Red flag. Does he have relatives who are addicts? Then it's a huge red flag. Consider attending Al-Anon.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is this the first time you’ve been around him while he is drunk? If not, was this typical behavior and it just didn’t fly on your wedding night? If you’ve never seen him drunk, he must have just not been able to handle it, by doesn’t sound like a regular thing so let it go.
You sound immature though, to say you want to leave so quickly.
Op here. The thing is usually he’s the gentlest and sweetest guy. He does drink too much when he parties and once he event hit a guy. This was the only time he did that 3 years ago.
I am so hurt that he was so mean to me on our wedding night.
Anonymous wrote:You both sound way too immature to be married.
Anonymous wrote:On our wedding night a few months ago, my Newly minted husband got super drunk and could hardly walk. I had to drag him back to our suite. As we were walking back I told him I was so embarrassed and disappointed that he got so drunk on our wedding night. He got angry and yelled at me on the street and goes and tells our friends that I am "picking" a fight. I finally manage to bring him to our suite where he is too drunk to unbutton my dress. When I say anything about anything about being disappointed, he says shortly that our marriage won't work if I keep picking on him.
I cried asleep on my wedding night.
The next morning when I told him I was hurt and disappointed, he loses his temper again and says I am picking on him for having a good time. We weee fighting all through breakfast.
I am so angry and hurt over all that he did to ruin our wedding night and day after. I don't know how I can forgive him. I feel humiliated, disrespected and unloved. The worst part is he didn't even apologize the next morning or for a few days after I repeatedly sat down and reminded him that this was unacceptable.
I want to leave him.
Anonymous wrote:I am willing to bet this isn't the first time you had to do that with him.
So many people marry the fun frat boy or a guys guy and think they will change them and their drinking and all that. it never happens.
So glad my dad told me about the type of men that are in the world.
Never date a guy who wears his hat backwards
Never date a guy who wears a tie with shorts
Never date a guy who talks badly of his mother
Never date a guy who doesn't open the car door for you
Never date a guy who doesn't come to the door to pick you up
Never date a guy who spends too much time washing his car
Never date someone and try to change them
Anonymous wrote:Get it annulled. This is your major red flag. Ignore at your own peril. [/quote
This.
Anonymous wrote:Annulment. You couldn't possibly have never seen this behavior before you got married. Get out. Screw any shame you'd feel, it's all bs. Do what's right for you.