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Anonymous wrote:Women accuse everyone, this is common due to the Fake rape movement.

There's no fake rape movement. There are, however, men who so hate women that they want to believe that women get some glory out of claiming they were raped.

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Anonymous wrote:I've never heard of the fake rape movement, but I had a co-worker who was accused of rape. He was immediately fired from his job, then his wife left him. And he spent close to 100k on legal fees to prepare for trial. Just before going to trial, the supposed victim recanted the entire story. To this day he has been unable to recover sure to finances and relationships that were destroyed.

That's an anecdote, not a movement. False accusations of rape are inline with all other crimes -- right around 2%.

2% is not only false it is materially misleading.

False rape allegations occur at a rate of 2 to 10 percent. That does in no way mean the other claims were in fact rape, it only means in 2% to 10% the accuser was actually proven to be lying. For example, the accused wasn't even at the location of the alleged rape.

This definition is consistent with guidance provided by the FBI Uniform Crime Report (UCR) on methods for clearing cases. Specifically, the UCR Handbook states that a case can only be unfounded if it is “determined through investigation to be false or baseless. In other words, no crime occurred” (p. 77). This seems clear, because a case cannot be “determined through investigation to be false or baseless” if no investigation was conducted or if it yielded insufficient evidence.4
While this is the actual definition of a false report for law enforcement purposes, it does not typically reflect the way investigators, prosecutors (and their supervisors) tend to think of sexual assault investigations.5 In fact, at virtually every training we offer on this topic, we hear from law enforcement professionals who unfound cases—and prosecutors who reject them— either because they do not believe the victim’s account or they failed to prove it conclusively. This practice fails to meet the needs of both victims and the larger society.
So, although the actual definition of a false report should be the same for all criminal justice professionals, it is clear that the practices that are really used vary dramatically. This is why the percentage of sexual assault reports that are unfounded by various law enforcement agencies are so different; many are labeling sexual assault reports false without any evidence to establish that they did not occur.

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Anonymous wrote:If I was accused and my wife kicked me out, there is no way I'm coming back when I'm cleared. You can't fix that.

Eh, but...if my husband has been evading the cops for over a week and hiding it from me, then they show up and he deliberately shuts me out of the conversation...I don't think you can fix that either

Anonymous wrote:I don't know where to begin. I am shaking.

DH works in another state for six weeks in a remote area during the summer. There is a woman who is accusing him, and multiple coworkers of his of sexual assault. He was questioned today in our home and swabbed. Which leads me to believe there is substantial evidence. DH is trying to brush it off, saying he doesn't know her and he just went to sleep that night.

I kicked him out and told him not to come back until he is cleared.

I'm completely distraught and emotional. I don't want him near me. I don't believe he did it, but what if?

Anonymous wrote:If I was accused and my wife kicked me out, there is no way I'm coming back when I'm cleared. You can't fix that.

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Anonymous wrote:I've never heard of the fake rape movement, but I had a co-worker who was accused of rape. He was immediately fired from his job, then his wife left him. And he spent close to 100k on legal fees to prepare for trial. Just before going to trial, the supposed victim recanted the entire story. To this day he has been unable to recover sure to finances and relationships that were destroyed.

That's an anecdote, not a movement. False accusations of rape are inline with all other crimes -- right around 2%.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a feeling everyone was drinking. Your husband had sex that he believes was consensual. The women disagrees, was super drunk and isn't sure. This the swabbing of multiple men. At a minimim, he cheated on you. At a maximum, he raped this woman. Either way your marriage is pretty much over. You need a lawyer to start protecting your assets. A court case will destroy your finances.

I was going to look into filing. We don't have any mutual assets (we don't own property) aside from a joint bank account. We've been married less than a year. There's really no assets to protect. I have student loan debt and he has car debt but that's it.

To be honest, if you have no kids, and you've only been married a year, I'd move on -- assuming that he at least cheated. Talk to an attorney ASAP. There may be no assets, but the woman could sue him for civil damages.

I am always amazed at how quickly women on this board proclaim that woman should kick their husbands to the curb. So much for vows...

I know right? He's only hiding the fact that he's being investigated by police in multiple states for rape! Jeez these faithless wenches, they'll jump ship over any little thing!

Questions and a swab are not an investigation.

Yes, tracking someone who has been accused of assault down to collect physical evidence and question them is an investigation. Possibly you're thinking of an indictment?

I may have missed it but an investigation into an alleged assault does not constitute an investigation into an individual questioned and swabbed. It is not uncommon in cases with a victim that doesn't recall the assailant(s) to question everyone at the location during the crime to identify the assailant.

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Anonymous wrote:I've never heard of the fake rape movement, but I had a co-worker who was accused of rape. He was immediately fired from his job, then his wife left him. And he spent close to 100k on legal fees to prepare for trial. Just before going to trial, the supposed victim recanted the entire story. To this day he has been unable to recover sure to finances and relationships that were destroyed.

That's an anecdote, not a movement. False accusations of rape are inline with all other crimes -- right around 2%.

Anonymous wrote:I've never heard of the fake rape movement, but I had a co-worker who was accused of rape. He was immediately fired from his job, then his wife left him. And he spent close to 100k on legal fees to prepare for trial. Just before going to trial, the supposed victim recanted the entire story. To this day he has been unable to recover sure to finances and relationships that were destroyed.

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I kicked him out because he went outside to be interviewed. I heard the police say to him: "The police in X state have been trying to get a hold of you to no avail." He asked me to close the window so I couldn't overhear. That made me suspicious.

His friend disclosed to him last week that he had been swabbed. He's known for a week that his co-workers were being swabbed. He neglected to tell me.

To me, that seems like guilty behavior.

Too many things are not adding up. If the police had been swapping others in the DH's work group, then they would have likely bagged them at work and got the DH at the same time. However, it took the police a week to find the DH even though they work at the same place. How far away are the offices from one another? Also, if there was a rape on company or goverment property, why would the company/agency let the people they knew were being investigated come back to work without them being questioned first?

The DH asked the DW to close the open window after the cops started the questioning? The DH has the presence of mind to ask the cops to step outside so they can talk in front of an open window? More than that, the DH knew his wife was at the window or he would not have asked her to shut it. She just happened to be standing at the open window to hear part of the conversation, then gets seen by the DH, then told to shut the window?

Nope. Too many things about this tale do not make sense. Unless we are watching it on Lifetime.

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Anonymous wrote:I've never heard of the fake rape movement, but I had a co-worker who was accused of rape. He was immediately fired from his job, then his wife left him. And he spent close to 100k on legal fees to prepare for trial. Just before going to trial, the supposed victim recanted the entire story. To this day he has been unable to recover sure to finances and relationships that were destroyed.

That's an anecdote, not a movement. False accusations of rape are inline with all other crimes -- right around 2%.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a feeling everyone was drinking. Your husband had sex that he believes was consensual. The women disagrees, was super drunk and isn't sure. This the swabbing of multiple men. At a minimim, he cheated on you. At a maximum, he raped this woman. Either way your marriage is pretty much over. You need a lawyer to start protecting your assets. A court case will destroy your finances.

I was going to look into filing. We don't have any mutual assets (we don't own property) aside from a joint bank account. We've been married less than a year. There's really no assets to protect. I have student loan debt and he has car debt but that's it.

To be honest, if you have no kids, and you've only been married a year, I'd move on -- assuming that he at least cheated. Talk to an attorney ASAP. There may be no assets, but the woman could sue him for civil damages.

I am always amazed at how quickly women on this board proclaim that woman should kick their husbands to the curb. So much for vows...

I know right? He's only hiding the fact that he's being investigated by police in multiple states for rape! Jeez these faithless wenches, they'll jump ship over any little thing!

Questions and a swab are not an investigation.

Yes, tracking someone who has been accused of assault down to collect physical evidence and question them is an investigation. Possibly you're thinking of an indictment?

Anonymous wrote:I've never heard of the fake rape movement, but I had a co-worker who was accused of rape. He was immediately fired from his job, then his wife left him. And he spent close to 100k on legal fees to prepare for trial. Just before going to trial, the supposed victim recanted the entire story. To this day he has been unable to recover sure to finances and relationships that were destroyed.