Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I do not want to have to struggle as I am trying to raise my children. It is important to me that I can be home with them and give them everything they need and deserve.
I want to marry a man who can be a good provider and is okay with me putting the children first.
What should be my game plan?
Do engineers make good husbands?
If you're looking to marry a many for $, do not go for engineer. I would go for surgeon or some other specialist in the medical field.
Anonymous wrote:I do not want to have to struggle as I am trying to raise my children. It is important to me that I can be home with them and give them everything they need and deserve.
I want to marry a man who can be a good provider and is okay with me putting the children first.
What should be my game plan?
Do engineers make good husbands?
Anonymous wrote:I do not want to have to struggle as I am trying to raise my children. It is important to me that I can be home with them and give them everything they need and deserve.
I want to marry a man who can be a good provider and is okay with me putting the children first.
What should be my game plan?
Do engineers make good husbands?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My husband is Indian and was more than ok with me being a SAHM. Perhaps find someone from a traditional background if you're into foreign men.
Not always. My ex is Indian and he was not okay with me staying at home. Talk to him first. What did his mom or other women in his family do? This will give you clues as to what his expectations will be. In my ex's, case the women in his family were all very successful business women. His mother made her first million on her own (she came from a poor background).
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I do not want to have to struggle as I am trying to raise my children. It is important to me that I can be home with them and give them everything they need and deserve.
I want to marry a man who can be a good provider and is okay with me putting the children first.
What should be my game plan?
Do engineers make good husbands?
What happened to the father of your children?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:To raise good children, you need a good, loving marriage.
Kids don't want a workaholic dad and a helicopter mom who tries to make up for the fact that dad's never home.
STFU! NO YOU DON'T. You just need the mom. Divorced moms raise good kids and they are not in a "good, loving marriage."
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My friend did this. She was in her 30s going nowhere as a college drop out waitress. She met a doctor and pretty much gave BJs daily and did all kinds of crazy sex until he put her on a monthly allowance and then married her. They have no kids and she stays home doing nothing all day. Husband says she gives the best BJ he's ever had. He's also mean to her, calls her out for having no job and no education and she's completely controlled by him. Good luck!
What an idiot.
(I mean him.... for marrying her.)
Anonymous wrote:I do not want to have to struggle as I am trying to raise my children. It is important to me that I can be home with them and give them everything they need and deserve.
I want to marry a man who can be a good provider and is okay with me putting the children first.
What should be my game plan?
Do engineers make good husbands?
Anonymous wrote:My friend did this. She was in her 30s going nowhere as a college drop out waitress. She met a doctor and pretty much gave BJs daily and did all kinds of crazy sex until he put her on a monthly allowance and then married her. They have no kids and she stays home doing nothing all day. Husband says she gives the best BJ he's ever had. He's also mean to her, calls her out for having no job and no education and she's completely controlled by him. Good luck!
Anonymous wrote:I do not want to have to struggle as I am trying to raise my children. It is important to me that I can be home with them and give them everything they need and deserve.
I want to marry a man who can be a good provider and is okay with me putting the children first.
What should be my game plan?
Do engineers make good husbands?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I agree it's more about values and/or religion than money.
I have been at home since my oldest was born 8 years ago. My younger child goes to full time school this coming fall and my husband is starting to make noise about me working, despite the fact that he makes $250k, we save agressively and live modestly and have no debt other than our 15-year mortgage. Financially, I do NOT need to work at all. But he just doesn't value it as much as I do. I thought we were on the same page but obviously not.
Perhaps your husband is tired of having to save aggressively and live modestly?
Anonymous wrote:Stick to your guns OP. Way too many young men expect a wife who will do all the traditional stuff and work full time as well. That's TWO jobs, though many can't see it until children arrive. Consider his parents. If they had traditional roles it will make a huge difference.