Anonymous
Post 03/15/2018 16:13     Subject: Do men regret their divorces?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The vast majority of guys in the world can't live without a woman.


And the vast majority of women in the world can't live without a man. So your point is... ?


Actually, once they stop wanting kids, they largely want to be left alone.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2018 15:25     Subject: Do men regret their divorces?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The vast majority of guys in the world can't live without a woman.


And the vast majority of women in the world can't live without a man. So your point is... ?


Out of curiosity I looked this up. It's almost 50/50.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2018 14:46     Subject: Do men regret their divorces?
Anonymous wrote:The vast majority of guys in the world can't live without a woman.


And the vast majority of women in the world can't live without a man. So your point is... ?
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2018 14:13     Subject: Do men regret their divorces?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ok.... My husband left me and the kids. Walked out the door for his mistress. He told me he regrets it. He doesn't cry himself to sleep every night (I don't think), he made peace (to some degree?) with the fact he pretty much f-ed up his life. We are friends.


Another story from a woman. I wonder what he would tell me if I met him in a bar.


Dude, I'm pretty sure the majority of posters on DCUM are ladies...and any guys who post likely found out about DCUM from their wives.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2018 14:02     Subject: Do men regret their divorces?
The vast majority of guys in the world can't live without a woman.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2018 11:24     Subject: Do men regret their divorces?
Anonymous wrote:Personally I think the more volatile and bitter of an ex wife she is, the less the men regret it. I think if you're a cool ex wife and are still on good terms with him, he's more likely to regret it.


My ex is cool and we are amicable but she wasn't having sex with me so I don't regret leaving.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2018 10:59     Subject: Re:Do men regret their divorces?
I would say most second marriages are not good at least according to the women I talk to. Too much baggage with step kids, or money problems. Doesn't make a difference if the ex wife was bitter or not. By the second marriage women starting thinking toward retirement and that realization.

Anonymous
Post 03/15/2018 10:48     Subject: Do men regret their divorces?
My ex doesn't. He has gone on to have a great life with his mistress who he eventually married. They seem happy. He was an alcoholic when we were married but has gotten sober since.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2018 10:41     Subject: Do men regret their divorces?
Personally I think the more volatile and bitter of an ex wife she is, the less the men regret it. I think if you're a cool ex wife and are still on good terms with him, he's more likely to regret it.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2018 10:32     Subject: Do men regret their divorces?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ok.... My husband left me and the kids. Walked out the door for his mistress. He told me he regrets it. He doesn't cry himself to sleep every night (I don't think), he made peace (to some degree?) with the fact he pretty much f-ed up his life. We are friends.


Another story from a woman. I wonder what he would tell me if I met him in a bar.


You do realize that the story he tells you at the bar may not be the truth either, right? Most people don't like to admit when they have made a mistake, so they put on a happy front.

My ex told me on numerous occasions that he felt like our divorce was a mistake and that he wanted to get back together-- he cheated and he filed for the divorce. He never got back on his feet after the divorce (we had a 50/50 split so there was no child support) and he died from heart disease exactly two years after we split. He was only 44 at the time of his death.

I thrived after the divorce and would have never gone back to him.


Same thing with my SIL. Her husband stupidly left her at age 50 for another woman. The other woman was broke having gone through bankruptcy and a divorce with her husband. I don't think SIL's husband researched her. Nasty divorce. He wanted the new tart and the home that was paid off. Judge gave her the home since she had the kids, and took less of the retirement. Home really appreciated. He and the new woman almost had to start over. Not a good age to do that. The OW ended up dying of a heart valve problem, and he died 3 years after that. He also tried to get back with SIL, but she refused his calls. Never talked to him after the divorce. He wasn't even invited to the sons wedding.

A lot of people don't factor in health problems, or changes in the job market etc. There's a reason 2nd marriages fail at a greater rate.


Wow, your SIL did a fantastic job alienating the children so that they didn't even invite their own father to the wedding.


lol He was grown fyi. The ex cheater alienated many by his actions.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2018 10:27     Subject: Do men regret their divorces?
Anonymous wrote:I think most men don’t regret their divorces. Statistically they do much better off financially. And end up with a younger woman.


Actually you're wrong. 67% of second marriages fail. Ones with wider age gap even more so.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2018 10:22     Subject: Do men regret their divorces?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Statistically, men who divorce end up with women identical to or similar to the women they married in the first place. They repeat the same issues over and over because they refuse to do the work to address their own issues or understand why they are drawn to certain women.


Statistically, men who divorce end up with second wives who are on average 8 years younger.
and likely the same or identical in personality to the first wife - which is why most second marriages end in divorce.


No, not in my experience. All my divorced male friends who remarried are with the exact opposite (looks, and personality) from their exes. One of those friends is getting close to his 25th anniversary with wife #2, and one is at his 15th anniversary with wife #2. 100 percent of these friends report relationship #2 is night-and-day better.

Speaking just for myself, it has amazed me how kind my girlfriend is. She is the exact opposite from my ex-wife. My new love never has a tantrum, never gaslights, never does guilt trips, never calls me names, never uses sex as a weapon, never nags, and she makes as much as me and owns her own house and investment property. Plus she is younger and thinner than the ex and has family money.

I think I'm going to write a book about divorced men, their miserable lives with their shrews, and their happily ever after lives after divorce.


Ha! Give it a couple years, you'll be calling her a shrew, too.


Exactly. They are always wonderful, kind, and patient in the beginning. Statistics don't lie. Second marriages fail at a greater rate.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2018 09:55     Subject: Do men regret their divorces?
Anonymous wrote:There is more to marriage than the person. I am not sure whether my husband would regret divorcing me. The thing is, though, that being married to me comes with a package of uninterrupted access to his children, a nice bundle of joint assets, the social status of being married to me, and a whole bunch of extras. That, I know, he would hate to lose. So in that sense, he would absolutely regret it, and for that reason, he will never divorce.


You sound like a potential abuser. You sound like self-aggrandizing jerk!
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2018 00:43     Subject: Do men regret their divorces?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There is more to marriage than the person. I am not sure whether my husband would regret divorcing me. The thing is, though, that being married to me comes with a package of uninterrupted access to his children, a nice bundle of joint assets, the social status of being married to me, and a whole bunch of extras. That, I know, he would hate to lose. So in that sense, he would absolutely regret it, and for that reason, he will never divorce.


sounds like you are the type to use kids as a weapon.

DP. Unless you and your ex spouse are going to live in the same house post-divorce it isn’t possible for both of you to maintain uninterrupted access to the children.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2018 00:27     Subject: Re:Do men regret their divorces?
Totally savage thread...