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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

Statistically, when you're 62 he'll be dead and you'll be spending his money.

That doesn't sound so bad.

Actually, acting as a nurse for someone who is slowly dying is really tough. At least if you marry someone your own age, you might kick the bucket first.

A man could also act as nurse, for years, for his younger wife until her passing. I have. I'm just as likely to be taking care of someone in her 60s as she is to be taking care of me.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

40 year old woman here and I was just thinking the same thing. 61 is too old for me. My limit would be about 53, but preferably 40-45.

40 here as well. If I weren’t married, no way would I date a 60+.

And I’m a 61 year old retired professional. I’m healthy, good shape and good hair. With that said, I don’t blame you.
Why would a 40 year old good looking woman want a 61 year old man, other than for his money?
I love 50 + year old woman. I have much more in common with someone close to my age.

It's not for my money, I assure you. I'm nowhere near the HHI of your typical DCUMer. I'm not dating gold diggers or women who find me repulsive but will stick it out for a payout, as some here have admitted they would do.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

Most relationships don't last 20 years even if your partner is the same age as you. Therefore your question is moot.

Exactly. I'm happy now. The question I answered has nothing to do with long-term.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

Yes, but how well have you held up? Compared to someone in their 40s of course! Love the double standards you are showing. Of course you are going to say you are attractive and fit and everyone wants to jump you. But, I don't believe you so don't try.

Well enough to have no problem dating women in their 40s. Barely a wrinkle in my face, and just a bit of grey. Unlike most women in their 50s. Sorry, I know how it sounds but I'm just answering the question honestly.

My question was rhetorical since I knew you would answer this way! No picture, then no proof so I still don't believe you.

You don't have to believe anything you read here although several women on this forum have seen my photos and I've met a few. I'm blessed with good genetics from both parents and easily pass for much younger.

I've dated plenty of women in their 40s. It's a perfect age for me. At the same time, I'll acknowledge that the pool of 40s who want to date a guy in his 60s isn't as large, but large enough where I can find them. Some of them may have Daddy issues but that works in my favor. I've had dating profiles where I had a LOT of women writing to me who are in their 50s, with almost none I wanted to date. I work a little harder for the younger ones. I'm talking about dating where some of you are talking about a life long commitment.

So if I turn 80 while she is 60, that's a bad thing for me? You could ask, what's in it for her at that point, if not my money? But you could ask that now of the woman I've been with for some time now who is in her 40s. We get along fine and like most women I've been with, she says I'm better in bed than all her previous partners. And yes, I'm aware, they could be lying, but none of them had any complaints. I don't need any pills yet but from what women tell me, a lot of guys younger than me either can't perform, don't know how, or aren't willing. If that's my competition, no wonder I do OK.

I'm sure that, no matter my age, I'll always date or pair up with whatever woman I can get until no one wants my old ass. BTW, have you been to assisted living homes? It's a buyer's market for men. I'm not worried.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

Statistically, when you're 62 he'll be dead and you'll be spending his money.

That doesn't sound so bad.

Actually, acting as a nurse for someone who is slowly dying is really tough. At least if you marry someone your own age, you might kick the bucket first.

Who said anything about dying "slowly"?

Men usually go fast. It's women who tend to die slowly.

Kinda hilarious that women are worried about being someone's nurse.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

40 year old woman here and I was just thinking the same thing. 61 is too old for me. My limit would be about 53, but preferably 40-45.

I am 47 female, and I would not date a 60+ year old unless he looked much younger, around 50 (maybe). My DH is in his early 50's, but looks a bit younger. He's got a bit of a belly but other than that is in pretty good shape. I am a size 4 and am about the same weight as when I got married in my early 30's.

The only way a 60+ yr old man can get a 40 yr old woman is:

1. he has lots and lots of money
2. he is very fit and looks much younger than 60
3. the woman is very very desperate

I know you want to believe that but you are so wrong.

Really? Well since this is an anonymous forum I suppose you could lie and tell me some story that "proves" me wrong. As I said, I'm 47.. I have many female friends who are my age and no way would they date a 60 yr old who weren't either #1 or #2, and none of my friends are that desperate.

OK, so your friends are not who I'm going to date. But as for #1, it's nice to know that you would all whore yourself out for the right guy, no matter his age. Some of you sound threatened that an older man like myself dates younger women in part for their better looks as if that's bad thing to choose when given the choice, or it's somehow immoral. But at least I'm choosing someone based on who she is, which includes other factors than looks. But your friends would date a man they would never choose if he has lots of money? Wow, that's really sad.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

Statistically, when you're 62 he'll be dead and you'll be spending his money.

That doesn't sound so bad.

Actually, acting as a nurse for someone who is slowly dying is really tough. At least if you marry someone your own age, you might kick the bucket first.

Who said anything about dying "slowly"?

Men usually go fast. It's women who tend to die slowly.

Sixty is over the hill for many women, unless you are Christie Brinkley

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

Yes, but how well have you held up? Compared to someone in their 40s of course! Love the double standards you are showing. Of course you are going to say you are attractive and fit and everyone wants to jump you. But, I don't believe you so don't try.

Well enough to have no problem dating women in their 40s. Barely a wrinkle in my face, and just a bit of grey. Unlike most women in their 50s. Sorry, I know how it sounds but I'm just answering the question honestly.

My question was rhetorical since I knew you would answer this way! No picture, then no proof so I still don't believe you.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter, honestly? Do 45 year old moms really want 45 year old dads thinking about them while they jerk it?

I assumed once women hit 40-45 they are done with sex.

You must be joking. I'm 52, my partner is 45 and we have sex about 4-5 times a week. No kids, more time my libido is as high as it ever was.

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming they are in decent shape etc? I mean: do you still find women your own age sexually attractive if they generally take care of themselves, or do you only find yourself attracted to younger women?

It depends on how recently I've nutted. If it's been awhile and the.crone isn't too corpse-like, and the lights are off, and she keeps her.mouth shut, we can pretend together.

There is nothing that turns me on more than a five star genuine jackass.

Anonymous wrote:Assuming they are in decent shape etc? I mean: do you still find women your own age sexually attractive if they generally take care of themselves, or do you only find yourself attracted to younger women?

It depends on how recently I've nutted. If it's been awhile and the.crone isn't too corpse-like, and the lights are off, and she keeps her.mouth shut, we can pretend together.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

Statistically, when you're 62 he'll be dead and you'll be spending his money.

That doesn't sound so bad.

Actually, acting as a nurse for someone who is slowly dying is really tough. At least if you marry someone your own age, you might kick the bucket first.

Life is fragile and unpredictable. I married someone only 6 years older than me, and he was constantly chronically ill and eventually became so depressed he didn't want to be married anymore. In our last years together it was like living with an 80-year-old man, even though my ex-h was only in his late 40s.

Now I'm with someone 10 years my senior who is much fitter, more vibrant, more energetic, and healthier than my ex and who keeps up with me in every way -- including a phenomenally high sex drive.

And he could get hit by a drunk driver tomorrow, so I don't spend a ton of time worrying about whether my joy today comes at a price of a very sad, long, goodbye when I'm 80 and he's 90.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

Statistically, when you're 62 he'll be dead and you'll be spending his money.

That doesn't sound so bad.

Actually, acting as a nurse for someone who is slowly dying is really tough. At least if you marry someone your own age, you might kick the bucket first.