Your husband is the problem. DTMFA

Your husband should have married one of the many many many women happy to be a SAHM. Didn’t you guys discuss this?

Hard truth

People in 2 successful careers should think twice before having kids

It's a lot more work and someone has to take a hit professionally even if you outsource a ton of stuff. It's much different with a child (children)

I mean, have you seen the Hallmark holiday movies? We are all doomed if we big-city working women don't move to small towns and marry dudes who run Christmas woodworking shops.

I shouldn't joke; I'm sorry you are struggling with this.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know, if you have a family that you never see is that really success?

I see my family plenty. My kids get up at 5:30 am...I get up with them. I leave for work 3 hours later. I wake up to feed the baby 2-3x a night. I am home by 6:30 pm most nights and it’s another 2 hours before eldest goes to sleep. DH prefers to sleep in and gets off work by 4:30/5:00 but goes to the gym or hangs with his friends until DCs are asleep. He has to do morning and bedtime when my work conflicts.

Sounds like you picked a loser. I am sure when you were younger you overlooked all the decent nicer guys, but I am sure they weren't tall enough or cool enough. So you reap what you sow.

Your husband should not be resenting your success. Is he from a different culture needing nanny or his mom all the time to take care of the kids?

Anonymous wrote:By any measure, I have succeeded in a male dominated profession. I also am a Mom. My husband is more successful from a financial stand point but works less hours and I am still expected to do 80% of anything kid related. He resents my job, my travel and my success. How to navigate?

This was me. I divorced him. Best thing I ever did. Now I am engaged to someone who is totally supportive of my career. I'm making more than I've ever made and my kids are happy.

Anonymous wrote:I guess I’m in the minority, but are you really succeeding if your marriage is falling apart and you’ll be putting your kid(s) through the proverbial lifelong ringer??
Most men like traditional roles around the house. Not all and go find your unicorn if you think he exists.
Otherwise let your man be the king of the castle. Let him make decisions more often and respect him to do so.
Not saying what sounds good but what works!
I promis there’s marital happiness on the other side of this. Best of luck!

+1

I guess I’m in the minority, but are you really succeeding if your marriage is falling apart and you’ll be putting your kid(s) through the proverbial lifelong ringer??
Most men like traditional roles around the house. Not all and go find your unicorn if you think he exists.
Otherwise let your man be the king of the castle. Let him make decisions more often and respect him to do so.
Not saying what sounds good but what works!
I promis there’s marital happiness on the other side of this. Best of luck!