Anonymous wrote:Black women are not typically EXCEPTIONALLY petite. Yes, I would go for Gabrielle Union. It's not a racial thing. It's an appearance thing.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. This thread can be closed basically. She texted back. She was honest. She wasn't feeling it. FML.

At least she was honest, too many people ghost (which is one of the most immature things in the universe).

Anonymous wrote:OP here. This thread can be closed basically. She texted back. She was honest. She wasn't feeling it. FML.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. This thread can be closed basically. She texted back. She was honest. She wasn't feeling it. FML.

I think if you take anything from this thread is that you need to work on yourself.

The biggest thing I see from all your posts is insecurity. I can't say where it comes from, but it is there. Really and truly take a look at yourself, and I don't just mean your job title and the money you make etc, but the inner you. Work on that.

Also ask a trusted friend or relative someone who you know has your best interest in mind but who can be brutally honest with you.

I just know what I want. I wish that were 1 out of every 3 women I meet, but when it's more like 1/100 it sucks. It is, what it is. But I am secure enough to know that it's better to push on single and with my dog than compromise for a second tier connection. =) All's fair in love and war. I wish I could ask her what I have to improve about myself to have made a different connection. I'm all for self improvement.

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I think if you can only be invested emotionally in your partner if they look a certain way -marriage is not for you.
Your wife even if she's the Asian you want will not look at 45 and 50 as she did at 27. She won't look as she did at 33 as she did at 27 if she has a couple of kids.

Completely wrong. Old man's opinion here--this is why you marry a hot women when you are young. She'll still look as hot (in your mind) when she is 55 as she did at 25. That's the way it worked for me.

Great for you! I'm glad I married a guy who was into me for more than my looks so when my hair fell out and I had to have a mastectomy he didn't cheat on me or dump me.

Woman here. So sorry for your difficult journey. But that response is highly defensive when the old man was just giving perspective outside of a woman's for once. Wanting to see the attraction age is a valid point. I'm sure that over 30 years, the would love her all the same ; and you don't know what his family has been through.

NP, I think you are in the wrong and pp was spot on. I also doubt anyone who had been through anything would be dumb enough to post what he did.

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I think if you can only be invested emotionally in your partner if they look a certain way -marriage is not for you.
Your wife even if she's the Asian you want will not look at 45 and 50 as she did at 27. She won't look as she did at 33 as she did at 27 if she has a couple of kids.

Completely wrong. Old man's opinion here--this is why you marry a hot women when you are young. She'll still look as hot (in your mind) when she is 55 as she did at 25. That's the way it worked for me.

Great for you! I'm glad I married a guy who was into me for more than my looks so when my hair fell out and I had to have a mastectomy he didn't cheat on me or dump me.

Woman here. So sorry for your difficult journey. But that response is highly defensive when the old man was just giving perspective outside of a woman's for once. Wanting to see the attraction age is a valid point. I'm sure that over 30 years, the would love her all the same ; and you don't know what his family has been through.

Anonymous wrote:PP here. Are you yourself *exceptionally* petite? If not, this preference seems a bit weird. The whole thread makes less and less sense the more information we get. You've gotta let yourself get excited by the diamonds in the rough. Those are the best people, and you're missing out by focusing on your narrow preferences.

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Anonymous wrote:Black women are not typically EXCEPTIONALLY petite. Yes, I would go for Gabrielle Union. It's not a racial thing. It's an appearance thing.

I'm black and this isn't anymore true for one race than another. Obesity is related much more to SES than race. I'm 34 and no one in my circle is overweight, save for a few that have infants and are shedding off postpartum weight. Just ask yourself: where is your sample size coming from? Likely a stereotype.

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Anonymous wrote:Black women are not typically EXCEPTIONALLY petite. Yes, I would go for Gabrielle Union. It's not a racial thing. It's an appearance thing.

I'm black and this isn't anymore true for one race than another. Obesity is related much more to SES than race. I'm 34 and no one in my circle is overweight, save for a few that have infants and are shedding off postpartum weight. Just ask yourself: where is your sample size coming from? Likely a stereotype.

Anonymous wrote:Black women are not typically EXCEPTIONALLY petite. Yes, I would go for Gabrielle Union. It's not a racial thing. It's an appearance thing.