Anonymous
02/02/2026 12:21
Subject: How common is it for lawyers to have affairs with paralegals?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Lawyers are a hierarchical group and are, frankly, classist. The lawyers work together, dine together, travel together, drink together, golf together, etc. The paralegals typically aren’t invited unless it’s necessitated by work. Lawyer with lawyer affairs aren’t uncommon. Lawyer affairs with paralegals rarely occur.
-Lawyer
+100
-also a Lawyer
Not exactly. Lawyers will hit on and sleep with paralegals. Will they date them seriously or marry them? No.
Anonymous
02/02/2026 11:10
Subject: How common is it for lawyers to have affairs with paralegals?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Lawyers are a hierarchical group and are, frankly, classist. The lawyers work together, dine together, travel together, drink together, golf together, etc. The paralegals typically aren’t invited unless it’s necessitated by work. Lawyer with lawyer affairs aren’t uncommon. Lawyer affairs with paralegals rarely occur.
-Lawyer
+100
-also a Lawyer
Eh, I know a male associate engaged to a female associate who got one of the legal secretaries pregnant. Also this was in-house but 2 male attorneys (1 who was married) were both fired for sleeping with a paralegal.
I would fire any associate who made so many grammatical errors.
Anonymous
02/01/2026 20:53
Subject: Re:How common is it for lawyers to have affairs with paralegals?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My ex-husband did this and admitted to me after the divorce was finalized. He was at a well-known boutique IP law firm.
She was younger, but looked old, and had 50-60 pounds on me…and not in the same social class at all.
He was an insecure man who used his power dynamic to have “sexual transactions”. He said he didn’t know who he was and eventually broke it off.
Absolutely destroyed his life over being delusional… so yes, it happens. Cut your loses on someone like that though. They are dumber than a box of rocks and shouldn’t be practicing law.
Oh, well ...yuck. She most have been gross. I mean ... ewwwww ... a paralegal. So low compared to a wife.
Lol. Ok. Can't imagine why your DH wanted someone else... doesn't sound like he was at all delusional.
Different poster- you’re an ass
Any person who knowingly cheats, has an affair and breaks up a family IS Trash, low class, immoral, ugly soul.
Adultery is a horrible sin that used to be punished by death. Do not victim blame
You completely missed the point.
What is your point? Please let me know. I was a super trophy wife plus had a career, while also being ultra supportive of his dreams. I’m 115lbs, ultra fit, took care of myself and the house to a tee. And this woman was the overweight sloppy drunk at the Christmas party that he made fun of on the way home. He had a mid-life crisis and needed his ego stroked because he had a fragile sense of self. and the first thing he said was that he felt insecure as a man. This is what you run from ladies. Sometimes you are on the wrong life path and the trash takes itself out. I didn’t do anything wrong. I’m the cool wife that drinks whisky with the guys, talks about cars/planes/boats, golfs, and awesome skier and snowboarder, scuba dive. And I have all the family money too so he don’t have to work slave firm hours. I’m not some lame housewife you go cheat on. He was the dork attorney that was insecure. Period. You have no point.
All of my new men are better! Amen!
Anonymous
02/01/2026 19:18
Subject: How common is it for lawyers to have affairs with paralegals?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If I see “attorney” I do not select that person for a date.
THIS!!!! This is the way!
Attorneys, doctors and nurses are notorious for sleeping around.
There are just too many opportunities: overnight shifts, ready availability of call rooms, never ending stream of nubile young bodies, coworkers willing to look the other way because they’re also doing the same thing…..
Overnight shifts are pretty rare for attorneys these days. Most attorneys on long projects nowadays work until 7 or 8, then go home, and continue to grind remotely until the work is done.
Doctors / nurses. Well, you're at the jobsite.
This. Post-Covid, the hours are still horrific but lawyers and bankers tend to take work home vs pull all nighters at the office or go into the office all day Saturday like they used to.
There are times when I simpy find being in front of three screens at the office is easier than working at home. No dog; no kids; no broom that needs attention; no cake batter that needs cooking. But I cannot remember the last time I actually was in the office long enough to hear the trash dumpters on the ground level being emptied and the sun coming up. Maybe 10 years. And like you said, certainly before 'rona.
Anonymous
02/01/2026 16:51
Subject: How common is it for lawyers to have affairs with paralegals?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If I see “attorney” I do not select that person for a date.
THIS!!!! This is the way!
Attorneys, doctors and nurses are notorious for sleeping around.
There are just too many opportunities: overnight shifts, ready availability of call rooms, never ending stream of nubile young bodies, coworkers willing to look the other way because they’re also doing the same thing…..
Overnight shifts are pretty rare for attorneys these days. Most attorneys on long projects nowadays work until 7 or 8, then go home, and continue to grind remotely until the work is done.
Doctors / nurses. Well, you're at the jobsite.
This. Post-Covid, the hours are still horrific but lawyers and bankers tend to take work home vs pull all nighters at the office or go into the office all day Saturday like they used to.
Anonymous
02/01/2026 16:49
Subject: How common is it for lawyers to have affairs with paralegals?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Lawyers are a hierarchical group and are, frankly, classist. The lawyers work together, dine together, travel together, drink together, golf together, etc. The paralegals typically aren’t invited unless it’s necessitated by work. Lawyer with lawyer affairs aren’t uncommon. Lawyer affairs with paralegals rarely occur.
-Lawyer
+100
-also a Lawyer
+200. It’s always lawyers with other lawyers.
Anonymous
02/01/2026 16:23
Subject: How common is it for lawyers to have affairs with paralegals?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If I see “attorney” I do not select that person for a date.
THIS!!!! This is the way!
Attorneys, doctors and nurses are notorious for sleeping around.
There are just too many opportunities: overnight shifts, ready availability of call rooms, never ending stream of nubile young bodies, coworkers willing to look the other way because they’re also doing the same thing…..
Overnight shifts are pretty rare for attorneys these days. Most attorneys on long projects nowadays work until 7 or 8, then go home, and continue to grind remotely until the work is done.
Doctors / nurses. Well, you're at the jobsite.
Anonymous
02/01/2026 14:33
Subject: How common is it for lawyers to have affairs with paralegals?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If I see “attorney” I do not select that person for a date.
THIS!!!! This is the way!
Attorneys, doctors and nurses are notorious for sleeping around.
There are just too many opportunities: overnight shifts, ready availability of call rooms, never ending stream of nubile young bodies, coworkers willing to look the other way because they’re also doing the same thing…..
Anonymous
02/01/2026 14:10
Subject: How common is it for lawyers to have affairs with paralegals?
Anonymous wrote:I am at big law but was at small boutique firm in not that large town before and I had a couple of flings with my paralegals. One of them was interested in doing it and was very sultry at work. she was also a pleaser and really wanted a man around to feel good so she would be like that anywhere else too.
Good for you, PP.
Anonymous
02/01/2026 14:09
Subject: How common is it for lawyers to have affairs with paralegals?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If I see “attorney” I do not select that person for a date.
THIS!!!! This is the way!
Attorneys, doctors and nurses are notorious for sleeping around.
Anonymous
02/01/2026 13:42
Subject: How common is it for lawyers to have affairs with paralegals?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Lawyers are a hierarchical group and are, frankly, classist. The lawyers work together, dine together, travel together, drink together, golf together, etc. The paralegals typically aren’t invited unless it’s necessitated by work. Lawyer with lawyer affairs aren’t uncommon. Lawyer affairs with paralegals rarely occur.
-Lawyer
+100
-also a Lawyer
Eh, I know a male associate engaged to a female associate who got one of the legal secretaries pregnant. Also this was in-house but 2 male attorneys (1 who was married) were both fired for sleeping with a paralegal.
Anonymous
02/01/2026 13:35
Subject: How common is it for lawyers to have affairs with paralegals?
Back in the 90s my future husband (before we met) was a paralegal and dated/slept with a young associate (female). I thought it was weird. I’m an attorney now and have never heard of this but I can see t happening in theory. Not common though.
Anonymous
02/01/2026 13:06
Subject: How common is it for lawyers to have affairs with paralegals?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Lawyers are a hierarchical group and are, frankly, classist. The lawyers work together, dine together, travel together, drink together, golf together, etc. The paralegals typically aren’t invited unless it’s necessitated by work. Lawyer with lawyer affairs aren’t uncommon. Lawyer affairs with paralegals rarely occur.
-Lawyer
+100
-also a Lawyer
I have seen a couple attorney-paralegal affairs and the paralegal is treated as expendable. I agree with that’s written above and looking at the comment from the guy who had the affair with the paralegal, looks like it’s not limited to what I saw. (Another lawyer)
Anonymous
02/01/2026 13:05
Subject: How common is it for lawyers to have affairs with paralegals?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Lawyers are a hierarchical group and are, frankly, classist. The lawyers work together, dine together, travel together, drink together, golf together, etc. The paralegals typically aren’t invited unless it’s necessitated by work. Lawyer with lawyer affairs aren’t uncommon. Lawyer affairs with paralegals rarely occur.
-Lawyer
+100
I have seen a couple attorney-paralegal affairs and the paralegal is treated as expendable. I agree with that’s written above and looking at the comment from the guy who had the affair with the paralegal, looks like it’s not limited to what I saw.
-also a Lawyer
Anonymous
02/01/2026 12:53
Subject: How common is it for lawyers to have affairs with paralegals?
Anonymous wrote:Lawyers are a hierarchical group and are, frankly, classist. The lawyers work together, dine together, travel together, drink together, golf together, etc. The paralegals typically aren’t invited unless it’s necessitated by work. Lawyer with lawyer affairs aren’t uncommon. Lawyer affairs with paralegals rarely occur.
-Lawyer
+100
-also a Lawyer