Eh...I just adjust when it is getting full to get a few more things in. Now if it is not unloaded by who ever comes home first...this is a big peeve.

I couldn't care less how she loads the dishwasher. I just care about how I'm putting my load in her after she gets off.

Its just a f$cking dishwasher people. Let it go and focus on the important things. Like loving your spouse and having great sex.

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Anonymous wrote:Small plates where the big plates go, bowls placed haphazardly, no thinking or care about about organization leaving me to re-do it. It drives me crazy! Am I alone with this problem?

I'd never say or admit this, but OMG yes. Zero sense of spatial relations, and apparently a lack of understanding that if you completely block the path of water to a particular dish, it cannot get washed. Sometimes in marriage one must bite one's tongue, though.

Yes! Where is the common sense? If you nest bowls on top of each other, the top bowl will not get clean.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG it's a revolt... dishwasher loaders not only don't think their spouse can do it right, now they are correcting each other.

OCD at it's best.

Its best, not "it's" best.

Wow, you know your shit.

Woops, Correction.....

Wow, you know, you're shit.

No capital for "correction."

I would like a cross b/t my slob husband and someone's OCD husband.
I swear my brothers were never and are not remotely such slobs. Whatever happened to PICKING UP AFTER YOURSELF!?!?!?!?

Anonymous wrote:Hah! So cheating, dishwasher, lazy husband, evil MIL. The DCUM list of reasons why marriages break up

Yes as long as it is clear it is not my fault...it's everyone else fault.

DH here! I'm less annoyed by how my DW loads a dishwasher than I am with how the manufactures, with the exception of Miele, are clueless with how to set up the racks. Many of them design the lower rack such that when you push it back in the plates slide back and forth. Drives me nuts. Odds are pretty good that the people who design them never do the dishes at home. Would you want a guy to design a tampon? Or a woman to design a jockstrap?

Anonymous wrote:Small plates where the big plates go, bowls placed haphazardly, no thinking or care about about organization leaving me to re-do it. It drives me crazy! Am I alone with this problem?

I would be annoyed if she is doing it wrong on purpose (i.e. passive aggressive / power play move).
I would be annoyed if the dishes were breaking or constantly not clean or clanking away while the machine goes.
I would be annoyed if it is someone we have to go over again and again and again yet see no effort or improvement. Starts out as an easy suggestion (like a father teaching a child how to do something properly), then reminders, then it's a constant source of irritation.
I would be annoyed if she had poor attention to detail to many things.
I would be annoyed if we sat down and each year said 5 things we would improve on, and if loading the dishwasher was on it for me and she didn't give 2 fucks what I wanted. If it is important to one spouse (within reason and quatity of things), it should be important to the other!

Hah! So cheating, dishwasher, lazy husband, evil MIL. The DCUM list of reasons why marriages break up

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Anonymous wrote:If our dishes actually got clean I wouldn't care, but I'll find dishes with pools of dirty water waiting for me when the cycle is done. It is not difficult to load things in the correct angle.

My other issue is efficiency. If I can fit 100% of the dishes in the dishwasher, I'm not letting you run it below 75% and waste the four hours of dishwasher time (and water and soap). Take the dishes out and load it again; they DO fit.

Your dishwasher takes 4 hours? May be time to get a new one.

All the new dishwashers take hours to run a load. The regular cycle on my Maytag is 2.5 hours and the potscrubber cycle, which I use a lot, takes 3.5 hours. There is a light cycle that's less than 2 hours but it doesn't do a lot if the dishes are truly dirty.

My conclusion from this thread- Dishwashers are the number two cause of marital discord for DCUM women. Number one being Cheating.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG it's a revolt... dishwasher loaders not only don't think their spouse can do it right, now they are correcting each other.

OCD at it's best.

Its best, not "it's" best.

Wow, you know your shit.

Woops, Correction.....

Wow, you know, you're shit.

No capital for "correction."