Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Lots of over sharing of medical information early on. I don't get it.
Agree
Anonymous wrote:Lots of over sharing of medical information early on. I don't get it.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s not just women. When I was single, I dated many men with depression, anxiety, addiction, or BPD. But they rarely told me about it right away, or at all- sometimes to hide it, sometimes because they didn’t recognize they had it. Which makes things very messy when I have to end things weeks/months/tears down the road.
The bigger issue was why I was attracting those types of people. Took me a lot of therapy to figure that out.
What did therapy reveal as the reason you were attracted to these men and vice versa? I’m experiencing the same thing as you and trying to understand how to break this pattern.
Anonymous wrote:Men just wander around thinking about work and what/where to eat next.
Women race around thinking about work, kids, sports, health, the house, the yard, the nanny, the days off school/vacations, gifts to buy, insurance, meal planning, family schedule planning, clothes that fit everyone, play dates, school deadlines and homework, etc.
It’s overwhelming and then to have a cluesless partner would put anyone in the loony house!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think a huge chunk of men are walking around with low level PTSD from the violence they've suffered at the hands of other men. They, in turn, perpetuate the cycle by committing violent acts against others.
Men are far and away the greatest perpetrators of and victims of violence in society. It needs to stop.
I agree with some of what you say, but I think that you’ve missed a lot of the constant low level violence women and girls experience every day. Not just from romantic partners, but other male relatives and even strangers. A student (age 13) recently wrote an essay about being dragged out of a store by her long ponytail because the clerk thought she was stealing. Other customers watched and did nothing to stop him or comfort her afterwards.
How is this unique to women?
Not unique, which is my point. Men and women both experience lots of violence. I think the difference is the casual, low level violence against girls, which is harrowing, but not as visible as boys fighting each other at school or gang members shooting each other. I think women suffer a lot of unacknowledged violence that doesn’t make it into YouTube videos or the evening local news.
Anonymous wrote:Here’s my take. Women tend to be feelers. So we feel sad and stressed about all the horrible crap going on around us. More and more we are bombarded with this information. Yet we have no power to change anything since by and large men are in charge.
Men don’t seem to process the world the same way, so it’s less common for men to have anxiety. They are better at living in the moment and not worrying about the road ahead. If they did care, they would probably do something about it, but they don’t. So they watch sports.
Anonymous wrote:Men just wander around thinking about work and what/where to eat next.
Women race around thinking about work, kids, sports, health, the house, the yard, the nanny, the days off school/vacations, gifts to buy, insurance, meal planning, family schedule planning, clothes that fit everyone, play dates, school deadlines and homework, etc.
It’s overwhelming and then to have a cluesless partner would put anyone in the loony house!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think a huge chunk of men are walking around with low level PTSD from the violence they've suffered at the hands of other men. They, in turn, perpetuate the cycle by committing violent acts against others.
Men are far and away the greatest perpetrators of and victims of violence in society. It needs to stop.
I agree with some of what you say, but I think that you’ve missed a lot of the constant low level violence women and girls experience every day. Not just from romantic partners, but other male relatives and even strangers. A student (age 13) recently wrote an essay about being dragged out of a store by her long ponytail because the clerk thought she was stealing. Other customers watched and did nothing to stop him or comfort her afterwards.
How is this unique to women?
Not unique, which is my point. Men and women both experience lots of violence. I think the difference is the casual, low level violence against girls, which is harrowing, but not as visible as boys fighting each other at school or gang members shooting each other. I think women suffer a lot of unacknowledged violence that doesn’t make it into YouTube videos or the evening local news.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think a huge chunk of men are walking around with low level PTSD from the violence they've suffered at the hands of other men. They, in turn, perpetuate the cycle by committing violent acts against others.
Men are far and away the greatest perpetrators of and victims of violence in society. It needs to stop.
I agree with some of what you say, but I think that you’ve missed a lot of the constant low level violence women and girls experience every day. Not just from romantic partners, but other male relatives and even strangers. A student (age 13) recently wrote an essay about being dragged out of a store by her long ponytail because the clerk thought she was stealing. Other customers watched and did nothing to stop him or comfort her afterwards.
How is this unique to women?
Anonymous wrote:Men just wander around thinking about work and what/where to eat next.
Women race around thinking about work, kids, sports, health, the house, the yard, the nanny, the days off school/vacations, gifts to buy, insurance, meal planning, family schedule planning, clothes that fit everyone, play dates, school deadlines and homework, etc.
It’s overwhelming and then to have a cluesless partner would put anyone in the loony house!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think a huge chunk of men are walking around with low level PTSD from the violence they've suffered at the hands of other men. They, in turn, perpetuate the cycle by committing violent acts against others.
Men are far and away the greatest perpetrators of and victims of violence in society. It needs to stop.
I agree with some of what you say, but I think that you’ve missed a lot of the constant low level violence women and girls experience every day. Not just from romantic partners, but other male relatives and even strangers. A student (age 13) recently wrote an essay about being dragged out of a store by her long ponytail because the clerk thought she was stealing. Other customers watched and did nothing to stop him or comfort her afterwards.
Anonymous wrote:I think a huge chunk of men are walking around with low level PTSD from the violence they've suffered at the hands of other men. They, in turn, perpetuate the cycle by committing violent acts against others.
Men are far and away the greatest perpetrators of and victims of violence in society. It needs to stop.