I don't think it's a sensitivity thing; I think they are just dumb/their mothers must have missed this lesson. I'd assume they make other bad choices as well but it wouldn't stop us from being friends. I just wouldn't give them keys to the house/let them babysit/eat their potato salad.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you say “hey, can you watch my purse while I’m in the restroom?”.

+1 I would’ve assumed you brought it with you. I’ve accidentally forgotten my own bag, I can hardly think it’s fair to expect others to keep track of my stuff if I don’t specifically ask them to.

Why does everyone keep saying that they might not have seen it when she said that a coworker had hers in the same chair and had to move it to get her own? I get personal accountability but is that not just a bit problematic? They work together and had dinner together. It’s really not cool.

Agreed - the issue is that they did see the purse, they couldn't avoid seeing the purse since they had to move it to get the other co-worker's purse.

The OP is reading this data point as a problem. Other posters are objecting to the single data point because most of us typically want to see a pattern before making a friend-no friend decision. They're also pointing out that OP contributed to the dynamic - she should have either taken her purse with her or asked her co-workers to watch it. Fair points. That said, many of us missed the point about moving the OPs purse to retrieve the co-worker's purse. I think that's a critical point. If they won't do this one act of fundamental decency for her that most people would do, then that's something to consider. No one was drinking alcohol, according to OP, so this was a clear-headed decision to not be considerate.

Anonymous wrote:As a good friend, I would NEVER leave your purse unattended anywhere if you stepped away.

Yes - the proper thing is to bring it w/them & return it back to you.

One caveat: If you were carrying a smaller purse or a clutch that wasn’t visible when you left, then I would likely assume you just took it along w/you when you left.

To be 100% sure,
From now on always ask your friends if they wouldn’t mind keeping an eye on your purse while you quickly step out.

Any decent person would.

As a good friend, I would NEVER leave your purse unattended anywhere if you stepped away.

Yes - the proper thing is to bring it w/them & return it back to you.

One caveat: If you were carrying a smaller purse or a clutch that wasn’t visible when you left, then I would likely assume you just took it along w/you when you left.

To be 100% sure,
From now on always ask your friends if they wouldn’t mind keeping an eye on your purse while you quickly step out.

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Anonymous wrote:You're stupidity. Who leaves their purse on a chair?

Is this English? I have no idea what you are trying to say.

She's saying "No one with a brain leaves their purse on a chair and then expects their dinner mates to haul it to the restroom for her."

I’m pretty sure she said, “You are stupidity.”

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Anonymous wrote:You're stupidity. Who leaves their purse on a chair?

Is this English? I have no idea what you are trying to say.

She's saying "No one with a brain leaves their purse on a chair and then expects their dinner mates to haul it to the restroom for her."

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t we all just get along? It’s breaking my heart that we are tearing each other apart instead of building each other up. I start bawling when I read these types of postings

Snort