else was in a similar situation and struggling with this season of parenting and had any advice since going back to work is extremely challenging due to my husbands work travel and no family nearby. Get over yourself. I could say some stuff about my own life right now that would shut you up real fast. There’s more possibilities to issues in life than financial.. you understand that right? It’s not all about money. and I’m sorry you’re not “DC rich” .. you’re bitterness over this is coming through loud and clear. I am so sorry your family needs you to work so you can go on that trip to Europe and pay your fancy gym bill. Life is tough for you, tell me more. It must be hard to go to the office everyday and have to pull in that paycheck and have time from your cushy office to be on an internet forum arguing with someone else to check their privilege.
You sound completely unhinged OP. Before getting your child’s special needs addressed, I’d recommend therapy and possibly medication for you. The world is not out to get you. You know how the saying goes, “Put your own oxygen mask on first.”
+1. OP sounds terrible. I can’t imagine even thinking these things.
OP you don’t sound remotely kind. I can’t imagine that your attitude and how you treat others isn’t one of the causes of your frustrations in life.
Anonymous
09/09/2019 15:50
Subject: Re:If you’re a stay at home mom do you get any breaks?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.
OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.
Everyone has medical appointments and sickness and car trouble.
I can’t imagine you were actually talking on the phone the whole day to doctors — probably on hold? So put phone on speaker and fire up Netflix or what not.
Honestly, I think you should look into seeing a doctor yourself; your level of exhaustion and distress to your situation warrants evaluation.
It’s a special needs situation which is why so many phone calls and paperwork. Your level of being a b*tch deserves self reflection.
I understood it was special needs. From my experience with our therapists they don’t run sessions over the phone. So you were literally speaking with doctors for hours over the phone? Please recommend your doctors since ours only talk at length in session. Paperwork — I would actually bug your DH to do some of that while waiting at airport or in hotel after work.
I wasn’t trying to be critical; I was sincere that it sounds like you need some self-care. If I wanted to be snarky I would add anger management, dear.
Ok. Let’s take today for instance. I call his normal pediatrician and let them know I need a certain record for the dev pediatrician. This is at 9am and after several times contacting with no calls back. They assure me that they have not received the full report I need. I can’t get a call back from the actual OT that came to our house so I go to the staffing company that organizes this, based on the address in their website. They have moved and it is an empty office in a complex. I then call the main line of staffing and finally get through and the call cuts out. I wait 30 min just to see if they call back. I finally get a call from the out of state main office and they give me the same address that they are no longer at. It was never updated with the new regional office. They insist my normal pedi has the test results. I call back pedi and after waiting on hold and asking them to double check and insist they may have the full report they see they yes they do. Now I will spend another hour going in person to get it because none of them can be relied on to get that to me and I need to sign patient release. Now I need to call insurance and verify that the testing he needs done is covered by insurance. It is supposed to be a 5 day wait since the OT submitted but it has actually been over a month. Well it turns out that OT didn’t submit until Friday and sat on it for that long. So what should have been 5-10 min of time actually does require multiple calls and going over to the physical location. And while in theory it sounds great to bug my DH to do it he doesn’t go to 99 percent of these appointments so he’s not familiar with the multiple providers and information to fill out.
Now imagine having to deal with all of that and also pull in a paycheck to help support your family. Get a damn babysitter with all your money and get over yourself. Also, going to the OT staffing address was a complete waste of your time, and I hope you didn't actually do that and are just exaggerating. If its this much work to get a piece of paper from your regular pediatrician you need a new one. Same with your OT. Usually companies that provide the testing with get the authorization for you. You are not being smart with your time which is why you feel like you don't have any.
And what does that have to do with it? You’ve managed to turn this into some mommy martyr drama and all I asked is if anyone else was in a similar situation and struggling with this season of parenting and had any advice since going back to work is extremely challenging due to my husbands work travel and no family nearby. Get over yourself. I could say some stuff about my own life right now that would shut you up real fast. There’s more possibilities to issues in life than financial.. you understand that right? It’s not all about money. and I’m sorry you’re not “DC rich” .. you’re bitterness over this is coming through loud and clear. I am so sorry your family needs you to work so you can go on that trip to Europe and pay your fancy gym bill. Life is tough for you, tell me more. It must be hard to go to the office everyday and have to pull in that paycheck and have time from your cushy office to be on an internet forum arguing with someone else to check their privilege.
You sound completely unhinged OP. Before getting your child’s special needs addressed, I’d recommend therapy and possibly medication for you. The world is not out to get you. You know how the saying goes, “Put your own oxygen mask on first.”
Anonymous
09/09/2019 15:42
Subject: If you’re a stay at home mom do you get any breaks?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am a stay at home parent with a spouse that does a significant amount of work travel. We have a 2 and 3 year old. I am really struggling with not losing my patience by the end of the day, especially on weeks of heavy travel. If you’re in this situation can you share any tips on days that you’ve hit your limit or just what is realistic in terms of being with children all the time. I think maybe it may be personal to me. I don’t see other stay at home moms as stressed from being with the kids. Going back to work would be nearly impossible with my husbands insane travel schedule.
My kids are in school. The 3 year old goes 25 hours a week and the 2 year old goes 10. 3 year old us very high energy and the 2 year old has some special needs so we go to a lot of appointments.
It’s a ton. A night or two away when my partner is in town helps. I also have off quite a bit of kid duty once he’s reacclimated to family life (as in i take time off on weekends he’s home). I also work about 28 hours a week as a “break”. It’s a tough season of life. And your response is normal no matter what earlier nitpicking happened on this thread.
Surprised you are justifying OPs name calling and foul language...
Anonymous
09/09/2019 15:20
Subject: If you’re a stay at home mom do you get any breaks?
Anonymous wrote:I am a stay at home parent with a spouse that does a significant amount of work travel. We have a 2 and 3 year old. I am really struggling with not losing my patience by the end of the day, especially on weeks of heavy travel. If you’re in this situation can you share any tips on days that you’ve hit your limit or just what is realistic in terms of being with children all the time. I think maybe it may be personal to me. I don’t see other stay at home moms as stressed from being with the kids. Going back to work would be nearly impossible with my husbands insane travel schedule.
My kids are in school. The 3 year old goes 25 hours a week and the 2 year old goes 10. 3 year old us very high energy and the 2 year old has some special needs so we go to a lot of appointments.
It’s a ton. A night or two away when my partner is in town helps. I also have off quite a bit of kid duty once he’s reacclimated to family life (as in i take time off on weekends he’s home). I also work about 28 hours a week as a “break”. It’s a tough season of life. And your response is normal no matter what earlier nitpicking happened on this thread.
Anonymous
09/09/2019 15:15
Subject: If you’re a stay at home mom do you get any breaks?
Anonymous wrote:You seriously think some of the PP comments have been sincere and helpful to OP? They are judgements and condescending at best.
No one called OP names, she was the one throwing out the insults and foul language.
Some PPs definitely called her out for being privileged and probably displayed some thinly veiled jealous, but it was generally a civil discussion until OP escalated her tone and language.
Anonymous
09/09/2019 15:11
Subject: Re:If you’re a stay at home mom do you get any breaks?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.
OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.
Everyone has medical appointments and sickness and car trouble.
I can’t imagine you were actually talking on the phone the whole day to doctors — probably on hold? So put phone on speaker and fire up Netflix or what not.
Honestly, I think you should look into seeing a doctor yourself; your level of exhaustion and distress to your situation warrants evaluation.
It’s a special needs situation which is why so many phone calls and paperwork. Your level of being a b*tch deserves self reflection.
I understood it was special needs. From my experience with our therapists they don’t run sessions over the phone. So you were literally speaking with doctors for hours over the phone? Please recommend your doctors since ours only talk at length in session. Paperwork — I would actually bug your DH to do some of that while waiting at airport or in hotel after work.
I wasn’t trying to be critical; I was sincere that it sounds like you need some self-care. If I wanted to be snarky I would add anger management, dear.
Ok. Let’s take today for instance. I call his normal pediatrician and let them know I need a certain record for the dev pediatrician. This is at 9am and after several times contacting with no calls back. They assure me that they have not received the full report I need. I can’t get a call back from the actual OT that came to our house so I go to the staffing company that organizes this, based on the address in their website. They have moved and it is an empty office in a complex. I then call the main line of staffing and finally get through and the call cuts out. I wait 30 min just to see if they call back. I finally get a call from the out of state main office and they give me the same address that they are no longer at. It was never updated with the new regional office. They insist my normal pedi has the test results. I call back pedi and after waiting on hold and asking them to double check and insist they may have the full report they see they yes they do. Now I will spend another hour going in person to get it because none of them can be relied on to get that to me and I need to sign patient release. Now I need to call insurance and verify that the testing he needs done is covered by insurance. It is supposed to be a 5 day wait since the OT submitted but it has actually been over a month. Well it turns out that OT didn’t submit until Friday and sat on it for that long. So what should have been 5-10 min of time actually does require multiple calls and going over to the physical location. And while in theory it sounds great to bug my DH to do it he doesn’t go to 99 percent of these appointments so he’s not familiar with the multiple providers and information to fill out.
Ok, first order of business is to switch to a different general ped. Aim for one within 10-15 minutes of your house.
They are, without traffic. Tell me again how you are able to zip to places and back within 15 minutes. Super realistic right? Everything is so easy for you. First order for you, stop being a know it all condescending b*tch.
Uh, I’m the immediate Pp but not any of the previous ones you lashed out against. I did post upthread with suggestions which you ignored. I was on your side when you first posted, but I agree that if you’re not a troll you need to get professional help or find other ways to cope. Plenty of people gave good suggestions and advice and you seem bent on insisting you’ve only been attacked and criticized.
And yes, I think searching for a ped that’s within a 10-15 minute drive of your house is not unreasonably or bitchy for me to suggest.
Anonymous
09/09/2019 15:04
Subject: Re:If you’re a stay at home mom do you get any breaks?
LOL, sounds like a dream to have quiet time in an office to make a phone call. My 3 year old will literally never give me enough peace to take care of household stuff like this. When he does decide to nap I try, but I can't always control when I need to make a call or when people call me back. When I was working, doing admin stuff was easy. When I'm busy taking care of my children, I don't have 10 continuous minutes to focus on a task. Let's not get into this pissing contest.
To quote you “ LOL”! If it was easy to get admin stuff done at work you had a pretty low-level job. Those of us with actual careers don’t have such leisurely hours, but honestly thank god because I can’t imagine enjoying that.