Yes, they often end up alcoholics and drug addicts because they can never live up to the pressure.

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Anonymous wrote:Well OP, my observation is that more parents of "popular" kids get to deal with their kids addictions to drugs or alcohol later in life. And, potentially with sexually transmitted diseases or unwanted pregnancies at higher rates than "unpopular" kids. So there is that.

Unpopular kids are drinking, vaping and having sex too.

Damn right they are! I know this first hand. OP, where are you getting your information? You either need more reliable sources, or you need to MYOB, or both. Concentrate on your own family.

Ok so please respond to every anonymous question on an anonymous forum as myob. That’s really productive. Why even answer? Just myob back at ya!

Honest question: why do you care so much what other kids are or are not doing?

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Anonymous wrote:Also, your perceptions are weird. “Inner circle”? Sycophants? I’m sure there are popular kids in my kid’s class, but I would never notice that level of dynamics, or think to describe it that way.

Lol, BS. My son plays sports. Within 30 seconds of being at his first varsity practice I could identify the filthy rich heartthrob of the school. My daughter is in all sorts of clubs. If we attend an event we can quickly identify the prettiest/wealthiest outgoing girls the other girls seem to gravitate towards.

What do you care? Seriously. Why are you so preoccupied with this topic?

Have your kids find friends that actually want him around.

Anonymous wrote:My dc is quirky and a little dorky and never gets invited or included by kids at school despite hosting endless playdates and parties. I’ve always wondered though, do the parents of the popular kids ever have to suffer? They seem to reap benefit after benefit. Endless invitations, sycophants kissing up to get in their inner circles, preferential treatment at the school and sports, the list goes on. Honest question- what are their grievances?

DS1 is popular. My grievances are the same as yours, except for DS2. It would be great if something "trickled down" to DS2, but no. I don't even think he will be admitted to DS1's middle school. It makes me want to rant and set the school on fire, but where we live there are not a ton of private options and public schools are a no-go. So I will quietly seethe...and stop donating money.

It does influence how I parent DS1. I talk to him a lot about being inclusive and for parties and things he either has to invite his class or a much smaller subset of boys. But the truth is he has a lot of friends and doesn't get to spend time with them as much as he likes. He would be in big, huge, unbelievable trouble if I ever found out he was bullying someone, or telling someone they couldn't sit with him at lunch, but I don't control who he is genuinely friends with. I don't think he understands yet how different his brother is. I am protecting him somewhat because I don't want him to worry, but knowing may also make him a better human. I don't know. We'll probably have a heart a heart when he starts asking questions about why DS2 is not going to his school.

DS2 has a couple friends now in elementary school who reciprocate, so he is Ok for another year or two. I have no idea what will happen to him in middle school, and it keeps me up at night.

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Anonymous wrote:Well OP, my observation is that more parents of "popular" kids get to deal with their kids addictions to drugs or alcohol later in life. And, potentially with sexually transmitted diseases or unwanted pregnancies at higher rates than "unpopular" kids. So there is that.

Unpopular kids are drinking, vaping and having sex too.

NP. Yes this is true. PP's "observation" is so far off of the mark.

According to my HS junior, the popular kids generally go to parties every weekend, on a rotating basis. Parents look the other way. Unpopular kids still drink and smoke, but do so on the "down low".

The unwanted pregnancy comment is just a straight up joke. Many HSers are having sex, even the unpopular. Some protected, some not. Abortion and plan B are popular options for all teens.

Addition is purely genetic (duh) and doesn't matter if you are rich/poor, popular/nerdy.

Anonymous wrote:Also, your perceptions are weird. “Inner circle”? Sycophants? I’m sure there are popular kids in my kid’s class, but I would never notice that level of dynamics, or think to describe it that way.

Lol, BS. My son plays sports. Within 30 seconds of being at his first varsity practice I could identify the filthy rich heartthrob of the school. My daughter is in all sorts of clubs. If we attend an event we can quickly identify the prettiest/wealthiest outgoing girls the other girls seem to gravitate towards.

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Anonymous wrote:Well OP, my observation is that more parents of "popular" kids get to deal with their kids addictions to drugs or alcohol later in life. And, potentially with sexually transmitted diseases or unwanted pregnancies at higher rates than "unpopular" kids. So there is that.

Unpopular kids are drinking, vaping and having sex too.

Damn right they are! I know this first hand. OP, where are you getting your information? You either need more reliable sources, or you need to MYOB, or both. Concentrate on your own family.

Ok so please respond to every anonymous question on an anonymous forum as myob. That’s really productive. Why even answer? Just myob back at ya!

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Anonymous wrote:I see some "popular" kids at my kids school and I thank god they are not my kids. In the same way all the "popular" kids in my HS were frankly, assholes. They weren't just assholes to everyone else either - but also to each other. And they all peaked in HS never to be heard from again.

Thankfully.

I think this is a fable.

+1

Way to be judgy and stereotype. No wonder - I would not let my kid hang around with kids who have parents who are so awful, popular or not. Look at your behavior! Wow.

What did I miss? what behavior, calling "popular" kids assholes? you seriously need a thicker skin.

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Anonymous wrote:Well OP, my observation is that more parents of "popular" kids get to deal with their kids addictions to drugs or alcohol later in life. And, potentially with sexually transmitted diseases or unwanted pregnancies at higher rates than "unpopular" kids. So there is that.

Unpopular kids are drinking, vaping and having sex too.

Damn right they are! I know this first hand. OP, where are you getting your information? You either need more reliable sources, or you need to MYOB, or both. Concentrate on your own family.

Anonymous wrote:My dc is quirky and a little dorky and never gets invited or included by kids at school despite hosting endless playdates and parties. I’ve always wondered though, do the parents of the popular kids ever have to suffer? They seem to reap benefit after benefit. Endless invitations, sycophants kissing up to get in their inner circles, preferential treatment at the school and sports, the list goes on. Honest question- what are their grievances?

I worry that you look at it as other people "suffering", OP. That does not sound normal.

I have one of those children.
I also have a child who died as an infant.
I also have a child on the spectrum.

So yes. We have upsetting parenting moments.

OP, you do you and stop keeping score. Everyone is going through something. It’s really not your business. You sound extremely naive. Stay in your own lane. And grow up.

Anonymous wrote:Well OP, my observation is that more parents of "popular" kids get to deal with their kids addictions to drugs or alcohol later in life. And, potentially with sexually transmitted diseases or unwanted pregnancies at higher rates than "unpopular" kids. So there is that.

Unpopular kids are drinking, vaping and having sex too.

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Anonymous wrote:I see some "popular" kids at my kids school and I thank god they are not my kids. In the same way all the "popular" kids in my HS were frankly, assholes. They weren't just assholes to everyone else either - but also to each other. And they all peaked in HS never to be heard from again.

Thankfully.

I think this is a fable.

+1

Way to be judgy and stereotype. No wonder - I would not let my kid hang around with kids who have parents who are so awful, popular or not. Look at your behavior! Wow.

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Anonymous wrote:They’re probably extroverts with extroverted kids and love being social. You only need a couple friends, does he have any? Is he unhappy?

X10000

This. Why are you blaming other people OP? You see yourself as a victim, and you are teaching your own children to play the very same dramatic part, like a broken record. You have no faith in yourself, so you have no faith in your DC. Your spouse is not your father. Learn when to say when. You are causing a LOT of damage to your family.

Why is it so important to you to try to hurt other people (because you feel hurt)? You are teaching your DC the wrong way. Back off.

You are VERY judgemental. You should see a therapist about that. You’re hurting your children by being so judgements. Please don’t hurt your kids.

Hahahahaha- hit a big ol’ nerve! Hilarious!