Anonymous
11/05/2016 16:23
Subject: Re:If you cheated how did you get caught?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DH got suspicious when he noticed my best lingerie missing for a business trip. Two days later he saw an incriminating email. I was in a terrible place internally. My life was so dark and my marriage was so lonely and lifeless. I have so much guilt and shame. My DH has stayed with me and kept our family together and I will always be grateful for that. We are in a better place now. Not great but better and working on it every day. I learned so much
Your husband is a cuck..I would have dropped your silly ass and told the kids why.
So thank God I didn't marry you you asshole. I married a kind, loving devoted man who can look back through our darkest time and remain committed to his family and his flawed, depressed wife. He is 1000 times the man you are
Anonymous
11/05/2016 16:19
Subject: Re:If you cheated how did you get caught?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DH got suspicious when he noticed my best lingerie missing for a business trip. Two days later he saw an incriminating email. I was in a terrible place internally. My life was so dark and my marriage was so lonely and lifeless. I have so much guilt and shame. My DH has stayed with me and kept our family together and I will always be grateful for that. We are in a better place now. Not great but better and working on it every day. I learned so much
I think that people say this to make themselves feel less guilty about what they did. It's kinda like a coping mechanism.
Or, it's true?
-- signed, Cheated-on spouse who understands that cheating sucks but sometimes marriages suck, too.
I was the PP who wrote the original that was bolded. Am not offering that as reason to feel less guilty. I feel horribly guilty. I can't even believe I did it. I will live with shame the rest of your life. But our marriage had completely broken down. We led separate lives. The house had an icy coldness to it. His porn habit early in our marriage deeply hurt me. I felt rejected and unloved by him and I looked up and hated my life. I picked a horrible way to cope but all of what Isaid was true
Anonymous
11/05/2016 09:03
Subject: Re:If you cheated how did you get caught?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My friend was carrying on an affair with a very wealthy and powerful married man. His wife found her texts and called her.
Friend: Hello?
AP's Wife: This is ____'s wife.
Friend: (playing it cool) Oh, hi!
AP's Wife: Don't "hi" me, you bitch!
The conversation quickly devolved from there. I was sort of in my friend's living room when it happened. I do like this friend for her other qualities, but I admit she's very brazen and unrepentant about the things she does, including sleeping with married men.
I honestly couldn't be friends with someone like that; there are no other qualities that can make up for how little human empathy she has. You do know that if you stick around long enough, at some point the same kind of lying and lack of empathy will be directed at you?
Agree. I had a friend who would constantly cross the line with married men, just for the ego boost. She loved it when they responded to her come-ons (physical or the scantily clad selfies, etc.) and would say she could bed any one of the husbands we knew. Friendship done and over when she started hitting on mine.
Anonymous
11/05/2016 07:42
Subject: If you cheated how did you get caught?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The toast thing is fake and a reference to something but I can't remember what
No it's not fake it happened to my friend back in February of this year. She texted me the pic of the toast as. Soon as she found it
I can't imagine thinking that a piece of toast picture means someone loves someone else.
That's because when asked what name you would choose for yourself if you could choose any name in the world, you people say Jennifer, Emma and Mabel
Anonymous
11/05/2016 07:38
Subject: Re:If you cheated how did you get caught?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DH got suspicious when he noticed my best lingerie missing for a business trip. Two days later he saw an incriminating email. I was in a terrible place internally. My life was so dark and my marriage was so lonely and lifeless. I have so much guilt and shame. My DH has stayed with me and kept our family together and I will always be grateful for that. We are in a better place now. Not great but better and working on it every day. I learned so much
I think that people say this to make themselves feel less guilty about what they did. It's kinda like a coping mechanism.
Or, it's true?
-- signed, Cheated-on spouse who understands that cheating sucks but sometimes marriages suck, too.
Anonymous
11/05/2016 07:05
Subject: If you cheated how did you get caught?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is easy, i told my partner. I wanted to break free from the hold he had on me.
The hold your partner had or the other guy?
Partner.
Anonymous
11/04/2016 22:46
Subject: Re:If you cheated how did you get caught?
Anonymous wrote:We were on a family vacation with my parents and siblings. He ducked out to bed early one night. I found him asleep with the phone in his hand. As I picked it up to move to the night stand, a "good night. I love you" text came in, so I read the whole chain (or as much as I could stomach). We tried to reconcile for a bit (read: he started deleting his texts and using another email account to communicate with her) and then I came across 1-800 Flowers purchases on the credit card statement. He was a real romantic.
These all read like that scene in Chicago where the women on murderess row are explaining why they killed their husbands/SOs.
He had it coming.
Anonymous
11/04/2016 22:13
Subject: Re:If you cheated how did you get caught?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Come home that night, tell my husband an amusing story. And he says yes, it's true. They really ARE siblings. The disgusting duo has been playing around since before we got married. Had a child with her when my son was barely two, "because we were fighting all the time and I wasn't sure the marriage would survive." Has been basically maintaining a second family ever since then. Has been taking my son there so he can have a "relationship with his sister." My five-year old knew before I knew.
Wow. You win.
Query, though - who did she think your son was at the park with? If she saw him there, wouldn't she have been shitting a brick looking around for the adult supposed to be with him, presuming she knew about your existence since she knew she didn't give birth to your son but that they shared a father?
That said, you win. My DH's AP is at least in her 50s, so there are no new kids that he's fathering unless he cheats on her or dumps her. Which would be another story, but it would certainly be interesting to see that little possible piece of theater unfold.
I don't know anything for certain any more. But I think that she just happened to be at that particular park. Saw my son since she knew him. And figured out it was me with him. Of course she knows about my existence, DH told me she's been pushing him to divorce me or to spend more time with them. I honestly think that when she saw us, she quickly called him and said, your wife is here, what should I do? And he must have said, go ahead, tell her. The coward. Disgusting lying adulterous coward. Taking my son to their house!!!!
Please call a lawyer on Monday morning. Protect yourself from the heartless asshole you are married to.
I am planning on it. Thank you. All I want is to protect my children financially and then separate at the time of my convenience. My life is a bombsite.