Those two looks are the same.

What I pictured from your description...

https://goo.gl/images/2w25uo

I find this thread to be sad for so many reasons.

First, stop comparing yourself to your friend. Comparison is the thief of joy.

Second, just be yourself.

Third, if you’re interested in a particular guy, then ask him out.

Anonymous wrote:What a nasty friend you are. This has to be a troll. If not a troll, you are not a good friend, you are nasty, you are coarse and you are judgmental. Why ever would anyone be interested in you?

I don't think she's a troll. She's posted before. She's a bitter, judgemental, asshole. she never reflects on her own behavior as to why she can't attract quality guys and just tears apart others and talks down enough then because she's jealous. She's just an adult bully. But she never wants to listen to anyone tell her to adjust her attitude so I suppose she can just look forward to being single or having to settle because no quality guy would want her.

What a nasty friend you are. This has to be a troll. If not a troll, you are not a good friend, you are nasty, you are coarse and you are judgmental. Why ever would anyone be interested in you?

Nothing sexy about a trust fund guy.

I think she is simply prettier, whiter, and is more polished.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, those 2 pics represent the same style in different settings. You are not seeing yourself clearly.

Op here. I don’t dress too differently from my friend. She is more polished and puts more effort into her looks. She’ll never leave the house without hair and makeup. I often go to brunch in no makeup and natural hair.

I don’t understand how I’m attracting the hipsters and underachievers. I am well spoken, a lot more “sophisticated” than said friend in that I read a lot and am a policy wonk. She is simply...very pretty and into makeup and social climbing.

First impressions last a lifetime

Anonymous wrote:I find it amusing you are accusing her of social climbing when it sounds like that’s what your goal is. So fix your hair, put on some damn makeup, and be prepared to be bored by Skip and Trip for the next 40 years.

Anonymous wrote:Guys don’t want a project. If they’re the type that goes to galas, they want a partner who looks like she knows how to handle herself in those situations, not someone they have to worry will embarrass them. When your friend does her hair and make-up all the time, she has a polish that signals to those men that she can look and act the part. By not doing hair and make-up, you signal that they can’t trust you to do the same.

oh please whatever. bottom line is friend is an 8 and OP is 5. men will choose messy hair natalie portman over shiny hair sarah silverman any day.

looks are by far the most important thing that men care about, OP.

98% of men don't care about what books you read or how intellectual you are. 1% are either lying or only care as reflection of their own ego. 1% do care somewhat about personality (in addition to looks)

also everyone (men and women) like genuine confidence and OP sounds like she does not have much.

more women should focus on developing themselves to be high earners and pursue their own interests to be self-sufficient.

stop waiting for some man to take of you.

it's an important life lesson.

Guys don’t want a project. If they’re the type that goes to galas, they want a partner who looks like she knows how to handle herself in those situations, not someone they have to worry will embarrass them. When your friend does her hair and make-up all the time, she has a polish that signals to those men that she can look and act the part. By not doing hair and make-up, you signal that they can’t trust you to do the same.

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Anonymous wrote:We've heard from you before haven't we, OP? I can't quite place the thread but your woes combined with ethnic background sound familiar.

Yes, I was wondering the same. Something about wanting to look like wealthy WASPy women?

Oh yes I also recognize OP. It's no wonder she's single...

+1

i'm a guy. The styles look the same - probably more of a personality difference.

If it makes you feel better op, those guys aren't that great in many ways

More likely to cheat, dump you, not appreciate you, etc

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Anonymous wrote:My best guess is that she is simply prettier than you are, and there is assortive mating going on (10s chasing 10s; hipster guys who are 6s going after realistic you and non unobtainable her).

OP here. I can see that. She is definitely a lot more conventionally attractive. Slim figure, great hair, nice smile. She is an 8 but can go up to a 10 with hair and makeup. I am probably a 5 and can be a 7 with hair and makeup.

Duh. There you go. She can be a 10, you can be a 7. Of course you're not getting the rich guys. It's just the harsh reality.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We've heard from you before haven't we, OP? I can't quite place the thread but your woes combined with ethnic background sound familiar.

Yes, I was wondering the same. Something about wanting to look like wealthy WASPy women?

Oh yes I also recognize OP. It's no wonder she's single...