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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's just friendly or easy to talk to? Maybe she likes sports or whatever or will talk to the Dads?

In most of my circles, as soon as couples get together it splits intro Mom group and dad group. Sometimes that's great, and sometimes I want to talk to the dads, too.

There is a reason for that. Women do not usually trust the woman who insists on talking more to a/the dad/s. Women notice, men notice - it is not a good look.

What a sad way to live. You can’t talk to other men in group social settings and are suspicious of those who do? Must be exhausting going through life so incredibly insecure.

I am not talking about myself, I am talking about my observations. There is nothing "sad" about how I live, though you might wish otherwise.

I’m confused. So you ARE one of those women who talks to both genders including (gasp!) other people’s husbands at social events, and you also think it’s “not a good look” and men and women should split into separate groups instead? Which is it?

It is not a good look for anyone to throw themselves at someone else's spouse. You are an adult. Act like one.

Who are you talking to? Who is throwing themselves? Is that what it is now when you talk to someone of the opposite sex?!

It depends how much the woman gos out of her way to stick herself into the wrong situation.

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Anonymous wrote:So much projection. OP literally said this woman is not flirty. The men want to be near her and look at her because she’s pretty, thin, and nice. Doesn’t sound like anyone is “throwing themselves “ at anyone else.

I doubt that. We all know one of those women. They are not good friends if your husband is their Plan B. Back away slowly.

Oh please. No one is trying to steal your husband.

I'm single, so it's not my husband, I just see one or two women that are known for it in your elementary school. It's obvious.

Anonymous wrote:I hear you. Somewhat different circumstances, but I once saw three married men in a friend group literally trip over each other in a rush to walk next to a woman similar to the one you described.

I work with someone like that - the guys love her! She is not what anyone would call a conventional beauty - she is petite, light eyes (not buggy - some blue eyes look bug eyed to me), light brown hair, well dressed (conservative and business like), natural looking, but striking. I also know a blonde who is thin and authentic looking but pale - honestly, I think the former is much more attractive, but the guys who fawn over the latter don't seem to get out much LOL. In either case, I don't think she does anything to discourage it.

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Anonymous wrote:So much projection. OP literally said this woman is not flirty. The men want to be near her and look at her because she’s pretty, thin, and nice. Doesn’t sound like anyone is “throwing themselves “ at anyone else.

I doubt that. We all know one of those women. They are not good friends if your husband is their Plan B. Back away slowly.

Oh please. No one is trying to steal your husband.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's just friendly or easy to talk to? Maybe she likes sports or whatever or will talk to the Dads?

In most of my circles, as soon as couples get together it splits intro Mom group and dad group. Sometimes that's great, and sometimes I want to talk to the dads, too.

There is a reason for that. Women do not usually trust the woman who insists on talking more to a/the dad/s. Women notice, men notice - it is not a good look.

What a sad way to live. You can’t talk to other men in group social settings and are suspicious of those who do? Must be exhausting going through life so incredibly insecure.

I am not talking about myself, I am talking about my observations. There is nothing "sad" about how I live, though you might wish otherwise.

I’m confused. So you ARE one of those women who talks to both genders including (gasp!) other people’s husbands at social events, and you also think it’s “not a good look” and men and women should split into separate groups instead? Which is it?

It is not a good look for anyone to throw themselves at someone else's spouse. You are an adult. Act like one.

Who are you talking to? Who is throwing themselves? Is that what it is now when you talk to someone of the opposite sex?!

Anonymous wrote:So much projection. OP literally said this woman is not flirty. The men want to be near her and look at her because she’s pretty, thin, and nice. Doesn’t sound like anyone is “throwing themselves “ at anyone else.

I doubt that. We all know one of those women. They are not good friends if your husband is their Plan B. Back away slowly.

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Anonymous wrote:The husbands’ behavior is rude to their wives.

This woman's looks has nothing to do with how a few of these men are behaving. Those wives have losers for husbands if they can't act appropriately around good looking women.

Meh. There is nothing inappropriate about paying attention to attractive women. (OP did not say the men were propositioning her.) If this makes all the wives feel insecure, they are the ones who are losers not the men. Wives, stop being so fragile!

I actually think flirtatious married people are terribly insecure. Who would want to be with that?

Exactly. If one is married doing that there's a problem with that spouse. Not appropriate at all.

There is a problem with the flirter, and (to a lesser degree - though equally attention starved, like a small child) the flirtees. It looks immature to be doing such a thing - obviously looking for attention and trying to prove something to your spouse by flirting with other men? Keep your private life private, or divorce him if he is such a cad, but handle your own sh*t, without trying to drag other families into it.

So much projection. OP literally said this woman is not flirty. The men want to be near her and look at her because she’s pretty, thin, and nice. Doesn’t sound like anyone is “throwing themselves “ at anyone else.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's just friendly or easy to talk to? Maybe she likes sports or whatever or will talk to the Dads?

In most of my circles, as soon as couples get together it splits intro Mom group and dad group. Sometimes that's great, and sometimes I want to talk to the dads, too.

There is a reason for that. Women do not usually trust the woman who insists on talking more to a/the dad/s. Women notice, men notice - it is not a good look.

What a sad way to live. You can’t talk to other men in group social settings and are suspicious of those who do? Must be exhausting going through life so incredibly insecure.

I am not talking about myself, I am talking about my observations. There is nothing "sad" about how I live, though you might wish otherwise.

I’m confused. So you ARE one of those women who talks to both genders including (gasp!) other people’s husbands at social events, and you also think it’s “not a good look” and men and women should split into separate groups instead? Which is it?

It is not a good look for anyone to throw themselves at someone else's spouse. You are an adult. Act like one.

I hear you. Somewhat different circumstances, but I once saw three married men in a friend group literally trip over each other in a rush to walk next to a woman similar to the one you described.

Anonymous wrote:You described the ideal white woman for white men.

Ideal woman for all men on the planet, actually.

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Anonymous wrote:The husbands’ behavior is rude to their wives.

This woman's looks has nothing to do with how a few of these men are behaving. Those wives have losers for husbands if they can't act appropriately around good looking women.

Meh. There is nothing inappropriate about paying attention to attractive women. (OP did not say the men were propositioning her.) If this makes all the wives feel insecure, they are the ones who are losers not the men. Wives, stop being so fragile!

I actually think flirtatious married people are terribly insecure. Who would want to be with that?

Exactly. If one is married doing that there's a problem with that spouse. Not appropriate at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's just friendly or easy to talk to? Maybe she likes sports or whatever or will talk to the Dads?

In most of my circles, as soon as couples get together it splits intro Mom group and dad group. Sometimes that's great, and sometimes I want to talk to the dads, too.

There is a reason for that. Women do not usually trust the woman who insists on talking more to a/the dad/s. Women notice, men notice - it is not a good look.

What a sad way to live. You can’t talk to other men in group social settings and are suspicious of those who do? Must be exhausting going through life so incredibly insecure.

I am not talking about myself, I am talking about my observations. There is nothing "sad" about how I live, though you might wish otherwise.

I’m confused. So you ARE one of those women who talks to both genders including (gasp!) other people’s husbands at social events, and you also think it’s “not a good look” and men and women should split into separate groups instead? Which is it?

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's just friendly or easy to talk to? Maybe she likes sports or whatever or will talk to the Dads?

In most of my circles, as soon as couples get together it splits intro Mom group and dad group. Sometimes that's great, and sometimes I want to talk to the dads, too.

There is a reason for that. Women do not usually trust the woman who insists on talking more to a/the dad/s. Women notice, men notice - it is not a good look.

You seem really threatened. Maybe you know you aren’t bringing your “A” game to the table? I don’t mind when other women talk to my husband because I am extremely confident in myself, my attributes, and our relationship.

Me too. I have observed otherwise, that's all. If you are supposedly not insecure, you don't have to be threatened by my answer - or projecting. I don't judge who is bringing what, it is not my business - but I also don't have to throw myself at other women's husbands because that looks pathetic and desperate. OP asked, you got defensive when I answered.