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Anonymous wrote:Start now, especially if you want 2-3. I'm surprised as a nurse that you aren't informed about fertility.

Op here. I am well aware that it gets harder to have a child after 35, but many women do. As a nurse, I've seen many healthy pregnancies, with the moms being as old as 42. We are in a generation where many women are having their children later. Having a child after 35 increases risks, but every complications can happen with any age. I am not going to be scared into those statistics.

Perhaps you aren't ready or actually do not want kids. It's worth maybe speaking to a therapist.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not wait for school until all your kids are in school?

Op here. It's a very hard program to get into. I am eager to start my career now. I don't want to be 40 and in school. I will also have a greater salary, which means more money for childcare.

you are eager to star you career now so you can't have the baby. but in 7 years you will be eager to continue the career and will be raising three children! how do you plan to do that?

I don't understand why you are being so harsh to OP. Many, many women work while raising young children. Not all of us can be SAHMs. Op, don't post on here anymore. There is nothing but bitter women who hate career driven women, likely because they don't have the skills to have one.

ummm, thanks. i am working and raising children. the point is not that that is no possible. but the point is that this is not any easier than having a baby while going to school! if you claim that you can't go to some harsh program (puh-lease, it's nursing) and having one baby because "she doesn't like leaving the baby with the nanny and her husband works 50 hours a week while trying to become partner" how is she going to raise three (3!!) children (who are going to be born in the span of 5 years) and pursue her career with a husband who is a law firm partner?

Slow clap for you pp for working and raising children. You are like almost every other parent. Your snarky attitude towards a profession is uncalled for. Unless you are a nurse, you don't know what it's like, or how hard of a program it may be.

Honestly PP has a point though. OP keeps talking like the fact that her DH works 50 hour weeks is exceptional and will make it impossible...but he's trying to make partner, she HAS to know that's only going to continue/get worse, right? Ditto with her concerns about leaving the baby(babies...) with a childcare provider - how is the need for that going to change at all in 2 years? If she's so into this career then she will be working, right?

My problem is with her belittling a profession she likely doesn't knows anything about. I come from a long line nurses, and it's hard work.

I don't think she is as much criticizing the profession as she is saying hm, I'm not sure that doing this while you're trying to start out working in that field is going to be much easier than doing it while you're in school...
Either way I agree the dig wasn't nice

" if you claim that you can't go to some harsh program (puh-lease, it's nursing)". That is the definition of belittling a professsion.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not wait for school until all your kids are in school?

Op here. It's a very hard program to get into. I am eager to start my career now. I don't want to be 40 and in school. I will also have a greater salary, which means more money for childcare.

you are eager to star you career now so you can't have the baby. but in 7 years you will be eager to continue the career and will be raising three children! how do you plan to do that?

I don't understand why you are being so harsh to OP. Many, many women work while raising young children. Not all of us can be SAHMs. Op, don't post on here anymore. There is nothing but bitter women who hate career driven women, likely because they don't have the skills to have one.

ummm, thanks. i am working and raising children. the point is not that that is no possible. but the point is that this is not any easier than having a baby while going to school! if you claim that you can't go to some harsh program (puh-lease, it's nursing) and having one baby because "she doesn't like leaving the baby with the nanny and her husband works 50 hours a week while trying to become partner" how is she going to raise three (3!!) children (who are going to be born in the span of 5 years) and pursue her career with a husband who is a law firm partner?

Slow clap for you pp for working and raising children. You are like almost every other parent. Your snarky attitude towards a profession is uncalled for. Unless you are a nurse, you don't know what it's like, or how hard of a program it may be.

Honestly PP has a point though. OP keeps talking like the fact that her DH works 50 hour weeks is exceptional and will make it impossible...but he's trying to make partner, she HAS to know that's only going to continue/get worse, right? Ditto with her concerns about leaving the baby(babies...) with a childcare provider - how is the need for that going to change at all in 2 years? If she's so into this career then she will be working, right?

My problem is with her belittling a profession she likely doesn't knows anything about. I come from a long line nurses, and it's hard work.

I don't think she is as much criticizing the profession as she is saying hm, I'm not sure that doing this while you're trying to start out working in that field is going to be much easier than doing it while you're in school...
Either way I agree the dig wasn't nice

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Anonymous wrote:Start now, especially if you want 2-3. I'm surprised as a nurse that you aren't informed about fertility.

Op here. I am well aware that it gets harder to have a child after 35, but many women do. As a nurse, I've seen many healthy pregnancies, with the moms being as old as 42. We are in a generation where many women are having their children later. Having a child after 35 increases risks, but every complications can happen with any age. I am not going to be scared into those statistics.

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Anonymous wrote:OP's problems arise from the fact that this is her second career but she wants pursue it like it's her first - to focus properly on coursework etc, just like other students. but, she is not like other students, she is several years (it seems like 5 or so) behind them. that introduces significant problems into her planning. the other problem is that she wants to have 3 kids in five year. that's basically five years of pregnancies, babies and toddlerhood all while pursuing a career that means so much to her. at 32 she doesn't feel ready to have a baby but in just a few years she thinks she will be ready for work, pregnancy, baby and toddler all happening at once.

Not Op but many people change professions all of time. Why are you focusing on criticizing her for it? When I was in my MBA program at 26, most of my peers were 30+. Was their age a reason to look down or criticize them? No! Everyone had their own walk of life. I applaud Op for leaving her last job to pursue her career. It's never too late.

Start to learn to nicer. Mean women raise mean kids.

and what is to you to prove that OP has a sensible view of her future?

nobody really cares what OP does. we are just mulling over her situation.


And what is it to you whether she wants to have 3 kids in 5 years? You can not be ready at 32 and be ready by 34 for kids. It's not unheard of. She is smart to get school out of the way. Some of you have a strong case of superiority complex. My cousin is a nurse. She is currently back in school to be a nursing instructor while raising 2 under 2 and a teenager. She is 36 and most of her peers are the same age. There are many people going back to school in grad programs or for an advanced degree that are 30+. The oldest in my MBA class was a 56 year old dad. Instead of judging, motivate others. It will get you father in life.

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Anonymous wrote:OP's problems arise from the fact that this is her second career but she wants pursue it like it's her first - to focus properly on coursework etc, just like other students. but, she is not like other students, she is several years (it seems like 5 or so) behind them. that introduces significant problems into her planning. the other problem is that she wants to have 3 kids in five year. that's basically five years of pregnancies, babies and toddlerhood all while pursuing a career that means so much to her. at 32 she doesn't feel ready to have a baby but in just a few years she thinks she will be ready for work, pregnancy, baby and toddler all happening at once.

Not Op but many people change professions all of time. Why are you focusing on criticizing her for it? When I was in my MBA program at 26, most of my peers were 30+. Was their age a reason to look down or criticize them? No! Everyone had their own walk of life. I applaud Op for leaving her last job to pursue her career. It's never too late.

Start to learn to nicer. Mean women raise mean kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not wait for school until all your kids are in school?

Op here. It's a very hard program to get into. I am eager to start my career now. I don't want to be 40 and in school. I will also have a greater salary, which means more money for childcare.

you are eager to star you career now so you can't have the baby. but in 7 years you will be eager to continue the career and will be raising three children! how do you plan to do that?

I don't understand why you are being so harsh to OP. Many, many women work while raising young children. Not all of us can be SAHMs. Op, don't post on here anymore. There is nothing but bitter women who hate career driven women, likely because they don't have the skills to have one.

ummm, thanks. i am working and raising children. the point is not that that is no possible. but the point is that this is not any easier than having a baby while going to school! if you claim that you can't go to some harsh program (puh-lease, it's nursing) and having one baby because "she doesn't like leaving the baby with the nanny and her husband works 50 hours a week while trying to become partner" how is she going to raise three (3!!) children (who are going to be born in the span of 5 years) and pursue her career with a husband who is a law firm partner?

Slow clap for you pp for working and raising children. You are like almost every other parent. Your snarky attitude towards a profession is uncalled for. Unless you are a nurse, you don't know what it's like, or how hard of a program it may be.

Honestly PP has a point though. OP keeps talking like the fact that her DH works 50 hour weeks is exceptional and will make it impossible...but he's trying to make partner, she HAS to know that's only going to continue/get worse, right? Ditto with her concerns about leaving the baby(babies...) with a childcare provider - how is the need for that going to change at all in 2 years? If she's so into this career then she will be working, right?

My problem is with her belittling a profession she likely doesn't knows anything about. I come from a long line nurses, and it's hard work.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not wait for school until all your kids are in school?

Op here. It's a very hard program to get into. I am eager to start my career now. I don't want to be 40 and in school. I will also have a greater salary, which means more money for childcare.

you are eager to star you career now so you can't have the baby. but in 7 years you will be eager to continue the career and will be raising three children! how do you plan to do that?

I don't understand why you are being so harsh to OP. Many, many women work while raising young children. Not all of us can be SAHMs. Op, don't post on here anymore. There is nothing but bitter women who hate career driven women, likely because they don't have the skills to have one.

ummm, thanks. i am working and raising children. the point is not that that is no possible. but the point is that this is not any easier than having a baby while going to school! if you claim that you can't go to some harsh program (puh-lease, it's nursing) and having one baby because "she doesn't like leaving the baby with the nanny and her husband works 50 hours a week while trying to become partner" how is she going to raise three (3!!) children (who are going to be born in the span of 5 years) and pursue her career with a husband who is a law firm partner?

Slow clap for you pp for working and raising children. You are like almost every other parent. Your snarky attitude towards a profession is uncalled for. Unless you are a nurse, you don't know what it's like, or how hard of a program it may be.

Honestly PP has a point though. OP keeps talking like the fact that her DH works 50 hour weeks is exceptional and will make it impossible...but he's trying to make partner, she HAS to know that's only going to continue/get worse, right? Ditto with her concerns about leaving the baby(babies...) with a childcare provider - how is the need for that going to change at all in 2 years? If she's so into this career then she will be working, right?

My problem is with her belittling a profession she likely doesn't knows anything about. I come from a long line nurses, and it's hard work.

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Anonymous wrote:OP's problems arise from the fact that this is her second career but she wants pursue it like it's her first - to focus properly on coursework etc, just like other students. but, she is not like other students, she is several years (it seems like 5 or so) behind them. that introduces significant problems into her planning. the other problem is that she wants to have 3 kids in five year. that's basically five years of pregnancies, babies and toddlerhood all while pursuing a career that means so much to her. at 32 she doesn't feel ready to have a baby but in just a few years she thinks she will be ready for work, pregnancy, baby and toddler all happening at once.

Not Op but many people change professions all of time. Why are you focusing on criticizing her for it? When I was in my MBA program at 26, most of my peers were 30+. Was their age a reason to look down or criticize them? No! Everyone had their own walk of life. I applaud Op for leaving her last job to pursue her career. It's never too late.

Start to learn to nicer. Mean women raise mean kids.

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Anonymous wrote:OP's problems arise from the fact that this is her second career but she wants pursue it like it's her first - to focus properly on coursework etc, just like other students. but, she is not like other students, she is several years (it seems like 5 or so) behind them. that introduces significant problems into her planning. the other problem is that she wants to have 3 kids in five year. that's basically five years of pregnancies, babies and toddlerhood all while pursuing a career that means so much to her. at 32 she doesn't feel ready to have a baby but in just a few years she thinks she will be ready for work, pregnancy, baby and toddler all happening at once.

Not Op but many people change professions all of time. Why are you focusing on criticizing her for it? When I was in my MBA program at 26, most of my peers were 30+. Was their age a reason to look down or criticize them? No! Everyone had their own walk of life. I applaud Op for leaving her last job to pursue her career. It's never too late.

Start to learn to nicer. Mean women raise mean kids.

Anonymous wrote:OP's problems arise from the fact that this is her second career but she wants pursue it like it's her first - to focus properly on coursework etc, just like other students. but, she is not like other students, she is several years (it seems like 5 or so) behind them. that introduces significant problems into her planning. the other problem is that she wants to have 3 kids in five year. that's basically five years of pregnancies, babies and toddlerhood all while pursuing a career that means so much to her. at 32 she doesn't feel ready to have a baby but in just a few years she thinks she will be ready for work, pregnancy, baby and toddler all happening at once.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not wait for school until all your kids are in school?

Op here. It's a very hard program to get into. I am eager to start my career now. I don't want to be 40 and in school. I will also have a greater salary, which means more money for childcare.

you are eager to star you career now so you can't have the baby. but in 7 years you will be eager to continue the career and will be raising three children! how do you plan to do that?

I don't understand why you are being so harsh to OP. Many, many women work while raising young children. Not all of us can be SAHMs. Op, don't post on here anymore. There is nothing but bitter women who hate career driven women, likely because they don't have the skills to have one.

ummm, thanks. i am working and raising children. the point is not that that is no possible. but the point is that this is not any easier than having a baby while going to school! if you claim that you can't go to some harsh program (puh-lease, it's nursing) and having one baby because "she doesn't like leaving the baby with the nanny and her husband works 50 hours a week while trying to become partner" how is she going to raise three (3!!) children (who are going to be born in the span of 5 years) and pursue her career with a husband who is a law firm partner?

Slow clap for you pp for working and raising children. You are like almost every other parent. Your snarky attitude towards a profession is uncalled for. Unless you are a nurse, you don't know what it's like, or how hard of a program it may be.

Honestly PP has a point though. OP keeps talking like the fact that her DH works 50 hour weeks is exceptional and will make it impossible...but he's trying to make partner, she HAS to know that's only going to continue/get worse, right? Ditto with her concerns about leaving the baby(babies...) with a childcare provider - how is the need for that going to change at all in 2 years? If she's so into this career then she will be working, right?

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Anonymous wrote:Why not wait for school until all your kids are in school?

Op here. It's a very hard program to get into. I am eager to start my career now. I don't want to be 40 and in school. I will also have a greater salary, which means more money for childcare.

you are eager to star you career now so you can't have the baby. but in 7 years you will be eager to continue the career and will be raising three children! how do you plan to do that?

I don't understand why you are being so harsh to OP. Many, many women work while raising young children. Not all of us can be SAHMs. Op, don't post on here anymore. There is nothing but bitter women who hate career driven women, likely because they don't have the skills to have one.

ummm, thanks. i am working and raising children. the point is not that that is no possible. but the point is that this is not any easier than having a baby while going to school! if you claim that you can't go to some harsh program (puh-lease, it's nursing) and having one baby because "she doesn't like leaving the baby with the nanny and her husband works 50 hours a week while trying to become partner" how is she going to raise three (3!!) children (who are going to be born in the span of 5 years) and pursue her career with a husband who is a law firm partner?

Slow clap for you pp for working and raising children. You are like almost every other parent. Your snarky attitude towards a profession is uncalled for. Unless you are a nurse, you don't know what it's like, or how hard of a program it may be.