Anonymous
Post 06/06/2019 11:06     Subject: Selling Hand Me downs?
We recently got unsolicited old clothes from a relative. She wanted us to try them all on then return the ones we didn’t use. No. Please no more.
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2019 11:05     Subject: Selling Hand Me downs?
OP I think it’s creepy. Yes of course they are hers. But you gave them as a gift and now it’s publicly in your face that she’s selling them. Cringe worthy. That’s why I donate to charities. I don’t want to do either: receive and know the person is attached give and Be attached
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2019 10:43     Subject: Selling Hand Me downs?
Bad mojo for her to sell something someone gave her.

Anonymous
Post 06/06/2019 10:35     Subject: Re:Selling Hand Me downs?
I have tubs of clothes from my sister. I ask what she wants back and then pass the clothes to my friend after my DD. I’ve explicitly told her what I’d like back (very few items). It’s funny... I would find it tacky if she sold the remaining items without asking me, and yet she’s doing me a huge favor to take the clothes from our small apartment and deal with them. I tried posting some items for sale and it was a lot of hassle with few bites.
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2019 19:06     Subject: Selling Hand Me downs?
It's totally tacky. It would absolutely rub me the wrong way. Of course she has the *right* to do whatever she wants but it's in poor taste.
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2019 13:52     Subject: Re:Selling Hand Me downs?
Anonymous wrote:How is it tacky? Assuming she used all the clothes and her child outgrew all of it, she then sold it. What's your problem? It's none of your business once you give it away.


+1

You don't give something away and then get to decide what happens to it after it's no longer needed. OP sounds like a busy body friend. Get a life.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2019 19:41     Subject: Selling Hand Me downs?
Anonymous wrote:Tacky.

What starts as a favor/pay it forward chain should continue on that way rather than being cashed in for personal profit.


This. I sell some of my kids’ used clothes (Boden, Tea) and baby gear/big toys, but never sell anything I got for free even if it would be worth a good amount.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2019 19:05     Subject: Re:Selling Hand Me downs?
Anonymous wrote:OP again, No. I don't want the money, I only specified the amount to show that these are not $0.50 Gerber Onsies being sold and the clothing is still in very good condition and can still be used.

LIke i said, i was taken aback when I saw the string of facebook posts all with the clothing i gave her and the prices she was asking/people were paying.
I did not state i wanted them back and i would just give them to someone else if they were returned to me.

I just found it a bit tacky and was not expecting this person to sell them. To my knowledge they are no having any money troubles and unless there is a huge financial change (which there could be), they make more than DH and I do based on their jobs but either way they were given to her by me so i guess she can do what she wants.

I can still be taken aback by it and find it tacky even if none of you do. I am fine being in the minority. I haven't said anything to her, i am not stewing over this as some have suggested. Based on the responses i see my reaction may be a unique one and that is all i was really wanting to gauge.


I would have been taken aback too. I've received various hand me downs and have never considered selling them; I just pass them on when I'm done because it feels weird to profit from a friend's generosity (assuming the hand me down seller isn't having financial trouble).
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2019 15:58     Subject: Re:Selling Hand Me downs?
Anonymous wrote:OP again, No. I don't want the money, I only specified the amount to show that these are not $0.50 Gerber Onsies being sold and the clothing is still in very good condition and can still be used.

LIke i said, i was taken aback when I saw the string of facebook posts all with the clothing i gave her and the prices she was asking/people were paying.
I did not state i wanted them back and i would just give them to someone else if they were returned to me.

I just found it a bit tacky and was not expecting this person to sell them. To my knowledge they are no having any money troubles and unless there is a huge financial change (which there could be), they make more than DH and I do based on their jobs but either way they were given to her by me so i guess she can do what she wants.

I can still be taken aback by it and find it tacky even if none of you do. I am fine being in the minority. I haven't said anything to her, i am not stewing over this as some have suggested. Based on the responses i see my reaction may be a unique one and that is all i was really wanting to gauge.


Your response is normal and level headed.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2019 15:56     Subject: Re:Selling Hand Me downs?
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Anonymous wrote:You don't want it back, and you didn't want to keep it at the time. You wanted it off your hands, which you achieved. Why is this bothering you?

because, she now wants to be paid for it


I don't think she wanted to be paid for it- I think she wanted her friend to pass it on to another family.

I agree that this is tacky. I get a ton of hand-me-downs and the only time I have sold something is after asking if the giver wants it back to pass on to someone else and even then I have given the money to the person who handed it down to me.

Then why is she worried that her 'friend ' might make a whole $200? I think OP wants $200 without the hassle of selling anything.


There’s nothing that’s pointing towards that.

Except a whole bunch of posts stating that the seller should give the $ to the OP. Oh, yeah and the OP's focus on a dollar amount that she thinks the items are worth.


You ARE creative! Good imaginings little one.