Anonymous wrote:It just seems like the PP is framing this sort of scenario as some kind of injustice and favoritism. If a kid shows a love for the game and an interest in playing at a higher level at a younger age, why is that a problem? My kid enjoyed rec with her friends, but was ready for something more than "sharks and minnows" at a younger age. That's the choice we made - totally get that it's not for everyone. And, yes an advance year of formal training IS going to make my 8 year old look different than one who didn't play up but any coach worth his salt will understand why that difference exists and not overlook a new kid with good potential.
Come back when your kid is 14 and tell us if it was a good idea to have her playing at the highest level at age 7. I promise you, it will not have been worth it, and it may even be a detriment. She might no longer be playing, or be injured, or not doing sports at all because it was no longer fun, or rebelled against you because it's the button she knows she can push with you, to threaten to quit because you've already invested 7 years of your life out there and thousands of dollars. I really can't think of a reason early specialization is a good thing. My teens compete in the highest levels of their chosen sports, but I let them do everything at the younger age.
11:39 here.
Actually I can "come back" and speak to your comment...said kid is now a U14, a starter on an ECNL team, still loves soccer, and has thankfully not been injured. And I never said soccer was the only sport she played. I said she played up starting at U9. Over the past 6 or so years since starting travel soccer, she's also done rec basketball, swim team, field hockey clinics, and rec lacrosse - not all at once, of course. But with an eye toward exposing her to other sports. She was also in the school band for a couple of years. I appreciate your "concern" for my kid (and the Dr. Phil analysis of my family), but I can assure you that she's doing okay.
And...I don't know how money works in YOUR family, but we don't consider the money we pay for activities to be investments in our kids like they're assets. Pushed buttons, threats, control...these aren't part of the picture. Hard to believe, but we support our kids' participation in sports with our time and money because they love to play and because we think it's good for them.
The point of my post was that playing up is not for everyone, but it can be a good option for some kids, That's it. And congrats to your kids for also finding their way to playing at the highest levels through a different path. It's all good, my friend.