ZachF wrote:Anonymous wrote:ZachF wrote:Anonymous wrote:So ... my husband is a pretty laid back guy, very little phases him. Generally a good thing, and definitely one of the reasons I married him. He, however, doesn't seem to care or worry about or even really acknowledge that Trump's policies are detrimental to this country. He's a very caring guy towards me, but doesn't seem to care about people beyond myself and his family and close friends. It's really really disappointing to see this. I have actually found myself less attracted to him lately. Any advice on how to get over this? We just got married last year.
Who else is he supposed to care about as much as you, his family, and his close friends? Why should he share your exact political beliefs about Trump and the future of our country? Maybe he doesn't feel the need to worry and, unlike you, doesn't spend his time with anxiety about things he can't change instead of focusing on the people closest to him.
Do you talk his ear off about Trump every day? Seriously question? Is there a day you haven't mentioned Trump to him? Could you go a week without getting political and just focus on him, and your family and close friends? If you can't, then it's not him that has a problem.
If you don't stop, he is the one who is going to find you less attractive if you can't stop yammering about Trump and all your fears that you have let effect your relationship with the guy who loved you enough to marry you. I pray he doesn't have to put up with that for 4 more long years.
Oh great, it makes women less attractive to be yammering on about Trump. Nice. Maybe OP's husband should validate her feelings, which have been expressed by millions of people.
I'm glad you understand. Anyone is less attractive if they are so concerned about a politician, even the president, that they let it effect their marriage in a bad way.
Anonymous wrote:ZachF wrote:Anonymous wrote:So ... my husband is a pretty laid back guy, very little phases him. Generally a good thing, and definitely one of the reasons I married him. He, however, doesn't seem to care or worry about or even really acknowledge that Trump's policies are detrimental to this country. He's a very caring guy towards me, but doesn't seem to care about people beyond myself and his family and close friends. It's really really disappointing to see this. I have actually found myself less attracted to him lately. Any advice on how to get over this? We just got married last year.
Who else is he supposed to care about as much as you, his family, and his close friends? Why should he share your exact political beliefs about Trump and the future of our country? Maybe he doesn't feel the need to worry and, unlike you, doesn't spend his time with anxiety about things he can't change instead of focusing on the people closest to him.
Do you talk his ear off about Trump every day? Seriously question? Is there a day you haven't mentioned Trump to him? Could you go a week without getting political and just focus on him, and your family and close friends? If you can't, then it's not him that has a problem.
If you don't stop, he is the one who is going to find you less attractive if you can't stop yammering about Trump and all your fears that you have let effect your relationship with the guy who loved you enough to marry you. I pray he doesn't have to put up with that for 4 more long years.
Oh great, it makes women less attractive to be yammering on about Trump. Nice. Maybe OP's husband should validate her feelings, which have been expressed by millions of people.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My husband voted for Trump! Oh wait, so did I.
Suck it, liberals! You lost.
Please tell that to the babies (literally babies!) getting detained at airports. You're a selfish monster.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:op you should ask yourself if you hadn't been watching the news or on Facebook what would you be upset about? Of course it's important to stay up on current events but it seems things are a bit crazy right now and maybe taking a break from the news could help your relationship.
The only thing I would personally know of had I not been watching the news would be 90 day The federal hiring freeze and that's hardly the end of the world.
I guess you aren't Muslim, an immigrant/green card holder, or a refugee, or have any of them in your world outside the news. Even at my church we discussed the impact of these policies and how we should respond as Christians given Jesus's commandment to love thy neighbor as thyself.
1. Muslims - I know and work with some but they are American citizens. I do not know any Muslims in foreign countries or any affected by the ban.
2. Immigrant / green card - I know immigrants but unaware of anyone from one of the seven banned countries.
3. Refugees - I do not know any refugees personally and I doubt many Americans know refugees overseas. As far as I'm aware, refugees already here aren't affected.
So, that shows that if you not watching the news and only paying attention to what affects you personally, you are missing a great deal.
Anonymous wrote:ZachF wrote:Anonymous wrote:So ... my husband is a pretty laid back guy, very little phases him. Generally a good thing, and definitely one of the reasons I married him. He, however, doesn't seem to care or worry about or even really acknowledge that Trump's policies are detrimental to this country. He's a very caring guy towards me, but doesn't seem to care about people beyond myself and his family and close friends. It's really really disappointing to see this. I have actually found myself less attracted to him lately. Any advice on how to get over this? We just got married last year.
Who else is he supposed to care about as much as you, his family, and his close friends? Why should he share your exact political beliefs about Trump and the future of our country? Maybe he doesn't feel the need to worry and, unlike you, doesn't spend his time with anxiety about things he can't change instead of focusing on the people closest to him.
Do you talk his ear off about Trump every day? Seriously question? Is there a day you haven't mentioned Trump to him? Could you go a week without getting political and just focus on him, and your family and close friends? If you can't, then it's not him that has a problem.
If you don't stop, he is the one who is going to find you less attractive if you can't stop yammering about Trump and all your fears that you have let effect your relationship with the guy who loved you enough to marry you. I pray he doesn't have to put up with that for 4 more long years.
Oh great, it makes women less attractive to be yammering on about Trump. Nice. Maybe OP's husband should validate her feelings, which have been expressed by millions of people.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:op you should ask yourself if you hadn't been watching the news or on Facebook what would you be upset about? Of course it's important to stay up on current events but it seems things are a bit crazy right now and maybe taking a break from the news could help your relationship.
The only thing I would personally know of had I not been watching the news would be 90 day The federal hiring freeze and that's hardly the end of the world.
I guess you aren't Muslim, an immigrant/green card holder, or a refugee, or have any of them in your world outside the news. Even at my church we discussed the impact of these policies and how we should respond as Christians given Jesus's commandment to love thy neighbor as thyself.
1. Muslims - I know and work with some but they are American citizens. I do not know any Muslims in foreign countries or any affected by the ban.
2. Immigrant / green card - I know immigrants but unaware of anyone from one of the seven banned countries.
3. Refugees - I do not know any refugees personally and I doubt many Americans know refugees overseas. As far as I'm aware, refugees already here aren't affected.
So, that shows that if you not watching the news and only paying attention to what affects you personally, you are missing a great deal.
ZachF wrote:Anonymous wrote:So ... my husband is a pretty laid back guy, very little phases him. Generally a good thing, and definitely one of the reasons I married him. He, however, doesn't seem to care or worry about or even really acknowledge that Trump's policies are detrimental to this country. He's a very caring guy towards me, but doesn't seem to care about people beyond myself and his family and close friends. It's really really disappointing to see this. I have actually found myself less attracted to him lately. Any advice on how to get over this? We just got married last year.
Who else is he supposed to care about as much as you, his family, and his close friends? Why should he share your exact political beliefs about Trump and the future of our country? Maybe he doesn't feel the need to worry and, unlike you, doesn't spend his time with anxiety about things he can't change instead of focusing on the people closest to him.
Do you talk his ear off about Trump every day? Seriously question? Is there a day you haven't mentioned Trump to him? Could you go a week without getting political and just focus on him, and your family and close friends? If you can't, then it's not him that has a problem.
If you don't stop, he is the one who is going to find you less attractive if you can't stop yammering about Trump and all your fears that you have let effect your relationship with the guy who loved you enough to marry you. I pray he doesn't have to put up with that for 4 more long years.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:op you should ask yourself if you hadn't been watching the news or on Facebook what would you be upset about? Of course it's important to stay up on current events but it seems things are a bit crazy right now and maybe taking a break from the news could help your relationship.
The only thing I would personally know of had I not been watching the news would be 90 day The federal hiring freeze and that's hardly the end of the world.
I guess you aren't Muslim, an immigrant/green card holder, or a refugee, or have any of them in your world outside the news. Even at my church we discussed the impact of these policies and how we should respond as Christians given Jesus's commandment to love thy neighbor as thyself.
Anonymous wrote:My husband voted for Trump! Oh wait, so did I.
Suck it, liberals! You lost.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I understand, OP. It's not about politics; it's about values.
OP here. Yes, absolutely. It feels like we are not aligned on values, which is a tough pill to swallow.