Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 16:30     Subject: No kids weddings rant
Most of the kid-free weddings I have been to have ended in divorce. I think it is because people who are so uptight and lack a family focused don’t do well long term.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 16:29     Subject: No kids weddings rant
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wish people would get over themselves and invite kids to their weddings. The past 2 weddings we’ve been invited to are kid-free, both family - DH’s cousin and sister. We have to travel for both of them. We decided to just send DH to his cousin’s, and we will suck it up for his sister’s and have my parents watch our 9, 6 & 3 year old. I know “it’s their wedding they can do whatever they want” but I don’t get it - no ring bearer or flower girls, no cute kids on the dance floor. Weddings are supposed to be about family coming together. Okay. Rant over.


We are paying for an ADULT EVENT. Only you think your brats are adorable getting in everyone's way on the dance floor, or sticking their grubby finger in the cake and then rubbing the icing on the bride's gown. t


Do you have feral children? My child are well behaved and would never do such a thing.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 16:25     Subject: No kids weddings rant
Anonymous wrote:I agree OP. I don’t go to weddings without kids. End of story.


I doubt you are missed
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 16:25     Subject: Re:No kids weddings rant
Anonymous wrote:OP - who is dragging kids to the wedding. As stated, we are complying. It is just really inconvenient.


Then stay home. You will not be missed
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 16:23     Subject: No kids weddings rant
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it is pretty weird, too, but people can do what they want. Don’t feel bad RSVPing no. They invite. You get to choose if you attend.



I agree with this. They certainly have a right to do and I have a right to say no with no judgement.

I see both sides.

I had a good girlfriend who came to my small destination wedding when she was single. Fast forward several years and she is now getting married OUT OF STATE which would require me to be gone probably 2 nights due to it's location, and expects me come - but no kids are invited. Um, I have 2 small children so I tell her regretfully I can't make it. She is upset. Say what???? She says "can't someone just watch your kids?" I was flabbergasted. Uh, no. We have no family in the area, they are LITTLE, like both under 3, and my husbands job is such that he works hours that make it impossible to care for 2 little kids, one of whom isn't even in daycare. The cluelessness and utter obtuseness were astounding. I sent a nice gift and didn't lose a moment of sleep over it.


You sound real selfish
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 16:21     Subject: No kids weddings rant
Anonymous wrote:I wish people would get over themselves and invite kids to their weddings. The past 2 weddings we’ve been invited to are kid-free, both family - DH’s cousin and sister. We have to travel for both of them. We decided to just send DH to his cousin’s, and we will suck it up for his sister’s and have my parents watch our 9, 6 & 3 year old. I know “it’s their wedding they can do whatever they want” but I don’t get it - no ring bearer or flower girls, no cute kids on the dance floor. Weddings are supposed to be about family coming together. Okay. Rant over.


We are paying for an ADULT EVENT. Only you think your brats are adorable getting in everyone's way on the dance floor, or sticking their grubby finger in the cake and then rubbing the icing on the bride's gown. t
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 16:16     Subject: No kids weddings rant
Anonymous wrote:I wish people would get over themselves and invite kids to their weddings. The past 2 weddings we’ve been invited to are kid-free, both family - DH’s cousin and sister. We have to travel for both of them. We decided to just send DH to his cousin’s, and we will suck it up for his sister’s and have my parents watch our 9, 6 & 3 year old. I know “it’s their wedding they can do whatever they want” but I don’t get it - nqo ring bearer or flower girls, no cute kids on the dance floor. Weddings are supposed to be about family coming together. Okay. Rant over.


I know, OP. It’s super hard when your kids are right at that super cute junior attendant age, and don’t get invited.

Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 16:08     Subject: No kids weddings rant
The whole point of matrimony is for kids. Everyone else is culturally appropriating.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 16:02     Subject: No kids weddings rant
Anonymous wrote:I wish people would get over themselves and invite kids to their weddings. The past 2 weddings we’ve been invited to are kid-free, both family - DH’s cousin and sister. We have to travel for both of them. We decided to just send DH to his cousin’s, and we will suck it up for his sister’s and have my parents watch our 9, 6 & 3 year old. I know “it’s their wedding they can do whatever they want” but I don’t get it - no ring bearer or flower girls, no cute kids on the dance floor. Weddings are supposed to be about family coming together. Okay. Rant over.



I hate kids at weddings - my kids or anyone else’s kids. I love no-kid weddings and was brought up to believe that weddings were adult affairs.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 15:51     Subject: No kids weddings rant
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I may be in the minority here but I'd rather attend a wedding without my kids or not go at all. I love them but I also enjoy being able to relax, have fun and enjoy some adult conversations.



I agree. There’s a lot of moms who just can’t ever leave their kids.


Depending on circumstances and childcare sometimes I leave my kids at home even if they were invited.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 14:38     Subject: Re:No kids weddings rant
I had a no kid wedding, but provided a sitter. The kids in the wedding were invited to the dinner. My reception ended at midnight kids would have been cranky.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 14:27     Subject: No kids weddings rant
Anonymous wrote:A lot of people will agree with you, but a lot of people here won’t. When I was a kid, kids were invited to all the weddings my family was invited to. I’m not sure when this changed.

Weddings are in large part a celebration of the idea of family. Circle of life and all that conveys.


But more people are childfree and why should they want to deal with your kids?
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 14:21     Subject: No kids weddings rant
OP - decline DH’s sister’s wedding? Yea right. Now that would be passive aggressive to the nth degree! Plus DH is in the wedding. Anyway, I just think it is inconsiderate to assume people can dump their kids on grandparents for a whole weekend.

Oh, OP, I’m trying to figure out if this statement says more about how you feel about your SIL, or what the relationship with both your children and parents is like.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 14:08     Subject: No kids weddings rant
I had screaming kids during my entire ceremony. I have no issue with kid free ceremonies and if I do not have child care we just decline.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 13:45     Subject: No kids weddings rant
Anonymous wrote:I may be in the minority here but I'd rather attend a wedding without my kids or not go at all. I love them but I also enjoy being able to relax, have fun and enjoy some adult conversations.



Agreed! I have a toddler and don’t want to monitor his food intake food or mood at a party. I’d much rather find a local sitter so everyone stays happy. If it’s out of town, we might skip some of the other wedding events to do family activities.