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Your post is so funny . . . I guess it is a matter of perspective. There are so many successful woman to date in the DC area that you would gain half of their retirement if you divorced after marriage. And it would be much more than 400k.

Way to miss the point, genius. The number of such "successful women" in DC is way smaller than the number of potential gold-diggers. And $400k might mean nothing to you, but I'll be damned if I'll sign a piece of paper that puts it at risk when there is absolutely no positive reason to do so.

You missed the point yourself. She gets 400k from you and you get 1.5 mil from her, who is losing? You can't even imagine it.

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Your post is so funny . . . I guess it is a matter of perspective. There are so many successful woman to date in the DC area that you would gain half of their retirement if you divorced after marriage. And it would be much more than 400k.

Way to miss the point, genius. The number of such "successful women" in DC is way smaller than the number of potential gold-diggers. And $400k might mean nothing to you, but I'll be damned if I'll sign a piece of paper that puts it at risk when there is absolutely no positive reason to do so.

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Your post is so funny . . . I guess it is a matter of perspective. There are so many successful woman to date in the DC area that you would gain half of their retirement if you divorced after marriage. And it would be much more than 400k.

Anonymous wrote:I'm also 50, overweight, and more men fall in love with me than is appropriate. I certainly wouldn't expect it given cultural expectations about men, women's weight, and so on. I don't think the statements in this thread about the "commodity trading" ethos on dating apps really get at what goes on with many middle-aged people who are grappling with their life, their purpose, their legacy. This thread misses all of that.

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Anonymous wrote:Many 50 yeard old men are not FWB material.

Many 50+ women are fat, sagging, wrinkled, not worth FWB.

This is me! Yet, men are coming out of the woodwork to climb into my hole. I don't get it.

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Anonymous wrote:Many 50 yeard old men are not FWB material.

Many 50+ women are fat, sagging, wrinkled, not worth FWB.

This is me! Yet, men are coming out of the woodwork to climb into my hole. I don't get it.

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Anonymous wrote:Many 50 yeard old men are not FWB material.

Many 50+ women are fat, sagging, wrinkled, not worth FWB.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s funny because most of the older divorced guys I know are looking to remarry immediately so they have someone to tale care of them.

What's this 'taking care of them' thing I see mentioned here? Feminism ruined that concept. My wife is about as caring and nurturing as the pizza delivery guy and I'd say that's true for all of my male friends except for the ones who married old fashioned southern girls.

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Anonymous wrote:Never married, fit, older woman who is fine with her marital status . . . the hardest thing to find is a divorced person to date who is not bitter.

I want much more than being FWB, it would even be nice to share the same space one day (NOT NOW) but I am not looking for you to take care of me financially, or be a father to my child.

I want to enjoy you, for you. I wish men could see this but it is hard breaking through old stereotypes.

And the funniest comments that I hear are about wanting a man's retirement. Really? Do you think I am going to bend over backward to get a half of the half of your retirement that you are getting after your divorce?

Hey, I'm a divorced older man. Just like you,
- I am fine being single
- I have trouble finding a divorced person to date who isn't bitter and obsessed with their ex
- I want more than FWB but I don't want you to cook / clean / be a "caretaker" (whatever the hell that means) or a step-mom to my kids
- I want to enjoy you for you

"Really? Do you think I am going to bend over backward to get a half of the half of your retirement that you are getting after your divorce?"

She did not get half my retirement. That's why I have to be very careful not to wife up someone who - unlike myself or XW - does not have significant retirement assets. I wouldn't take it for granted that anyone does.

And oh by the way, if XW had gotten half, then the "half the remaining half" that would be at risk in a second marriage would still be a shitload of money (on the order of $400k). I would hate to give that up and I would not want to give any woman a legal claim to it.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't date old men because there are plenty of younger men who are better in bed and a lot less trouble.

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Anonymous wrote:And the funniest comments that I hear are about wanting a man's retirement. Really? Do you think I am going to bend over backward to get a half of the half of your retirement that you are getting after your divorce?

As a GS-15, even half my retirement has a net present value of $1.3 million. That includes half the social security benefit, half the FERs payment, and a five percent annual withdrawal of my TSP (the RMDs are likely higher), along with the value of federal healthcare for life. It's enough to bend over backward for unless you are also a fed.

Federal healthcare for like is what seems to really moisten the panties of the 55-60 year old women.

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Anonymous wrote:Never married, fit, older woman who is fine with her marital status . . . the hardest thing to find is a divorced person to date who is not bitter.

I want much more than being FWB, it would even be nice to share the same space one day (NOT NOW) but I am not looking for you to take care of me financially, or be a father to my child.

I want to enjoy you, for you. I wish men could see this but it is hard breaking through old stereotypes.

And the funniest comments that I hear are about wanting a man's retirement. Really? Do you think I am going to bend over backward to get a half of the half of your retirement that you are getting after your divorce?

Hey, I'm a divorced older man. Just like you,
- I am fine being single
- I have trouble finding a divorced person to date who isn't bitter and obsessed with their ex
- I want more than FWB but I don't want you to cook / clean / be a "caretaker" (whatever the hell that means) or a step-mom to my kids
- I want to enjoy you for you

"Really? Do you think I am going to bend over backward to get a half of the half of your retirement that you are getting after your divorce?"

She did not get half my retirement. That's why I have to be very careful not to wife up someone who - unlike myself or XW - does not have significant retirement assets. I wouldn't take it for granted that anyone does.

And oh by the way, if XW had gotten half, then the "half the remaining half" that would be at risk in a second marriage would still be a shitload of money (on the order of $400k). I would hate to give that up and I would not want to give any woman a legal claim to it.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't date old men because there are plenty of younger men who are better in bed and a lot less trouble.

Yeah but would the younger men date you? I dont care if "you are told you look young" "your fit" "you are still ___" If your drivers lic says you are 44/45+, why would a man 40 or so or younger date you? If a guy close to 40 has taken care of himself, looks good, has a decent job, half decent clothes and grooming habits he can date hot women in their 20's or 30's. You used "date" and "better in bed" in the same sentence. This is a conflicting statement at best would a man bang a woman near that age? of course.. Date a woman that age? Only if he is between women aka desperate. Sure if you are a smoking hot 38 year old you don't have to belly up to the AARP buffet table yet but that day is near.

Anonymous wrote:The bitterness here really is depressing.

I remember as a 26 year-old man my 40 year-old girlfriend. I was exhausted keeping up with her and I mean that in the best way.

Age is just a number.