make sure you have a refreshing and delicious alternative

Anonymous wrote:Just family is coming over, about 18 people total. 6 children. Alcohol is expensive and it's a daytime birthday party for my 3 year old. We don't need alcohol, do we?

TBH, we've hosted adult dinner parties without alcohol and noone blinked an eye, so I would be dead certain that kid parties without alcohol are 100% fine!

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Anonymous wrote:Update: we went alcohol free. We had 15 adults (aunts uncles grandparents). Only 4 of the invited people regularly drink, no one else does (not even socially). One person is going through chemo.

Someone went on a beer run halfway through the party. The 4 drinkers then sat and drank. We did not.

Oh well. I’m not sure if the lesson is, “supply beer” or not, honestly.

Oh man, that’s rough. I’m the Mac and cheese poster and made sure to provide beer after reading this thread but it remained untouched and the person who I remember drinking the same beer last time went for sparkling water this time. ? So I guess you never know.

OP here, the last time I had family over i got beer but no one drank it.

Anonymous wrote:Update: we went alcohol free. We had 15 adults (aunts uncles grandparents). Only 4 of the invited people regularly drink, no one else does (not even socially). One person is going through chemo.

Someone went on a beer run halfway through the party. The 4 drinkers then sat and drank. We did not.

Oh well. I’m not sure if the lesson is, “supply beer” or not, honestly.

Oh man, that’s rough. I’m the Mac and cheese poster and made sure to provide beer after reading this thread but it remained untouched and the person who I remember drinking the same beer last time went for sparkling water this time. ? So I guess you never know.

Update: we went alcohol free. We had 15 adults (aunts uncles grandparents). Only 4 of the invited people regularly drink, no one else does (not even socially). One person is going through chemo.

Someone went on a beer run halfway through the party. The 4 drinkers then sat and drank. We did not.

Oh well. I’m not sure if the lesson is, “supply beer” or not, honestly.

Anonymous wrote:If someone in our social circle or school had a kids party without beer, no one would ever come to one of their parties again. No one cares about your kid or their birthday and coming to your house is a pain enough as it is...the least you can do is have beer.

OP here and it’s their nephew or grandchild so yes, they actually do care.

If someone in our social circle or school had a kids party without beer, no one would ever come to one of their parties again. No one cares about your kid or their birthday and coming to your house is a pain enough as it is...the least you can do is have beer.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd be kind of ticked off if my kid went to a friend's birthday party and all the adults were drinking wine and beer. It sets a bad example, too. I like wine (beer, not so much) but save it for the grownup parties.

+1 exactly!

You'd be horrified to know when I grew up wine was served in the daytime, right in church.

PP here. My church as well. But not for a kids' daytime birthday party.

The point is, it's not a bad example for adults to drink alcohol, no matter what the context. The are grownups. Some anxious adults to better with an adult beverage in a social situation. It doesn't mean they are sloppy drunks. So OP, do exactly you what you want. Only the most irritating people would complain about not having at a child's birthday party. It's fine.

Didn't say they are sloppy drunks; but if an adult can't get through a children's birthday party without an alcoholic beverage, that's a sad situation. It's supposed to be about the children. Perhaps the "anxious adults" should stay home.

Wow, you must be nice.

What wasn't nice about that post? Making a comment that adults should be able to enjoy a kids' party without alcohol? Whatever.

It wasn't nice because you made a judgmental assumption that any adults who chose an alcoholic beverage did so because they couldn't enjoy themselves without it. Maybe they just preferred it, the same way they might choose cake instead of ice cream.

S/he didn't make a judgmental assumption about people who choose an alcoholic beverage. She was responding to a post about

I like ice cream better than cake. If you serve both and I choose to eat ice cream instead of cake at your party, that's fine. If I have a tantrum because you didn't serve ice cream, or imply that I need ice cream to get through your party, that's rude.

There's nothing wrong with choosing to have wine at a family party for a kid's birthday. There's nothing wrong with choosing beer when your choices are beer, ice tea, lemonade, and water. But complaining because alcohol wasn't offered at a early afternoon party for a child is as silly as complaining that the cake wasn't an ice cream cake. If you hate kids parties so much that the only thing that makes them bearable is the alcohol, then make an excuse and don't go.

Of course you can, OP. If they want alcohol they can bring some.

So don't buy so much. Just do one container of Trader Joe's half tea/half lemonade or two big Italian sodas.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course it's fine-but you know your family and what they expect better than we do. I have some family that would be horrified by alcohol at a kid's birthday party and other family that would turn around and head straight for the nearest liquor store.

My brother and brother in law would probably like a beer, and my sister would like wine or some fancy drink. But they can get over it and have some iced tea, right?

Yes.