Anonymous
Post 07/14/2018 23:47     Subject: So you let your tween/teen swim with a pad?
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Anonymous wrote:OP here’s and I agree, as much as it sucks! She has her period a full seven days, about three of them on the heavier side. Aargh!!


Just to add - I didn’t use tampons until I lost my virginity between freshman and sophomore year in college. Hopefully the easier applicators will help my DD master tampons sooner.


honestly this is silly. It's not 1700. A slim tampon is MAYBE 20% the size of a hard penis. Plenty of virgins use them - like, all girls in early teens.


Still hurts the hymen in many teens.


Once. Get over it.


Tweens shouldn’t be made to feel like a failure if they are struggling to cram a plastic rod up their vagina. You are a horrible person.

My dd couldn’t get one in the first summer. There were lots of tear filled conversations through closed bathroom doors. The next summer, she figured it out pretty quickly.


I think anyone who decides to "cram a plastic rod" up their own vagina is a horrible person. It is obscene to me that, knowing the plastic crisis of our oceans, women still feel entitled to use and discard multiple "plastic rods" each month simply because they are too squeamish to touch their own bodies or risk a little blood on their hand.

Doesn't it make you feel horrible to think of those plastic applicators floating in the ocean, or washed up on beaches (I've seen tampon applicators on beaches)? How obscenely selfish can you get?

This is what my mom told me when she gave me my first box of OB tampons (no applicator, and they are short, even in the higher absorbancies, so much easier and more comfortable to insert than the long types of tampons that come encased in plastic applicators.

I cannot believe that tampons are still sold with plastic applicators. And you are a terrible person if you use them.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2018 22:20     Subject: So you let your tween/teen swim with a pad?
I am surprised that so many young girls, and perhaps their mothers, are so uncomfortable with their own bodies that they can't figure out how to use a tampon and/or how to teach their daughters how to use a tampon.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2018 22:13     Subject: So you let your tween/teen swim with a pad?
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Anonymous wrote:With the invention of Thinx and all that, I keep hoping someone will come up with a period panty for swimming, but...no.


There are.
One example:
https://www.modibodi.com/product-category/swim/?ph=4709195aa5a4e96bc2af900c


Pantyprop, too
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2018 20:24     Subject: So you let your tween/teen swim with a pad?
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Anonymous wrote:i can't believe anyone would wear a pad in a public pool. that is disgusting.


I can't believe a mom can't teacher her child how to put a tampon in. FFS


Ok, not the PP, but how would you suggest teaching your daughter to put a tampon in - beyond describing the process, watching video tutorials, and looking at pictures/diagrams? Let's hear your suggestions since you seem to be extremely smug and sanctimonious in insisting any girl should be able to use tampons. Thanks.


It’s already been suggested. You take her tou the gynecologist or her care giver. As a former public health nurse in sexual health, I’ve actually helped girls with this.

I’m sorry, but hygiene is an important skill, and menstruation lasts a long time in a woman’s life. We should be so far par this “delicate condition” mentality, it confuses me when a girl has to sit out because, for whatever reason, the available tools are not in her grasp (tampons, cups, the pill).

I’ll be honest, I suspect most of the girls that “won’t” or “can’t”use tampons come from families where the word period and /or mentruation is still spoken in hushed tones, or given some cutsie name and shrouded in guilt and shame. That, or it’s the families where the mother knows so little about her own body that she believes you can lose a tampon, and that wearing a tampon has nothing to do with virginity.


That’s a bunch of bulls**t. We are very, very open in my family - and I’m not squeamish in the least. But my 11 year old really hated putting on a tampon; she tried it once and stated she never wanted to do it again. She just wasn’t ready. Your rigidity and judgment would make you a f-ing horrible nurse.


+1,000,000
What a condescending b*tch.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2018 20:24     Subject: So you let your tween/teen swim with a pad?
Anonymous wrote:They're now making bathing suits out of the same material as the period panties. Maybe one of those?

I actually had to have my hymen surgically opened at 15 after 3.5 years of my mother being pretty awful to me for not being able to use a tampon. Please be kind while she's figuring it out.


Exactly. Some of these women sound vile and I'm glad none of them are in charge of my daughter, in any way.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2018 20:23     Subject: So you let your tween/teen swim with a pad?
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Anonymous wrote:i can't believe anyone would wear a pad in a public pool. that is disgusting.


I can't believe a mom can't teacher her child how to put a tampon in. FFS


Ok, not the PP, but how would you suggest teaching your daughter to put a tampon in - beyond describing the process, watching video tutorials, and looking at pictures/diagrams? Let's hear your suggestions since you seem to be extremely smug and sanctimonious in insisting any girl should be able to use tampons. Thanks.


It’s already been suggested. You take her tou the gynecologist or her care giver. As a former public health nurse in sexual health, I’ve actually helped girls with this.

I’m sorry, but hygiene is an important skill, and menstruation lasts a long time in a woman’s life. We should be so far par this “delicate condition” mentality, it confuses me when a girl has to sit out because, for whatever reason, the available tools are not in her grasp (tampons, cups, the pill).

I’ll be honest, I suspect most of the girls that “won’t” or “can’t”use tampons come from families where the word period and /or mentruation is still spoken in hushed tones, or given some cutsie name and shrouded in guilt and shame. That, or it’s the families where the mother knows so little about her own body that she believes you can lose a tampon, and that wearing a tampon has nothing to do with virginity.


You are an idiot and I would hate for you to be my daughter's nurse or teacher. I've used tampons since I was in my teens, with no problem. I have zero trouble discussing menstruation or bodily processes with my daughter and there is no "guilt or shame" associated with those discussions. For whatever reason, however, she is unable to get the tampon in past a certain point. She says it hurts too much, which I suspect may simply be fear talking. So you know what? I'm not going to shame her or make her feel "less than" because she's not yet able to get the hang of it. And if you were her school nurse or PE teacher, and I heard that you were "confused" about why she had to sit out - FOR ANY REASON - and/or you embarrassed her because of it, you and I would have words.

How dare you judge young girls (or anyone, for that matter) if they choose not to use tampons. It's none of your business, whatsoever. Stay in your lane.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2018 20:21     Subject: So you let your tween/teen swim with a pad?
Anonymous wrote:Wow! Just wow at some of the misinformation on this thread.

I’m a Gynocologist and it makes me both cringe and sad that we’re STILL this ignorant about our own GD bodies!

OP and any other moms whose DDs have trouble with using tampons, U by Kotex Sleek Light are the slimmest. Don’t put just a “bit” of lube on it, really slather it on there! Also, tell your daughters to put some lube at and around her entrance. Many times the blood present is NOT enough lubricant for teens. Use a mirror, preferably one that can be leaned against a wall and doesn’t need to be held. Have her remove all clothes and undergarments for insertion for a better range of motion. As a last ditch effort, cover her bed with old towels and have her try while lying down. And most importantly, NO practicing when not on her period! I see lots of teens who have been “traumatized” by practicing dry too many times. If all else fails, bring her in for a check up or some help. It sounds odd, but yes, that’s something that I’ve helded teens with in the past, especially swimmers and gymnasts who have a dire need to use tampons ASAP.


PSA to parents of teens:
DO NOT buy Kotex sleek tampons. I tried them and the string pulled out of the cotton on multiple occasions, leaving me to fish it out myself. I looked them up online and other people have had the same problem. No teen should have to deal with that.

Anonymous
Post 07/14/2018 20:17     Subject: So you let your tween/teen swim with a pad?
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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why these girls can't get a tampon in? That sucks for them in the summer! You can buy super slim teenager sized tampons. My 11 yo refused pads from the beginning and figured the tampons out with youtube videos on her phone.


And what if she hadn't figured them out - would you have berated her for being an idiot and told her that ALL girls can do this?


DP here.

I would not berate her. I would be clear that I would help her rise to the challenge as best I could, but if she cannot find a way to do it, there will be no swimming. We'll try together next time.

That isn't a punishment. It's just the way a civilized society handles shared water environments.


PP here. Well, of course. I agree that no tampons = no swimming. Mainly, I was referencing the attitude among some on this thread that girls are idiots if they aren't able to use tampons.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2018 20:12     Subject: So you let your tween/teen swim with a pad?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:i can't believe anyone would wear a pad in a public pool. that is disgusting.


I can't believe a mom can't teacher her child how to put a tampon in. FFS


Ok, not the PP, but how would you suggest teaching your daughter to put a tampon in - beyond describing the process, watching video tutorials, and looking at pictures/diagrams? Let's hear your suggestions since you seem to be extremely smug and sanctimonious in insisting any girl should be able to use tampons. Thanks.


It’s already been suggested. You take her tou the gynecologist or her care giver. As a former public health nurse in sexual health, I’ve actually helped girls with this.

I’m sorry, but hygiene is an important skill, and menstruation lasts a long time in a woman’s life. We should be so far par this “delicate condition” mentality, it confuses me when a girl has to sit out because, for whatever reason, the available tools are not in her grasp (tampons, cups, the pill).

I’ll be honest, I suspect most of the girls that “won’t” or “can’t”use tampons come from families where the word period and /or mentruation is still spoken in hushed tones, or given some cutsie name and shrouded in guilt and shame. That, or it’s the families where the mother knows so little about her own body that she believes you can lose a tampon, and that wearing a tampon has nothing to do with virginity.


That’s a bunch of bulls**t. We are very, very open in my family - and I’m not squeamish in the least. But my 11 year old really hated putting on a tampon; she tried it once and stated she never wanted to do it again. She just wasn’t ready. Your rigidity and judgment would make you a f-ing horrible nurse.


I don’t believe for a second that someone that horrible is any sort of nurse. Or maybe that’s why she’s a “former” nurse.
In addition, no one should be putting a tampon in a child but the child herself. Not a parent, not a doctor. If she can’t figure it out yet, it’s not worth the potential issues that could cause.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2018 19:45     Subject: So you let your tween/teen swim with a pad?
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That’s a bunch of bulls**t. We are very, very open in my family - and I’m not squeamish in the least. But my 11 year old really hated putting on a tampon; she tried it once and stated she never wanted to do it again. She just wasn’t ready. Your rigidity and judgment would make you a f-ing horrible nurse.


DP

I think there is nothing wrong with her using pads and staying out of the pool until she stops menstruating for that month.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2018 19:08     Subject: So you let your tween/teen swim with a pad?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:i can't believe anyone would wear a pad in a public pool. that is disgusting.


I can't believe a mom can't teacher her child how to put a tampon in. FFS


Ok, not the PP, but how would you suggest teaching your daughter to put a tampon in - beyond describing the process, watching video tutorials, and looking at pictures/diagrams? Let's hear your suggestions since you seem to be extremely smug and sanctimonious in insisting any girl should be able to use tampons. Thanks.


It’s already been suggested. You take her tou the gynecologist or her care giver. As a former public health nurse in sexual health, I’ve actually helped girls with this.

I’m sorry, but hygiene is an important skill, and menstruation lasts a long time in a woman’s life. We should be so far par this “delicate condition” mentality, it confuses me when a girl has to sit out because, for whatever reason, the available tools are not in her grasp (tampons, cups, the pill).

I’ll be honest, I suspect most of the girls that “won’t” or “can’t”use tampons come from families where the word period and /or mentruation is still spoken in hushed tones, or given some cutsie name and shrouded in guilt and shame. That, or it’s the families where the mother knows so little about her own body that she believes you can lose a tampon, and that wearing a tampon has nothing to do with virginity.


That’s a bunch of bulls**t. We are very, very open in my family - and I’m not squeamish in the least. But my 11 year old really hated putting on a tampon; she tried it once and stated she never wanted to do it again. She just wasn’t ready. Your rigidity and judgment would make you a f-ing horrible nurse.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2018 18:56     Subject: So you let your tween/teen swim with a pad?
They're now making bathing suits out of the same material as the period panties. Maybe one of those?

I actually had to have my hymen surgically opened at 15 after 3.5 years of my mother being pretty awful to me for not being able to use a tampon. Please be kind while she's figuring it out.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2018 18:37     Subject: So you let your tween/teen swim with a pad?
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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, sticking with my personal public pool ban. No effing way. People are so much more disgusting than one could ever imagine.


And apparently driven to rationalize it.


Other people’s nasty bodily fluids are a pretty solid rationale.


PP you quoted.

Oh, I get it. I was talking about the poster who was posting articles about the average period blood loss only being 2 tsp or something, when the same article was noting it going up to 2 cups for some women.

Don't care. Stop the flow or stay out of the pool until it stops itself.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2018 16:59     Subject: So you let your tween/teen swim with a pad?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:i can't believe anyone would wear a pad in a public pool. that is disgusting.


I can't believe a mom can't teacher her child how to put a tampon in. FFS


Ok, not the PP, but how would you suggest teaching your daughter to put a tampon in - beyond describing the process, watching video tutorials, and looking at pictures/diagrams? Let's hear your suggestions since you seem to be extremely smug and sanctimonious in insisting any girl should be able to use tampons. Thanks.


It’s already been suggested. You take her tou the gynecologist or her care giver. As a former public health nurse in sexual health, I’ve actually helped girls with this.

I’m sorry, but hygiene is an important skill, and menstruation lasts a long time in a woman’s life. We should be so far par this “delicate condition” mentality, it confuses me when a girl has to sit out because, for whatever reason, the available tools are not in her grasp (tampons, cups, the pill).

I’ll be honest, I suspect most of the girls that “won’t” or “can’t”use tampons come from families where the word period and /or mentruation is still spoken in hushed tones, or given some cutsie name and shrouded in guilt and shame. That, or it’s the families where the mother knows so little about her own body that she believes you can lose a tampon, and that wearing a tampon has nothing to do with virginity.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2018 16:54     Subject: So you let your tween/teen swim with a pad?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yeah, sticking with my personal public pool ban. No effing way. People are so much more disgusting than one could ever imagine.


And apparently driven to rationalize it.


Other people’s nasty bodily fluids are a pretty solid rationale.