Anonymous wrote:Another full pay parent here who understands. I sometimes think we are the biggest suckers ever, then i think we are lucky that we are able to afford it on two regular DMV salaries (fed and contractor) through dedicated saving, living below our means and prioritizing education. Plus it's a HA with a very specific program that my kid has been working for. Mostly I have made my peace with it.

Still a sucker, though. Sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, thought it was "your" income.

You are a dependent, like your child.

Haha...that's cute. Yes I am fine with that truly. I enjoy going to yoga classes and getting my nails done. It's fun and relaxing. I worked for many years before this though! Ciao!

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Anonymous wrote:<<I'd be thrilled if my daughters could land a spouse that earns $800,000 a year.>>

Am I the only one who seems being "kept" somewhere along the spectrum that ends with prostitution

Do you not see how this mindset plays into the mindset of many men who resent/hate women (vs respect them as equals)???

Anonymous wrote:<<I'd be thrilled if my daughters could land a spouse that earns $800,000 a year.>>

Am I the only one who seems being "kept" somewhere along the spectrum that ends with prostitution

Do you not see how this mindset plays into the mindset of many men who resent/hate women (vs respect them as equals)???

Who cares whether someone chooses to raise their kids vs contracting out to nannies and the like. I did a little of both, and both lifestyles worked for me at those particular times. Yes DH is a high earner, which is one of the reasons it was an easy decision to be there for my family. And fwiw, he was only making $250K 12 years ago and before that even less as an independent contractor when I supported him with supplemental income and health insurance. But I have to say, Easy Street is quite pleasant, and I don’t see myself returning to the workforce ever. Very happy with the schedule I have now.

Hey now - I stayed home, my family benefitted, and society benefitted because I have volunteered a lot. I think my husband and my acting and working as a team has been a great role model for our kids. And no, we could not afford to send them to the most expensive schools and I don’t think that has hurt them at all. At the end of the day they will end up in excellent grad schools, they will be debt free, we will have retirement savings and none of us are on anxiety meds freaked out by professional or financial anxiety. I’d say to give all of that up to send our kids to expensive schools we cannot afford would make us suckers.

Anonymous wrote:Ever consider what that "lifestyle" choice is teaching your daughters (and sons) about women, and their role in society?

Yeah, i wonder about the 'wage gap"...

So so unfair.

Anonymous wrote:Actually we all are. For voting into office ineffective representatives that cannot keep cost of education down for the future of the country. For allowing these colleges that build huge endowments to be non profit. For not having a solid elementary and secondary education free to all children, not just those who live in wealthy neighborhoods/wealthy. For allowing student loans cripple our economy and our children’s future.

Change the student loans structure: the universities give the loans and the kids pay back from future salaries. Cut the administrative bloat. I am sure there are better and more effective ideas out there that better minds can come up with.

+1.

The future is not random loans, but truly INVESTING in students

<<I'd be thrilled if my daughters could land a spouse that earns $800,000 a year.>>

Am I the only one who seems being "kept" somewhere along the spectrum that ends with prostitution

Do you not see how this mindset plays into the mindset of many men who resent/hate women (vs respect them as equals)???

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Anonymous wrote:These suckers donate millions in hopes of giving their kid an opportunity at a full pay slot at a top 10. These people are too clueless to realize that Stanford is no different from Bama.

Seriously?

NP. One of my kids went to an Ivy. The other two went to solid state schools. There is a lot of truth to this even though parents don’t like to hear it. All three of my college grads are doing great. My Ivy kid isn’t doing anything the other two aren’t doing.

There is a big difference between "Bama provides a great education and opportunities" and "Stanford is no different from Bama".

One of those statements is undeniably true, and the other is, well, if you gotta ask...

Of course. Just idiotic.

I’m the Bama/Stanford pp. Guess the sarcasm didn’t get through.

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Anonymous wrote:Reconceptualize it. Consider yourself not a sucker, but as privileged family that can afford to pay sticker price.

Agree with this.

And whose kid is likely to have a broader range of high-status options than kids with the same stats whose parents can’t afford full pay.

+1 I had a moment when I thought about the hefty bill and compared it to what others pay or what we might have paid elsewhere. But it's not just the quality of education to consider. Worth every dollar! Overall school reputation, and for the field they decide to start their careers in, opens many doors. And I don't mean Ivy vs non-Ivy. My DC and university friends all landed interesting, high paying jobs. They are all capable, smart kids but there are lots of capable, smart kids everywhere. DC is very privileged that we are first able to pay and second that his parents made the choice to pay abet for other reasons I was rather naive about school reputation; my eyes are wide open now. There is nothing fair about it for kids who can't afford it but I'm glad life circumstances worked in DC's favor.

Anonymous wrote:Um we made about $240k combined OP and had no issue with full pay for our only child to go to an Ivy. Why would anyone think someone else should pay or subsidize their choice to have off-spring?

Do you have any idea where your taxes go? This is the basis of so many economic policies.

Um we made about $240k combined OP and had no issue with full pay for our only child to go to an Ivy. Why would anyone think someone else should pay or subsidize their choice to have off-spring?

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, thought it was "your" income.

You are a dependent, like your child.

Haha...that's cute. Yes I am fine with that truly. I enjoy going to yoga classes and getting my nails done. It's fun and relaxing. I worked for many years before this though! Ciao!

Ignore the jealous haters.

Anonymous wrote:Ever consider what that "lifestyle" choice is teaching your daughters (and sons) about women, and their role in society?

NP here. I'd be thrilled if my daughters could land a spouse that earns $800,000 a year.

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Anonymous wrote:These suckers donate millions in hopes of giving their kid an opportunity at a full pay slot at a top 10. These people are too clueless to realize that Stanford is no different from Bama.

Seriously?

NP. One of my kids went to an Ivy. The other two went to solid state schools. There is a lot of truth to this even though parents don’t like to hear it. All three of my college grads are doing great. My Ivy kid isn’t doing anything the other two aren’t doing.

There is a big difference between "Bama provides a great education and opportunities" and "Stanford is no different from Bama".

One of those statements is undeniably true, and the other is, well, if you gotta ask...

Of course. Just idiotic.