Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
She could use her science degree and go to medical/dental school.
OP, please be the parent of the child you actually have, not of the child you wish you had.
I am. Is it wrong that I want the only child I have to be successful?
Yes, within your confines of successful. How narrow to assume only UMC people have achieved anything in life, what a shallow marker. Maybe her version of success doesn't look anything like yours. Share your thoughts with her, even income data and COL info and then support her and hope she finds happiness in life.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I majored in dance education! I am so happy my parents gave me their blessing ( although at first my dad was nervous that I wouldn't be employable ). The fact that she wants to get her Ed degree is great - so many more opportunities. Although, I would recommend teaching full time and cooking as a hobby. I make over 100k as a dance educator. It can be done.
What is a dance educator?
Anonymous wrote:I majored in dance education! I am so happy my parents gave me their blessing ( although at first my dad was nervous that I wouldn't be employable ). The fact that she wants to get her Ed degree is great - so many more opportunities. Although, I would recommend teaching full time and cooking as a hobby. I make over 100k as a dance educator. It can be done.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am a full time dance educator. I may not be rich or well off according to the standards in the area, but I can afford an apartment in a nice area and live very comfortably supporting myself. More importantly, I am happy. I love my job and look forward to going to work everyday. I can take modest vacations and save when I want nice things. I feel like I have a good life. If she really wants this, it is possible to make it work.
OP said her daughter is not that good of a dancer or a cook. I feel that if she was one of those kids who HAS to be a dancer or a cook, they would both know it already. It isn't really a passion if all she does is idly wonder.
Anonymous wrote:I am a full time dance educator. I may not be rich or well off according to the standards in the area, but I can afford an apartment in a nice area and live very comfortably supporting myself. More importantly, I am happy. I love my job and look forward to going to work everyday. I can take modest vacations and save when I want nice things. I feel like I have a good life. If she really wants this, it is possible to make it work.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm an attorney and there isn't a day that goes by when I don't wish that I had gone to culinary school instead. I wish that I had been your daughter and realized that that's what I wanted at 16 rather than at 36, when it was way, way too late.
a.) People often find that when they try to turn their passions into paying work, it ruins their love for the hobby
b.) you probably make a lot more money as an attorney which affords you nice things that you wouldn't have as a caterer or chef, such as vacations. It's a really hard industry to make an UMC living from.
This is just sad to read. I would never ever say this to a child. Getting to a "UMC living" through a corporate soul crushing job might be worth to some, some even forget that life outside of work exists. Those mediocre engineers, analysts, attorneys, that went into the field purely to earn a living are often miserable.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
She could use her science degree and go to medical/dental school.
OP, please be the parent of the child you actually have, not of the child you wish you had.
I am. Is it wrong that I want the only child I have to be successful?
Pushing a stem career when she's a junior in high school is pretty pathetic. You should have thought of this 10 years ago.
pushing a stem career is pathetic.
have her visit an IT person at work. she can sit at long tables in open conference room with H1Bs from India. until she is 40 and then she will be fired.
http://www.cbsnews.com/news/are-h-1b-visas-being-hijacked-to-lower-labor-costs/?ftag=CNM-00-10aab7e&linkId=35626681
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
She could use her science degree and go to medical/dental school.
OP, please be the parent of the child you actually have, not of the child you wish you had.
I am. Is it wrong that I want the only child I have to be successful?
Pushing a stem career when she's a junior in high school is pretty pathetic. You should have thought of this 10 years ago.