Anonymous wrote:Our nanny dragged our kids to her other job and instructed them not to tell.

Anonymous wrote:So OP here for the very last time. I just decided to call my former nanny and ask her about the pictures. She seemed shocked that those pictures were in the album. I just asked her to be truthful with me.

Long story short - she took my son to her new apartment (boyfriend's apartment) 2 days in a row and her boyfriend's mother watched him all day while she moved. She said sorry and that she should've just taken those days off, but her boyfriend suggested that idea to her so she could keep her PTO days and have them paid out (we pay out anything not used). I told her I was upset and that I probably wouldn't be the best person to use as a reference since I would have to tell her new family the truth about what happened.

Former nanny said she completely understood and said sorry again. I told her good luck and thanked her for taking care of our son for 3 years.

Thanks all for responding! Made me realize I should just talk to her instead of wondering what really happened.

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Anonymous wrote:This story is so ridiculous. Your nanny made a snapfish book and SHE included these incriminating photos? Why would she be so stupid? And then, three years later, when busted about it, she is so feckless as not to have thought up a better story about where the photo was taken? The whole thing is unbelievable.

I could believe that. Lots of people are stupid enough to get caught. A couple I know are divorcing now, because the man accidentally posted pictures on Facebook of himself with his affair partner, thinking that he had posted them to just to the adultery partner.

FB maybe, but a printed book that you laid out online, printed, looked at in person and then gave as a gift? That takes a special mind of stupid.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, I do not micromanage but she should tell me if she's going to take my kid somewhere he doesn't normally go to. My former nanny lives 20 miles away so what would be the point in going to her house to eat lunch? And yes, she's asked me before if she could take my kid to her house and I said no.

I forgot to mention the photos were dated right around when she was moving out of her other apartment. There were moving boxes in the photos so I'm guessing she brought my son to her house while she was moving.

And no she doesn't have newer references, her last day was a couple weeks ago. I would think another family would want to know something like this.

Just curious, why did you say no? Did you not trust her?

Hi OP here again, I just don't see the point in her taking my son to her house. He has class (art, gym, etc) everyday in the morning, then lunch at home, nap, sometimes a play date so I don't see what benefit he gets from being in the car 30+ minutes each way to hang out at her house. She obviously asked me because she had a personal (very long) errand to run, but that's what leave should be used for.

Really Nanny? You wouldn't want to work for a family in which the parents had a problem with a nanny directly going against expressed rules, including taking- assuming in this area- the kids for at least a couple hours to a place that the nanny was explicitly not supposed to go to?

As a nanny, I get why you are upset but I still couldn’t work for you or ppl like you. You are not alone in your feelings. However, you are making a mountain out of a molehill and willing to sabotage someone else’s career just bc you feel disrespected. You may not think your micromanage but you do based on your responses and reaction. You want to be vindictive and this isn’t worth it. Was your child traumatized? And be honest, how annoyed would you have been if your nanny asked for the day off to pack to move? Would you have paid her normal rate or less?

Anonymous wrote:What do you think the saying something would accomplish? Do you expect her to apologize? I’m not sure what she should apologize for. All this would do is make you sound crazy and controlling. This was three years ago.

Anonymous wrote:WTF is wrong with you people? The nanny dragged your kid all over town 20 miles away against your express wishes. And while you were paying her she took your kid over to her house while she packed. I’m sure she was watching him carefully at the time.
What would your boss do if you pulled a stunt like that?
OP I would be inclined to withhold payment due to violating terms of service. As for recommendations I would damn with faint praise as I would not want further involvement with this dishonest person. There is no way in hell I would let it go.
And keep the book for evidence until some times passes and then give it a nice home in the trash.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. I think this is terrible. I thought it was terrible before I heard what nanny actually did. A parent shouldn't have to specify all the places the baby shouldn't go. Don't take my kid to a new location without telling the parent. Awful.

MY nanny would just text, me - "hey, we are going to XXX park to check-it out".

It is even more awful to leave the child in someone's else's care without a specific OK. Terrible.

This. Easily a firing offense if the nanny weren't already gone.

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I think this is terrible. I thought it was terrible before I heard what nanny actually did. A parent shouldn't have to specify all the places the baby shouldn't go. Don't take my kid to a new location without telling the parent. Awful.

MY nanny would just text, me - "hey, we are going to XXX park to check-it out".

It is even more awful to leave the child in someone's else's care without a specific OK. Terrible.

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Anonymous wrote:This story is so ridiculous. Your nanny made a snapfish book and SHE included these incriminating photos? Why would she be so stupid? And then, three years later, when busted about it, she is so feckless as not to have thought up a better story about where the photo was taken? The whole thing is unbelievable.

I could believe that. Lots of people are stupid enough to get caught. A couple I know are divorcing now, because the man accidentally posted pictures on Facebook of himself with his affair partner, thinking that he had posted them to just to the adultery partner.