Anonymous
11/16/2016 09:02
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I friend of mine sent me a link to this and told me I should check it out, so I did.
I am confident that the OP is my wife; there are enough unique details.
The only reason why I offered her the house is I did not want to upend our daughter who is in high school. Otherwise, she would probably move from the DC area to live nearer the ocean. I am fine with that, but first, let DD finish school. Alternatively, I could buy her out of the house and provide the stability.
One thing she did not mention is this all started when I was diagnosed with chlamydia after 17 years of marriage. when I asked her, she accused me of cheating -- I would know if I cheated. So, I hired a PI, and he got irrefutable proof.
Daughter does not know this. I want it to stay that way. So, I am being more generous than I have to. If I fight her on alimony, I may have to say things in court. So, I made an offer which I think is fair -- I get what I want out of it (daughter's stability); she ends up with about 300K more than she would otherwise get (we owe 200K on a 600K house).
And I want the 10 years on Alimony because I plan to retire in about 10 years.
I know I can be emotionally distant, but she could have talked to me before f***ing someone else.
Wow, fascinating. If you are not a troll (unlikely at this point), then can you two patch things up?
If this guy isn't a troll then he is just dumb, putting all of this information on this thread. Wouldn't this be discoverable?
Does it matter if it's true? I'm sure he has dr's records that would prove his chlymadia, and he has proof of the affair from a PI.
Anonymous
11/16/2016 09:01
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:I inherited about 100k. Nothing compared to some, but we used half to pay for me to go to grad school (i'm now working in that field) and the other half is our emergency fund. So we shared, but in a way that benefited the whole family. I feel like if it were 1 million, we would do the same.
Yeah. That doesn't compare to someone with a 10 million dollar trust. Believe me, you wouldn't want to fork over 5 million to someone who cheated on you and broke up your family. Many people get bonuses way larger than your inheritance.
Anonymous
11/16/2016 08:58
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I friend of mine sent me a link to this and told me I should check it out, so I did.
I am confident that the OP is my wife; there are enough unique details.
The only reason why I offered her the house is I did not want to upend our daughter who is in high school. Otherwise, she would probably move from the DC area to live nearer the ocean. I am fine with that, but first, let DD finish school. Alternatively, I could buy her out of the house and provide the stability.
One thing she did not mention is this all started when I was diagnosed with chlamydia after 17 years of marriage. when I asked her, she accused me of cheating -- I would know if I cheated. So, I hired a PI, and he got irrefutable proof.
Daughter does not know this. I want it to stay that way. So, I am being more generous than I have to. If I fight her on alimony, I may have to say things in court. So, I made an offer which I think is fair -- I get what I want out of it (daughter's stability); she ends up with about 300K more than she would otherwise get (we owe 200K on a 600K house).
And I want the 10 years on Alimony because I plan to retire in about 10 years.
I know I can be emotionally distant, but she could have talked to me before f***ing someone else.
Wow, fascinating. If you are not a troll (unlikely at this point), then can you two patch things up?
If this guy isn't a troll then he is just dumb, putting all of this information on this thread. Wouldn't this be discoverable?
Anonymous
11/16/2016 08:56
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
I inherited about 100k. Nothing compared to some, but we used half to pay for me to go to grad school (i'm now working in that field) and the other half is our emergency fund. So we shared, but in a way that benefited the whole family. I feel like if it were 1 million, we would do the same.
Anonymous
11/16/2016 08:41
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I friend of mine sent me a link to this and told me I should check it out, so I did.
I am confident that the OP is my wife; there are enough unique details.
The only reason why I offered her the house is I did not want to upend our daughter who is in high school. Otherwise, she would probably move from the DC area to live nearer the ocean. I am fine with that, but first, let DD finish school. Alternatively, I could buy her out of the house and provide the stability.
One thing she did not mention is this all started when I was diagnosed with chlamydia after 17 years of marriage. when I asked her, she accused me of cheating -- I would know if I cheated. So, I hired a PI, and he got irrefutable proof.
Daughter does not know this. I want it to stay that way. So, I am being more generous than I have to. If I fight her on alimony, I may have to say things in court. So, I made an offer which I think is fair -- I get what I want out of it (daughter's stability); she ends up with about 300K more than she would otherwise get (we owe 200K on a 600K house).
And I want the 10 years on Alimony because I plan to retire in about 10 years.
I know I can be emotionally distant, but she could have talked to me before f***ing someone else.
Wow, fascinating. If you are not a troll (unlikely at this point), then can you two patch things up?
Why would he want to patch things up with someone who gave him an STD within a marriage, and who only carries about passion and money, but doesn't want to earn any herself?
Yuck.
Anonymous
11/16/2016 08:36
Subject: Re:My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Maybe I'm naive to believe you, but if you are really her husband you have all of my empathy and respect.
Way to take the high road with a shitty person.
Way to take the high road with a shitty person.
Anonymous
11/16/2016 07:37
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:I friend of mine sent me a link to this and told me I should check it out, so I did.
I am confident that the OP is my wife; there are enough unique details.
The only reason why I offered her the house is I did not want to upend our daughter who is in high school. Otherwise, she would probably move from the DC area to live nearer the ocean. I am fine with that, but first, let DD finish school. Alternatively, I could buy her out of the house and provide the stability.
One thing she did not mention is this all started when I was diagnosed with chlamydia after 17 years of marriage. when I asked her, she accused me of cheating -- I would know if I cheated. So, I hired a PI, and he got irrefutable proof.
Daughter does not know this. I want it to stay that way. So, I am being more generous than I have to. If I fight her on alimony, I may have to say things in court. So, I made an offer which I think is fair -- I get what I want out of it (daughter's stability); she ends up with about 300K more than she would otherwise get (we owe 200K on a 600K house).
And I want the 10 years on Alimony because I plan to retire in about 10 years.
I know I can be emotionally distant, but she could have talked to me before f***ing someone else.
Wow, fascinating. If you are not a troll (unlikely at this point), then can you two patch things up?
Anonymous
11/16/2016 07:12
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
I friend of mine sent me a link to this and told me I should check it out, so I did.
I am confident that the OP is my wife; there are enough unique details.
The only reason why I offered her the house is I did not want to upend our daughter who is in high school. Otherwise, she would probably move from the DC area to live nearer the ocean. I am fine with that, but first, let DD finish school. Alternatively, I could buy her out of the house and provide the stability.
One thing she did not mention is this all started when I was diagnosed with chlamydia after 17 years of marriage. when I asked her, she accused me of cheating -- I would know if I cheated. So, I hired a PI, and he got irrefutable proof.
Daughter does not know this. I want it to stay that way. So, I am being more generous than I have to. If I fight her on alimony, I may have to say things in court. So, I made an offer which I think is fair -- I get what I want out of it (daughter's stability); she ends up with about 300K more than she would otherwise get (we owe 200K on a 600K house).
And I want the 10 years on Alimony because I plan to retire in about 10 years.
I know I can be emotionally distant, but she could have talked to me before f***ing someone else.
I am confident that the OP is my wife; there are enough unique details.
The only reason why I offered her the house is I did not want to upend our daughter who is in high school. Otherwise, she would probably move from the DC area to live nearer the ocean. I am fine with that, but first, let DD finish school. Alternatively, I could buy her out of the house and provide the stability.
One thing she did not mention is this all started when I was diagnosed with chlamydia after 17 years of marriage. when I asked her, she accused me of cheating -- I would know if I cheated. So, I hired a PI, and he got irrefutable proof.
Daughter does not know this. I want it to stay that way. So, I am being more generous than I have to. If I fight her on alimony, I may have to say things in court. So, I made an offer which I think is fair -- I get what I want out of it (daughter's stability); she ends up with about 300K more than she would otherwise get (we owe 200K on a 600K house).
And I want the 10 years on Alimony because I plan to retire in about 10 years.
I know I can be emotionally distant, but she could have talked to me before f***ing someone else.
Anonymous
11/15/2016 21:11
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Well, now that you've pretty much figured out that you can't get half (eddie!)... Think he'll take you back now?
That might be the better play.
That might be the better play.
Anonymous
11/15/2016 18:50
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I believe inheritances should be shared. DH and I are a team!! We share,
Spoken like someone who has never inherited anything. My spouse and I are happily marrried, and I share my annual distributions but my trust is protected in the event of dovorce. The idea of him cheating on me then assuming that he has the right to the money that my Mom slaved away to amass and protect makes me sick.
NP here - Don't assume that those who want to share have never inherited anything. I shared my inheritance. I handle all of our finances, and I definitely agree with the sentiment that DH and I are a team and we share.
I think that most married people think they are a team and share. However it's just a fact that a large percentage of marriages fail. No way in hell is anyone who cheated on me taking the money that was entrusted to me.
It's the law. Inheritances which are not commingled are separate property, not marital assets. If you left money for your children, would you want the divorced son or daughter-in-law to get half of everything you worked for? They have their own parents to leave them an inheritance, should they be so fortunate.
Is this directed at me (the person you quoted)?
I know it's the law. We agree with one another. And no- I wouldn't want my kids ex taking half of their trusts. That is why the trusts require a pre nup.
Anonymous
11/15/2016 18:43
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Listen to your lawyer. That is all.
Anonymous
11/15/2016 18:38
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I believe inheritances should be shared. DH and I are a team!! We share,
Spoken like someone who has never inherited anything. My spouse and I are happily marrried, and I share my annual distributions but my trust is protected in the event of dovorce. The idea of him cheating on me then assuming that he has the right to the money that my Mom slaved away to amass and protect makes me sick.
NP here - Don't assume that those who want to share have never inherited anything. I shared my inheritance. I handle all of our finances, and I definitely agree with the sentiment that DH and I are a team and we share.
I think that most married people think they are a team and share. However it's just a fact that a large percentage of marriages fail. No way in hell is anyone who cheated on me taking the money that was entrusted to me.
It's the law. Inheritances which are not commingled are separate property, not marital assets. If you left money for your children, would you want the divorced son or daughter-in-law to get half of everything you worked for? They have their own parents to leave them an inheritance, should they be so fortunate.
Anonymous
11/15/2016 15:39
Subject: Re:My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
OP, you are unbelievable. Why aren't you listening to you lawyer who was very clear on this. You will have alimony for 10 years and only have to stay in the house for a few years until the kids are out. You can buy something smaller, or buy one with an income producing unit attached. Your STBX is being very generous and given this, I wouldn't doubt that he will be generous with the kids' educations as well. He's also probably savvy enough to not comingle the $$ with a new wife, so at some point your kids will be entitled to a portion of that. This is a huge let up in life. In the meantime, you got more than you deserved based on your on actions. Take the next 3 1/2 years to find a decent job and once you do, bank the remaining 6-ish years of alimony in a retirement fund.
Anonymous
11/15/2016 15:28
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I believe inheritances should be shared. DH and I are a team!! We share,
Spoken like someone who has never inherited anything. My spouse and I are happily marrried, and I share my annual distributions but my trust is protected in the event of dovorce. The idea of him cheating on me then assuming that he has the right to the money that my Mom slaved away to amass and protect makes me sick.
NP here - Don't assume that those who want to share have never inherited anything. I shared my inheritance. I handle all of our finances, and I definitely agree with the sentiment that DH and I are a team and we share.
I think that most married people think they are a team and share. However it's just a fact that a large percentage of marriages fail. No way in hell is anyone who cheated on me taking the money that was entrusted to me.
Anonymous
11/15/2016 14:45
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I believe inheritances should be shared. DH and I are a team!! We share,
Spoken like someone who has never inherited anything. My spouse and I are happily marrried, and I share my annual distributions but my trust is protected in the event of dovorce. The idea of him cheating on me then assuming that he has the right to the money that my Mom slaved away to amass and protect makes me sick.
NP here - Don't assume that those who want to share have never inherited anything. I shared my inheritance. I handle all of our finances, and I definitely agree with the sentiment that DH and I are a team and we share.
I'm sure you would happily fork over half of it if he were to cheat on you and then file for divorce.