Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's just being frank to get his point across.

+1. I think it is succinct and hysterical. Lighten up Francis.

Agree. Those wanting to bring their "monsters" and requesting special room and sitters are the ride ones.

I have kids, but I thought it was funny. Young'uns can be blunt.

I think it's very strange you felt you had the right to tell other people what to say or how to say it when it otherwise had nothing to do with you. That's very controlling.

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure someone already said this, but I bet the wording of his post had to do with multiple family members aggressively pushing him to invite their kids and arrange for babysitting and not his actual hatred of said kids and family members.

Hilarious that OP went ahead to create drama by messaging to voice he/she thought the wording would cause drama. You guys are that kind of family, huh?

+1

Exactly this, OP. Go or don't go, clearly your family doesn't care, but stop causing drama - that label will stick to you forever.

"I uninvited certain members of my own family for being so presumptions from this party."

I hope you just mis-wrote this part and it wasn't a copy and paste situation.

Anonymous wrote:I think it's the height of lameness to invite so many family members to a 21st birthday party. Hell, I'd rather have complete strangers at a raging 21st birthday party than my lame older cousins and relatives.

Maybe the clueless people asking about bringing children thought this was like a family party. Because who the F invites so many relatives to a club-style party??

I'm picturing Jersey Shore here.

Yes, who would want anyone under the age of 21 anywhere near this party? They might get drunk on the fumes.

It sounds like they "had" to invite relatives and wanted to be clear children should not come.

I think it's the height of lameness to invite so many family members to a 21st birthday party. Hell, I'd rather have complete strangers at a raging 21st birthday party than my lame older cousins and relatives.

Maybe the clueless people asking about bringing children thought this was like a family party. Because who the F invites so many relatives to a club-style party??

I'm picturing Jersey Shore here.

I'm sure someone already said this, but I bet the wording of his post had to do with multiple family members aggressively pushing him to invite their kids and arrange for babysitting and not his actual hatred of said kids and family members.

Hilarious that OP went ahead to create drama by messaging to voice he/she thought the wording would cause drama. You guys are that kind of family, huh?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those asking ot change plans or provide a babysitter are way out of line. You don't dictate the rules of someone else's party!! WTF? And why would you WANT to bring a kid to that type of party? What is wrong with you?

But, your cousin is a raging dick. I probably would not go on principle b/c of that. There is a way to act and convey information that is both firm in its boundary and still polite. He was a dick. I don't deal with dicks, family or not.

I am less bothered by referring to children as "monsters" (even though they can be) than by accusing invitees of being cheap (even though they probably are). In the spirit of "'No' is a complete answer, he could have limited his response:

"I have received some inquiries about if children were allowed at the party. I should have been clear at the beginning, I suppose, but this is not a party for kids. This is a 21st birthday."

the problem is, with cheap people, this wouldn't have cleared it up. Sure they know it's not a party for kids. They seem to be still expecting a 'babysitting room' nearby, not at the party. It doesn't stop the whole "hey I have a great idea, why don't you hire a babysitter?" etc.

This is the bluntness of a 21ish year old driven crazy by family, and wanting to have a damn drinking party. A 21st birthday party is really not a milestone, other than for drinking and this person is acting like it. No big deal. I also think they were getting it out there to preempt the typical grapevine story initiated by offended (cheap) parents in the family that the host was somehow rude/starting drama by not including kids. Good for them. When you are younger you can get away with an even-related social faux pas. Now is the time to use that specific brand of youth/honesty.

Telling guests in a joking way to keep their little monsters at home = fine. Calling other family members/guests out (and disinviting them) for inquiring about bringing children or labeling the guests as "cheap" for asking if there would be a baby sitting room provided = not cool.

He could have gotten his message across in a humored way but instead chose to be snippy (bratty) about it. I probably would not go.

He was probably drunk when he wrote it! Unless I really wanted to go the the party I'd make up an excuse to skip it.

I bet you now cousin hosts wish they never invited OP or any of the family and kept it just as same age friends party!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the OP. So against the advice of everyone I messaged both hosts and told them I felt the post was causing unnecessary drama. The author of said post told me to mind my own god damn business. He said I had no say in the matter because I was not paying for anything. The second host told me she understood my concerns and would have worded it differently but she supports his decision. She said some of the family was getting really pushy and needed to be put in check. I said my peace and will leave it at that.

Seriously? Your cousin is an idiot and an asshole, but it turns out that you are too! Runs in the family.

Yeah, OP, just don't go. No 21 year old needs such uptight humorless twats at their drinking party.

Anonymous wrote:Those asking ot change plans or provide a babysitter are way out of line. You don't dictate the rules of someone else's party!! WTF? And why would you WANT to bring a kid to that type of party? What is wrong with you?

But, your cousin is a raging dick. I probably would not go on principle b/c of that. There is a way to act and convey information that is both firm in its boundary and still polite. He was a dick. I don't deal with dicks, family or not.

I am less bothered by referring to children as "monsters" (even though they can be) than by accusing invitees of being cheap (even though they probably are). In the spirit of "'No' is a complete answer, he could have limited his response:

"I have received some inquiries about if children were allowed at the party. I should have been clear at the beginning, I suppose, but this is not a party for kids. This is a 21st birthday."

Anonymous wrote:LOL. It is a party for "21" years old. Hello...it is a" legal age to drink" party. I think the host is my hero too. Keep your monsters at home and better still ...OP, you stay home too.

Love your comment! Party room for little monsters for a 21 year old party! Just what every 21 year old dreams about! BTW, to any 21 year old little kids are monsters.