Anonymous wrote:My weekdays were for academics and weekends were for relaxing when I was in college. I couldn't maintain the pace and would get burned out quickly if I didn't have the weekends to relax. On Sunday night I would write papers or whatever, but needed a block of time without academics. I did fine in college.

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Very demanding major. Worked hard Monday through Thursday and then Sunday afternoon. Missed all of the mid-week parties but had a blast on weekends.

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Anonymous wrote:I never studied in the library at college. But occasionally I would do so class reading there because of the nice smoking lounge and a coffee machine.

We all use the find my family app, so it’s not like she’s just not in one of many libraries (or study spots), she’s barely studying.

Wow.

Welcome to 2018. Actually, welcome to 2012, this tech has been around for years. And Snapchat location sharing has been a thing for two years? Your child is most likely sharing their exact location 24/7 with hundreds of "friends".

No he isn't. He rarely uses Snapchat anymore.

Why didn't you just put GPS on your kid somehow?

Black Mirror episode.

Ha. I started partying on Thursday night at my school. Fridays and Saturdays were for fun as well. I hit the books from about 2 to 11 on Sundays. On Mondays thru Wednesdays I tended to study from 7:30 to 11:30 or so.

I was an A/B student until I moved to my major courses, where I was straight A. I was also in a sorority. 20ish hours was just right for studying. Went straight from college into a job in my field.

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Anonymous wrote:I never studied in the library at college. But occasionally I would do so class reading there because of the nice smoking lounge and a coffee machine.

We all use the find my family app, so it’s not like she’s just not in one of many libraries (or study spots), she’s barely studying.

Wow.

Welcome to 2018. Actually, welcome to 2012, this tech has been around for years. And Snapchat location sharing has been a thing for two years? Your child is most likely sharing their exact location 24/7 with hundreds of "friends".

No he isn't. He rarely uses Snapchat anymore.

Why didn't you just put GPS on your kid somehow?

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Anonymous wrote:I never studied in the library at college. But occasionally I would do so class reading there because of the nice smoking lounge and a coffee machine.

We all use the find my family app, so it’s not like she’s just not in one of many libraries (or study spots), she’s barely studying.

O.k. this is creepy. I can't imagine tracking my college kid like that. Your assumptions based on this tracking may not even be accurate. I know that I studied in my dorm and sometimes even outside sitting on the grass. A picnic table on a pretty day was a great place to study.

It’s not creepy, it’s new normal. All of her friends know her every move on Snapchat GPS and family in find my family. And every app you have knows even more. Maybe you’re just a luddite. It allows us to piece together an accurate picture of her actions. She’s not studying enough.

Anyways, I was just trying to figure out when most kids crack the books on a Sunday. Thanks.

You sound like my son's girlfriend's parents.

Scary.

If she doesn't meet your academic requirements, stop paying for college.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how college students have any free time. My son is a freshman and he plays soccer at a Power-5 D1 school. He is taking 15 credits per semester and he spends about 50 hours per week outside of the class room just to keep up. Between going to class, study, meal, and soccer practice/match/travel, he barely has enough time to sleep let alone socializing with other people.

Studying 50 hrs/week = 10 hours a day, 5 days a week OR a little over 7 hours a day, 7 days a week. That is a lot of studying.

To me it is a kid who did not get good guidance on class selection or is at the wrong school..

+1 50 hours per week is way too much. 25 hours per week is sufficient. Maybe a little more if lab intensive major. If your kid is spending 50 hours a week studying, he is at the wrong school for him. This is not meant to be mean, I just feel for him if he has to put in that much time. It is not reasonable.

I suspect you're a state school alum who can't wrap their head around being at a difficult college. Or pursuing a challenging concentration. My boyfriend in college was a CS major and easily put in 40-50 hours outside of class.

Maybe I was just better prepared going into college? I remember my freshman year as being pretty easy, actually.

If I had to study hard, I was in my room. When I wanted to flirt with the cute guy upstairs, we went to the stacks and studied, but it was more study breaking than studying. No one did any work from Friday night until Sunday afternoon - Saturday was a day off. We all graduated at least cum lauds from Yale.

Back off.

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Anonymous wrote:I was always angry that the library didn't open until 9 on Sunday.

lol +1. I used to wait outside of it 10 minutes before opening to make sure I got my favorite spot. And I seriously partied quite a bit in college. Sunday was the day to grind, I'd be in there for 12-15 hours with little breaks in-between.

You mean to tell me that you partied on Saturday nights (actually drank, danced, met guys, etc), got home at 2 or 3am in the morning and then, like clockwork, you were at the library every Sunday 10 minutes before it opened?

No way could I have done that. But if it worked for you...

I'm a librarian. Most students come in after brunch or lunch on Sunday. Saturday is always slower, and Sunday night is busy.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how college students have any free time. My son is a freshman and he plays soccer at a Power-5 D1 school. He is taking 15 credits per semester and he spends about 50 hours per week outside of the class room just to keep up. Between going to class, study, meal, and soccer practice/match/travel, he barely has enough time to sleep let alone socializing with other people.

Studying 50 hrs/week = 10 hours a day, 5 days a week OR a little over 7 hours a day, 7 days a week. That is a lot of studying.

To me it is a kid who did not get good guidance on class selection or is at the wrong school..

+1 50 hours per week is way too much. 25 hours per week is sufficient. Maybe a little more if lab intensive major. If your kid is spending 50 hours a week studying, he is at the wrong school for him. This is not meant to be mean, I just feel for him if he has to put in that much time. It is not reasonable.

I suspect you're a state school alum who can't wrap their head around being at a difficult college. Or pursuing a challenging concentration. My boyfriend in college was a CS major and easily put in 40-50 hours outside of class.

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Anonymous wrote:I never studied in the library at college. But occasionally I would do so class reading there because of the nice smoking lounge and a coffee machine.

We all use the find my family app, so it’s not like she’s just not in one of many libraries (or study spots), she’s barely studying.

Wow.

Welcome to 2018. Actually, welcome to 2012, this tech has been around for years. And Snapchat location sharing has been a thing for two years? Your child is most likely sharing their exact location 24/7 with hundreds of "friends".

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how college students have any free time. My son is a freshman and he plays soccer at a Power-5 D1 school. He is taking 15 credits per semester and he spends about 50 hours per week outside of the class room just to keep up. Between going to class, study, meal, and soccer practice/match/travel, he barely has enough time to sleep let alone socializing with other people.

Studying 50 hrs/week = 10 hours a day, 5 days a week OR a little over 7 hours a day, 7 days a week. That is a lot of studying.

To me it is a kid who did not get good guidance on class selection or is at the wrong school..

+1 50 hours per week is way too much. 25 hours per week is sufficient. Maybe a little more if lab intensive major. If your kid is spending 50 hours a week studying, he is at the wrong school for him. This is not meant to be mean, I just feel for him if he has to put in that much time. It is not reasonable.

Anonymous wrote:I was always angry that the library didn't open until 9 on Sunday.

lol +1. I used to wait outside of it 10 minutes before opening to make sure I got my favorite spot. And I seriously partied quite a bit in college. Sunday was the day to grind, I'd be in there for 12-15 hours with little breaks in-between.

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Anonymous wrote:I never studied in the library at college. But occasionally I would do so class reading there because of the nice smoking lounge and a coffee machine.

We all use the find my family app, so it’s not like she’s just not in one of many libraries (or study spots), she’s barely studying.

Wow.

Well, I'm totally with OP on the stalking and the time management concerns in general. At least, I understand OP's concerns and am not so sure our emerging adults are ready to ride without training wheels.

And I work in a university library... but never liked to sit and study in libraries myself. I always chose more private places to work. People are all different that way.