OP you did the right thing to address it with your kid and also with the practice. People push boundaries with kids in joking ways , with parents present, to gauge their reaction before pushing the boundary further. If you had said nothing, your son would have gotten the message that it’s ok for a man he doesn’t know to pat his butt because mom was there and didn’t seem concerned.

I’m not saying this guy was anything other than an awkward dude maybe, but, truly this is how abusers test the waters with kids and families to see who they can push things more with. So even if this guy was harmless, you taught your kid a good lesson

Anonymous wrote:Male nurses make me moderately queasy in general.

That’s a problem with you. It’s like people who have a problem with female doctors. No different

Op the best thing to do would have been to ask your son in front of the nurse if he was okay with the touch. Regardless of your kids answer I would validate your kids feelings and then say “I wouldn’t like to be touched like that. It was a good joke, but I would have felt better if it were on My shoulder”

That way you model how to handle the situation at the time. At this point, I would just have that convo with my kid move on.

Anonymous wrote:If this is a very very large practice you will probably never see that same nurse ever again, so why waste your valuable time reporting it? Sorry to be cynical, but even if you report it you will never actually know if it was noted or any action was taken.

....to protect other kids?

If this is a very very large practice you will probably never see that same nurse ever again, so why waste your valuable time reporting it? Sorry to be cynical, but even if you report it you will never actually know if it was noted or any action was taken.

This is a zombie thread that someone resurrected. Since this is 8 years after the incident I would assume OP has taken whatever action they were going to and has moved on.

Nothing, because I don't think it's a big deal. However I do think that a professional who works with children should know not to touch a child like this.

Did you report it?

For those who didn’t already know, can we all learn the lesson to not gratuitously pat a child on the butt if you are a medical professional, coach, camp counselor, teacher, etc?

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Anonymous wrote:Shocked at people calling the OP out.

The nurse was out of line. I’m not an reactionary in the slightest but I 100% would have spoken to someone. Not appropriate. It’s nkt my job to keep this male nurse employed, it’s my job to protect my child.

I often think DCUM has a sock puppet constantly commenting on any thread that has to do with potential sexual abuse.

Protect your child?!? She was RIGHT THERE and said nothing to the actual nurse! Probably just laughed awkwardly. Coward. If it were really a sexual abuse issue she would have sprung to her get, pushed him away and said "get the hell away from my kid!" But it wasn't. It was just a male jokester camp counselor-type gesture that she blew waaaay out of proportion.

OP here. I did not laugh. It wasn’t funny. I told my child that it is not appropriate for someone to touch his butt without consent. Why am I being called a coward? The nurse left the room w/i one second of touching my child’s butt. I did not see him again. I also didn’t want to confront him in front of my child. I didn’t want to make my child even more uncomfortable to see that. But didn’t want to leave my children alone.

Fair enough, OP. I apologize for name calling. It wasn't nice. I think that everyone who reads this has a different response based on what we picture the situation looked like in the moment. I retract what I said above and agree with the poster who said we were not there, so you are obviously the best one to judge the context of the situation. I'm glad that you came back to post how it was handled (sounds like you are very level-headed and rational). Good luck to you, OP.

Op you did the right thing.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Report back.

Spoke with the manager. She sounded glad I called and said that it was not approporate of the nurse. She was going to counsel the nurse and the nurse’s supervisor on boundaries around touch. And how to provide friendly welcoming care while still respecting aproporiate boundaries. No one is losing their job! And lessons are being learned. Glad I reported it.

Thanks for your feedback.

You are psycho. Hope you feel awkward when you see this nurse again.

Agree. Always wondered what became of that annoying first grader who tattles to the teacher for every. little. thing. Now I know. She grows up to be you, OP.

It is clear to see what becomes of the school yard bully. Becomes a sock puppet troll on dcurbanmom.com. Congrats! You have come a long way.