Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No kids. I'm looking for discreet sex, no relationship.

Cheating is wrong and extremely damaging to families. Don't contribute to someone cheating on their spouse.

^ this. While the husband /wife get past it (usually), it can have very long-lasting effects on children. Not only on the relationships with their parents but on how they see relationships altogether.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's perfectly fine and almost unavoidable at certain times of your life as long as you maintain the right outlook. A married man is just something to tide you over when you need sex and some companionship, like the last slice of bread and drying leaf of lettuce in your fridge - enough to kill hunger but not really a meal. It can never be a real relationship but can scratch an itch if nothing else is available for a time. Just don't be silly and get feelings involved.

This is just as bizarre as the white supremists in Charlottesville.

Aaah, NO!

Yes. Hurting others is hurting others.

Wearing a hood and marching is the same to me as sleeping with a married man/woman.

It can be very good if you pick the right married man

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's perfectly fine and almost unavoidable at certain times of your life as long as you maintain the right outlook. A married man is just something to tide you over when you need sex and some companionship, like the last slice of bread and drying leaf of lettuce in your fridge - enough to kill hunger but not really a meal. It can never be a real relationship but can scratch an itch if nothing else is available for a time. Just don't be silly and get feelings involved.

This is just as bizarre as the white supremists in Charlottesville.

Aaah, NO!

Get a FWB! I'm sure if you put a profile on Tinder you can find one.

And then seek therapy. You probably had some trauma in your life if you feel like you don't want a relationship. Heal yourself.

I agree she should not sleep with a married man. I don't agree that she had trauma if she feels like she doesn't want a relationship. I've been divorced fairly amicably for 5 years, and don't feel like I want another relationship. I'm incredibly busy with work, my kids, and my extended family (who live nearby). Plus a lot of my free time is spent volunteering for an organization that I care about, and playing a sport that I've been into for years. No trauma, but just don't want a romantic relationship right now. Too much going on, and don't feel I can fit it in, or want to.

Anonymous wrote:It's perfectly fine and almost unavoidable at certain times of your life as long as you maintain the right outlook. A married man is just something to tide you over when you need sex and some companionship, like the last slice of bread and drying leaf of lettuce in your fridge - enough to kill hunger but not really a meal. It can never be a real relationship but can scratch an itch if nothing else is available for a time. Just don't be silly and get feelings involved.

Perfectly fine as long as you are amoral and devoid of feelings

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not going to do it. I'm just so horny with no prospects in sight.

Try adult friend finder, co?

I slept with a married man for years. They had no children when it started, and then they had a child. He eventually left her for me. We are in love, and care deeply for eachother. I am pregnant with our first child together.
I would never do it again, or recommend it to someone else. It's a waste of time. I hate the way our relationship started. I've met his family, they seem to really like me. It all starts off innocently until feelings get involved.
Just my 2 cents

Are you kidding?

It isn't starting off innocently? It starts with you sleeping with a married man. Maybe someone can say it is a justifiable wrong (not that I agree), but in no way is it innocent.

Moreover, I presume he was once in love with and cared deeply about his first wife or he wouldn't have married her to begin with. He's already left a woman that he was in love with, cared deeply about, and had a child with. Whatever makes you think he won't do the same to you?

Quite frankly I feel like a lot of men get married because they're goaded into buying a ring and having a fancy wedding because the woman wants to start popping out kids. It's just the next logical step and it seems easier than leaving. I can think of a lot of couples where I certainly wouldn't classify it as "getting married because they're deeply in love." (Not PP by the way.)

Get a FWB! I'm sure if you put a profile on Tinder you can find one.

And then seek therapy. You probably had some trauma in your life if you feel like you don't want a relationship. Heal yourself.

Good luck.

Anonymous wrote:For me it sucked, but after I divorced him I had some great sex!

Why was the sex better after divorce?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's bad but it's within the range of mistakes most people make. He is a big boy, go for it.

Just know that he is never leaving his wife for you. Never.

Op here. I don't want him to! Part of why I'm tempted to go down this route is because I don't even want the possibility of a relationship.

Then why not just have sex with me?

I sleep with married man every night. Seems to work out OK. I sleep with another married man about 1-2x per month. That works out OK, to.

Anonymous wrote:No kids. I'm looking for discreet sex, no relationship.

Cheating is wrong and extremely damaging to families. Don't contribute to someone cheating on their spouse.

Anonymous wrote:It's perfectly fine and almost unavoidable at certain times of your life as long as you maintain the right outlook. A married man is just something to tide you over when you need sex and some companionship, like the last slice of bread and drying leaf of lettuce in your fridge - enough to kill hunger but not really a meal. It can never be a real relationship but can scratch an itch if nothing else is available for a time. Just don't be silly and get feelings involved.

This is just as bizarre as the white supremists in Charlottesville.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not going to do it. I'm just so horny with no prospects in sight.

Try adult friend finder, co?

I slept with a married man for years. They had no children when it started, and then they had a child. He eventually left her for me. We are in love, and care deeply for eachother. I am pregnant with our first child together.
I would never do it again, or recommend it to someone else. It's a waste of time. I hate the way our relationship started. I've met his family, they seem to really like me. It all starts off innocently until feelings get involved.
Just my 2 cents

Are you kidding?

It isn't starting off innocently? It starts with you sleeping with a married man. Maybe someone can say it is a justifiable wrong (not that I agree), but in no way is it innocent.

Moreover, I presume he was once in love with and cared deeply about his first wife or he wouldn't have married her to begin with. He's already left a woman that he was in love with, cared deeply about, and had a child with. Whatever makes you think he won't do the same to you?

It's perfectly fine and almost unavoidable at certain times of your life as long as you maintain the right outlook. A married man is just something to tide you over when you need sex and some companionship, like the last slice of bread and drying leaf of lettuce in your fridge - enough to kill hunger but not really a meal. It can never be a real relationship but can scratch an itch if nothing else is available for a time. Just don't be silly and get feelings involved.