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Don't have any more babies until the man-child dad steps up.

there it is! the requisite "MEN ARE CHILDREN" harpy. I was beginning to wonder if/when you would grace our presence!

I don't usually say that, because my husband is an active parent. OP's husband on the other hand needs to grow the F up and parent.

Anonymous wrote:Why are women who have children with losers insisting that everyone be martyrs like them? My DH, brother and male relatives all pitched in willingly to help with their babies, even in the cases where the men were working and wives were SAHM. This is not abnormal behavior for men.

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Don't have any more babies until the man-child dad steps up.

there it is! the requisite "MEN ARE CHILDREN" harpy. I was beginning to wonder if/when you would grace our presence!

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Anonymous wrote:Unless you talked about this and previously arranged how the responsibilities would be divided, it is assumed mothers are responsible for a much larger chuck of care for newborn babies. I’m presuming you are off work on maternity leave, he isn’t. The baby is you job right now.

Does your baby not nap and can’t be put down? Is he colicy? You are making it sound like someone needs to be holding him 24/7. I had two babies like this, so i don’t ask this in a snarky way and it is a phase that passes.

Put the baby in a swing, wear him in an ergo, put him on a sheepskin rug..those things should free up your arms so you can get some things done.

If you are borderline nervous breakdown, talk to him and explain what help you need to not go crazy. Encourage DH to wear the baby in a carrier and go for walks with him.

Unless you talked about this and previously arranged how the responsibilities would be divided, it is assumed that fathers and mothers are responsible for equal amounts of the care of newborn babies. I'm presuming he has paternity leave as well. When is he taking his leave? The baby is both of your jobs equally right now, because both of you made it.

There, FTFY, PP. BTW, PP, you are a self-righteous sexist prig. Women are not primarily responsible for newborns. You demonstrate exactly the kind of sexist world view that puts women behind in life.

A woman who is staying home and taking care of the baby all day is doing a job. Her job ends when her husband's job ends and it is entirely reasonable to expect that DH participate equally in the care of baby when he gets home. I am assuming, like many SAHM's she is also doing some other household chores like laundry, grocery shopping and meal prep, while she is home with baby. These also are equally DH's responsibility.

I am tired of men who steal the labor of women and without recompense and expect that their time is fully their own, even when they have brought other people into the world.

Preach! Why on earth would the baby be only the mother’s responsibility? What is wrong with you PP? I hope you don’t have children because this isn’t the goddamn 1950s

No one is saying this. Did you not see how her husband is taking over while she cooks and during the mornings? What is it that OP wants?!? She wants her husband to enthusiastically take the baby the minute he gets home and give her the entire night off? Most people don’t want to work all day and then solely care for a child.

Unfortunately the main role of the mother is to feed the baby if she is breastfeeding. The husband can’t do this.

I strongly disagree that the SAHM job ends at 6-7 PM when the spouse gets home. As a SAHM your job is to make his or her ability to work as easy as possible. You have a sole breadwinner and should not be dumping chores and kids on your spouse when they get home. If you don’t want to care for a child all day then go back to work and you’ll enjoy the same arrangement as your spouse. Then you can share evening responsibilities since you both work and supper each other’s careers.

NP. So OP's day never ends? Lol. Her husband gets to come from work at 6/7 and relax but OP keeps on working. When both parents are at home, parenting duties should be split evenly.

Nope. OP has breaks during the day when her baby naps. A newborn should be napping for a considerable amount of time. Her husband can’t take naps or TV breaks during the day or use the time to run errands / do chores. Should OP’s husband take care of some housework and help out at night? Yes. But should be viewed as a 50-50 parent? No. OP’s job is to take care of the baby and this is why she isn’t going to work.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless you talked about this and previously arranged how the responsibilities would be divided, it is assumed mothers are responsible for a much larger chuck of care for newborn babies. I’m presuming you are off work on maternity leave, he isn’t. The baby is you job right now.

Does your baby not nap and can’t be put down? Is he colicy? You are making it sound like someone needs to be holding him 24/7. I had two babies like this, so i don’t ask this in a snarky way and it is a phase that passes.

Put the baby in a swing, wear him in an ergo, put him on a sheepskin rug..those things should free up your arms so you can get some things done.

If you are borderline nervous breakdown, talk to him and explain what help you need to not go crazy. Encourage DH to wear the baby in a carrier and go for walks with him.

Unless you talked about this and previously arranged how the responsibilities would be divided, it is assumed that fathers and mothers are responsible for equal amounts of the care of newborn babies. I'm presuming he has paternity leave as well. When is he taking his leave? The baby is both of your jobs equally right now, because both of you made it.

There, FTFY, PP. BTW, PP, you are a self-righteous sexist prig. Women are not primarily responsible for newborns. You demonstrate exactly the kind of sexist world view that puts women behind in life.

A woman who is staying home and taking care of the baby all day is doing a job. Her job ends when her husband's job ends and it is entirely reasonable to expect that DH participate equally in the care of baby when he gets home. I am assuming, like many SAHM's she is also doing some other household chores like laundry, grocery shopping and meal prep, while she is home with baby. These also are equally DH's responsibility.

I am tired of men who steal the labor of women and without recompense and expect that their time is fully their own, even when they have brought other people into the world.

Preach! Why on earth would the baby be only the mother’s responsibility? What is wrong with you PP? I hope you don’t have children because this isn’t the goddamn 1950s

No one is saying this. Did you not see how her husband is taking over while she cooks and during the mornings? What is it that OP wants?!? She wants her husband to enthusiastically take the baby the minute he gets home and give her the entire night off? Most people don’t want to work all day and then solely care for a child.

Unfortunately the main role of the mother is to feed the baby if she is breastfeeding. The husband can’t do this.

I strongly disagree that the SAHM job ends at 6-7 PM when the spouse gets home. As a SAHM your job is to make his or her ability to work as easy as possible. You have a sole breadwinner and should not be dumping chores and kids on your spouse when they get home. If you don’t want to care for a child all day then go back to work and you’ll enjoy the same arrangement as your spouse. Then you can share evening responsibilities since you both work and supper each other’s careers.

NP. So OP's day never ends? Lol. Her husband gets to come from work at 6/7 and relax but OP keeps on working. When both parents are at home, parenting duties should be split evenly.

Nope. OP has breaks during the day when her baby naps. A newborn should be napping for a considerable amount of time. Her husband can’t take naps or TV breaks during the day or use the time to run errands / do chores. Should OP’s husband take care of some housework and help out at night? Yes. But should be viewed as a 50-50 parent? No. OP’s job is to take care of the baby and this is why she isn’t going to work.

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Don't have any more babies until the man-child dad steps up.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just wait until you have a second or third child. You will be thinking how easy you had it when you were home and it was just one newborn to care for.

Medical issues aside (which doesn't sound like her baby has any or she would have mentioned it), even high maintenance infants are not THAT hard. Sure you are lonely and sleep deprived, but I can think of a lot of jobs that are much harder. You do realize women have been caring for infants since the dawn of time as well as several other children too. It should be such a deal you can't cope with the support he is giving as well (which is not nothing) and if it is, this is something to address with your dr.

Don't have any more babies until the man-child dad steps up.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless you talked about this and previously arranged how the responsibilities would be divided, it is assumed mothers are responsible for a much larger chuck of care for newborn babies. I’m presuming you are off work on maternity leave, he isn’t. The baby is you job right now.

Does your baby not nap and can’t be put down? Is he colicy? You are making it sound like someone needs to be holding him 24/7. I had two babies like this, so i don’t ask this in a snarky way and it is a phase that passes.

Put the baby in a swing, wear him in an ergo, put him on a sheepskin rug..those things should free up your arms so you can get some things done.

If you are borderline nervous breakdown, talk to him and explain what help you need to not go crazy. Encourage DH to wear the baby in a carrier and go for walks with him.

Unless you talked about this and previously arranged how the responsibilities would be divided, it is assumed that fathers and mothers are responsible for equal amounts of the care of newborn babies. I'm presuming he has paternity leave as well. When is he taking his leave? The baby is both of your jobs equally right now, because both of you made it.

There, FTFY, PP. BTW, PP, you are a self-righteous sexist prig. Women are not primarily responsible for newborns. You demonstrate exactly the kind of sexist world view that puts women behind in life.

A woman who is staying home and taking care of the baby all day is doing a job. Her job ends when her husband's job ends and it is entirely reasonable to expect that DH participate equally in the care of baby when he gets home. I am assuming, like many SAHM's she is also doing some other household chores like laundry, grocery shopping and meal prep, while she is home with baby. These also are equally DH's responsibility.

I am tired of men who steal the labor of women and without recompense and expect that their time is fully their own, even when they have brought other people into the world.

Preach! Why on earth would the baby be only the mother’s responsibility? What is wrong with you PP? I hope you don’t have children because this isn’t the goddamn 1950s

No one is saying this. Did you not see how her husband is taking over while she cooks and during the mornings? What is it that OP wants?!? She wants her husband to enthusiastically take the baby the minute he gets home and give her the entire night off? Most people don’t want to work all day and then solely care for a child.

Unfortunately the main role of the mother is to feed the baby if she is breastfeeding. The husband can’t do this.

I strongly disagree that the SAHM job ends at 6-7 PM when the spouse gets home. As a SAHM your job is to make his or her ability to work as easy as possible. You have a sole breadwinner and should not be dumping chores and kids on your spouse when they get home. If you don’t want to care for a child all day then go back to work and you’ll enjoy the same arrangement as your spouse. Then you can share evening responsibilities since you both work and supper each other’s careers.

NP. So OP's day never ends? Lol. Her husband gets to come from work at 6/7 and relax but OP keeps on working. When both parents are at home, parenting duties should be split evenly.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless you talked about this and previously arranged how the responsibilities would be divided, it is assumed mothers are responsible for a much larger chuck of care for newborn babies. I’m presuming you are off work on maternity leave, he isn’t. The baby is you job right now.

Does your baby not nap and can’t be put down? Is he colicy? You are making it sound like someone needs to be holding him 24/7. I had two babies like this, so i don’t ask this in a snarky way and it is a phase that passes.

Put the baby in a swing, wear him in an ergo, put him on a sheepskin rug..those things should free up your arms so you can get some things done.

If you are borderline nervous breakdown, talk to him and explain what help you need to not go crazy. Encourage DH to wear the baby in a carrier and go for walks with him.

Unless you talked about this and previously arranged how the responsibilities would be divided, it is assumed that fathers and mothers are responsible for equal amounts of the care of newborn babies. I'm presuming he has paternity leave as well. When is he taking his leave? The baby is both of your jobs equally right now, because both of you made it.

There, FTFY, PP. BTW, PP, you are a self-righteous sexist prig. Women are not primarily responsible for newborns. You demonstrate exactly the kind of sexist world view that puts women behind in life.

A woman who is staying home and taking care of the baby all day is doing a job. Her job ends when her husband's job ends and it is entirely reasonable to expect that DH participate equally in the care of baby when he gets home. I am assuming, like many SAHM's she is also doing some other household chores like laundry, grocery shopping and meal prep, while she is home with baby. These also are equally DH's responsibility.

I am tired of men who steal the labor of women and without recompense and expect that their time is fully their own, even when they have brought other people into the world.

Preach! Why on earth would the baby be only the mother’s responsibility? What is wrong with you PP? I hope you don’t have children because this isn’t the goddamn 1950s

No one is saying this. Did you not see how her husband is taking over while she cooks and during the mornings? What is it that OP wants?!? She wants her husband to enthusiastically take the baby the minute he gets home and give her the entire night off? Most people don’t want to work all day and then solely care for a child.

Unfortunately the main role of the mother is to feed the baby if she is breastfeeding. The husband can’t do this.

I strongly disagree that the SAHM job ends at 6-7 PM when the spouse gets home. As a SAHM your job is to make his or her ability to work as easy as possible. You have a sole breadwinner and should not be dumping chores and kids on your spouse when they get home. If you don’t want to care for a child all day then go back to work and you’ll enjoy the same arrangement as your spouse. Then you can share evening responsibilities since you both work and supper each other’s careers.

Anonymous wrote:OP, just wait until you have a second or third child. You will be thinking how easy you had it when you were home and it was just one newborn to care for.

Medical issues aside (which doesn't sound like her baby has any or she would have mentioned it), even high maintenance infants are not THAT hard. Sure you are lonely and sleep deprived, but I can think of a lot of jobs that are much harder. You do realize women have been caring for infants since the dawn of time as well as several other children too. It should be such a deal you can't cope with the support he is giving as well (which is not nothing) and if it is, this is something to address with your dr.

Anonymous wrote:OP, just wait until you have a second or third child. You will be thinking how easy you had it when you were home and it was just one newborn to care for.

Medical issues aside (which doesn't sound like her baby has any or she would have mentioned it), even high maintenance infants are not THAT hard. Sure you are lonely and sleep deprived, but I can think of a lot of jobs that are much harder. You do realize women have been caring for infants since the dawn of time as well as several other children too. It should be such a deal you can't cope with the support he is giving as well (which is not nothing) and if it is, this is something to address with your dr.