Literally staring would be creepy, but if you just mean looking/noticing, it’s because he’s human. I am a happily married woman and I notice attractive men all the time. Sometimes fantasize about them too. It has nothing to do with my marriage and I’m very committed to my husband.

It is testosterone.
Period.

Men are actually genetically hard-wired to look at pretty Females.

I see it all the time.
Even men who are present w/a women.

They all always admire fine art.

Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen this happen before. If he’s such a great husband with a loving wife, what makes him stare at other women?

Thoughts?

OP, there's staring, which is creepy, and discreetly looking. An adult who stares has a problem, not sure what the source is could be drugs, mental illness etc.

Discreetly looking is pretty common I think. I've been know to sit strategically in a park or coffee shop so as to be able to check out the parade of young tight bodies without looking like a creep.

Anonymous wrote:Listen Op, I say if your husband is looking he has already found someone else. I simply make sure my DH gets at least two bj's a week (yes, a week) and I know then that he is JUST looking because he knows he will never be able to find anyone as good for him as me. Let him look, I am not threatened. I know how to take care of my husband.

Aah...servitude! Whatever I do with my husband is because I enjoy it too, not because I feel threatened!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There was a thread months ago about men “mentally undressing women” and probably 99% of men said they donthis multiple times a day looking at women they don’t know. It’s normal. A
Decent man knows how to control
His actions.

99% of people look better with their clothes on than off.

And I am fine with that. I rather see pretty clothed women than ugly women with no clothes on.

Anonymous wrote:There was a thread months ago about men “mentally undressing women” and probably 99% of men said they donthis multiple times a day looking at women they don’t know. It’s normal. A
Decent man knows how to control
His actions.

Do you have a link to that thread? I really want to see it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Listen Op, I say if your husband is looking he has already found someone else. I simply make sure my DH gets at least two bj's a week (yes, a week) and I know then that he is JUST looking because he knows he will never be able to find anyone as good for him as me. Let him look, I am not threatened. I know how to take care of my husband.

NP. Sounds like you’re plenty threatened, if you’re doing sex favors for someone just to keep them around. Us normal women have sex with our husbands how we want and when we want, not for fear of him trying something elsewhere and liking it better.

Sounds like PP knows exactly how to keep her husband satisfied and his mind on her instead of other women. Also sounds like you are concerned your sexually unsatisfied husband might stray

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There was a thread months ago about men “mentally undressing women” and probably 99% of men said they donthis multiple times a day looking at women they don’t know. It’s normal. A
Decent man knows how to control
His actions.

99% of people look better with their clothes on than off.

If you’ve ever been to a nude beach you know that this is true. Clothes hide the flaws!

Anonymous wrote:You can look at the menu, but you just can't eat.

You can dip your foot in the pool, but you just can’t swim.

Anonymous wrote:There was a thread months ago about men “mentally undressing women” and probably 99% of men said they donthis multiple times a day looking at women they don’t know. It’s normal. A
Decent man knows how to control
His actions.

99% of people look better with their clothes on than off.

Anonymous wrote:Husband here - a beautiful woman and a beautiful car are both something to be admired and maybe lusted over but the thought disappears as soon as they are out of sight and an old Chevy passes by. My wife of many years is a classic model whose beauty is timeless and I’m very happy that a couple of times a week she lets me take her for a ride around the block.

You have a lucky wife! Many men see a beautiful car and then try to get a test drive.

There was a thread months ago about men “mentally undressing women” and probably 99% of men said they donthis multiple times a day looking at women they don’t know. It’s normal. A
Decent man knows how to control
His actions.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Listen Op, I say if your husband is looking he has already found someone else. I simply make sure my DH gets at least two bj's a week (yes, a week) and I know then that he is JUST looking because he knows he will never be able to find anyone as good for him as me. Let him look, I am not threatened. I know how to take care of my husband.

NP. Sounds like you’re plenty threatened, if you’re doing sex favors for someone just to keep them around. Us normal women have sex with our husbands how we want and when we want, not for fear of him trying something elsewhere and liking it better.

Actually sounds like she is aware of her husbands needs and seeks to meet them, as any good spouse should. And her husband should and most likely does do the same, whether those needs are sexual or not.

I like to look at good looking people. Men, women, children. If someone is particularly well-dressed, I will notice that too.

TBH though, I also stare at the utter disasters too. A woman whose butt or boobs are hanging out, I end up staring at that too.
-DW

Anonymous wrote:Husband here - a beautiful woman and a beautiful car are both something to be admired and maybe lusted over but the thought disappears as soon as they are out of sight and an old Chevy passes by. My wife of many years is a classic model whose beauty is timeless and I’m very happy that a couple of times a week she lets me take her for a ride around the block.

My wife stays in the garage, has for a couple of years now, so yes I am checking out newer models. Haven’t taken one for a ride but I’ve thought how much fun a test drive would be.