If she's your friend, let her wear what the f--- she wants. Not your circus, not your monkeys.

Anonymous wrote:I don't get showing cleavage, period. It's like we decided it's fashionable to run around with 3 inches of our but cracks showing. Cover up for Pete's sake.

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I don't get showing cleavage, period. It's like we decided it's fashionable to run around with 3 inches of our but cracks showing. Cover up for Pete's sake.

Anonymous wrote:Some women want to put it all out there to get attention. Not saying "they asked for anything" but they cannot be surprised when they are judged. You cannot change some things. It is not the same thing to say someone is a slut as saying they dress like a slut.

How would a woman dressed this way characterize it herself if asked? Sexy? It's more than just sexy. They're aiming for sexy on steroids. It makes you wonder why.

Judging for something like this is a dickhead thing to do. Don't be judgmental unless you have a good reason to be. Women dressing sexy isn't hurting anyone, not sure what compels people to shit on them.

Some women want to put it all out there to get attention. Not saying "they asked for anything" but they cannot be surprised when they are judged. You cannot change some things. It is not the same thing to say someone is a slut as saying they dress like a slut.

How would a woman dressed this way characterize it herself if asked? Sexy? It's more than just sexy. They're aiming for sexy on steroids. It makes you wonder why.

So definitely need to post examples before accurate advice can be given.

Are you too conservative?
Is she so over the top that something needs to be said?
Is there a middle ground?

Pictures first, answers will follow.

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Anonymous wrote:As for the word slutty, I work with words all day for a living, and I've done this for 25 years. And I like that word. Everyone is free to interpret it in any way they like, but when OP wrote "slutty" we all knew exactly what she meant, and we all got a picture in our heads. That's just good, descriptive writing. Let's face it, some clothing is slutty.

So if it's not a judgemental, value-laden word, oh wise wordsmith....what's the male equivalent?

There are many, starting with horndog, which Bill Clinton has been called many times.

And is that word nearly as common as slut? Why not (because I can assure you that the answer is "no")?

There is no male equivalent, because men are not subject to the same scrutiny or damnation. They are free to be sexual and it is viewed as natural.

That would be because most men aren't dressing in an overtly sexually inviting or whatever word you want to use manner in the workplace or out for dinner, etc. Women do, and it's not just for themselves. They want to attract the attention. Nothing wrong with seeking attention by showing your cleavage or wearing a super tight, short skirt, but be prepared for the descriptors that come with it.

Be prepared for the descriptors?!!! Oh lemme guess...she was asking for it, right??

Not asking for anything bad but definitely trying to look sexy. You think not???

Do you not get that being called sexy is different than being called slutty? Are you really that dense?

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Anonymous wrote:As for the word slutty, I work with words all day for a living, and I've done this for 25 years. And I like that word. Everyone is free to interpret it in any way they like, but when OP wrote "slutty" we all knew exactly what she meant, and we all got a picture in our heads. That's just good, descriptive writing. Let's face it, some clothing is slutty.

So if it's not a judgemental, value-laden word, oh wise wordsmith....what's the male equivalent?

There are many, starting with horndog, which Bill Clinton has been called many times.

And is that word nearly as common as slut? Why not (because I can assure you that the answer is "no")?

There is no male equivalent, because men are not subject to the same scrutiny or damnation. They are free to be sexual and it is viewed as natural.

That would be because most men aren't dressing in an overtly sexually inviting or whatever word you want to use manner in the workplace or out for dinner, etc. Women do, and it's not just for themselves. They want to attract the attention. Nothing wrong with seeking attention by showing your cleavage or wearing a super tight, short skirt, but be prepared for the descriptors that come with it.

Np. No the reason is that men are more sexual than women even from a young age. A kid when i was 8 grabbed my boobs from behind or whatever i had there. So a man when hes older gets turned on more easy if a girl is flashing her butt or boobs at him. Its then a girl is called slut for atracting sexual attentioj from all men. Now if a guy dresses revealing hes considered a gay and attracring sexual attention from men but not women.

Your words. Why would a girl do that?

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Anonymous wrote:As for the word slutty, I work with words all day for a living, and I've done this for 25 years. And I like that word. Everyone is free to interpret it in any way they like, but when OP wrote "slutty" we all knew exactly what she meant, and we all got a picture in our heads. That's just good, descriptive writing. Let's face it, some clothing is slutty.

So if it's not a judgemental, value-laden word, oh wise wordsmith....what's the male equivalent?

There are many, starting with horndog, which Bill Clinton has been called many times.

And is that word nearly as common as slut? Why not (because I can assure you that the answer is "no")?

There is no male equivalent, because men are not subject to the same scrutiny or damnation. They are free to be sexual and it is viewed as natural.

That would be because most men aren't dressing in an overtly sexually inviting or whatever word you want to use manner in the workplace or out for dinner, etc. Women do, and it's not just for themselves. They want to attract the attention. Nothing wrong with seeking attention by showing your cleavage or wearing a super tight, short skirt, but be prepared for the descriptors that come with it.

Be prepared for the descriptors?!!! Oh lemme guess...she was asking for it, right??

Not asking for anything bad but definitely trying to look sexy. You think not???

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Anonymous wrote:As for the word slutty, I work with words all day for a living, and I've done this for 25 years. And I like that word. Everyone is free to interpret it in any way they like, but when OP wrote "slutty" we all knew exactly what she meant, and we all got a picture in our heads. That's just good, descriptive writing. Let's face it, some clothing is slutty.

So if it's not a judgemental, value-laden word, oh wise wordsmith....what's the male equivalent?

There are many, starting with horndog, which Bill Clinton has been called many times.

And is that word nearly as common as slut? Why not (because I can assure you that the answer is "no")?

There is no male equivalent, because men are not subject to the same scrutiny or damnation. They are free to be sexual and it is viewed as natural.

Having a lot of sexual partners is not really an "accomplishment" for a woman. They can pretty much walk into a room with men in it and point to the one they want and say "now", and it will happen 90% of the time. Sorry to be so un-PC but women are judged differently on this topic. Men are assumed to be constantly seeking sex and mostly being rejected. So if a guy is "promiscuous" everyone says good job. Women get the "perks" (sex anytime they feel like it) so they have to live with the downside as well -- a bad reputation if they partake too much.

This isn't any more true for women than it is for men. You are going to the wrong bars. Or you are just too scared to point to the one you want and say "now."

Ok let me see...I will use this logic and apply it to white men

. Women have the privilege of as many sex partners as they want so they have to accept the fact that if they have too much sex they get called sluts.

If that is your argument then how about this....white men can pretty much get any job they want. So if they partake too much and get rich, I can call them an asshole. That's the price they pay. Ok so the next time I see a man in a Porche and an Italian suit...I get to yell Asshole at him.

This should be fun!!!

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Anonymous wrote:As for the word slutty, I work with words all day for a living, and I've done this for 25 years. And I like that word. Everyone is free to interpret it in any way they like, but when OP wrote "slutty" we all knew exactly what she meant, and we all got a picture in our heads. That's just good, descriptive writing. Let's face it, some clothing is slutty.

So if it's not a judgemental, value-laden word, oh wise wordsmith....what's the male equivalent?

There are many, starting with horndog, which Bill Clinton has been called many times.

And is that word nearly as common as slut? Why not (because I can assure you that the answer is "no")?

There is no male equivalent, because men are not subject to the same scrutiny or damnation. They are free to be sexual and it is viewed as natural.

Having a lot of sexual partners is not really an "accomplishment" for a woman. They can pretty much walk into a room with men in it and point to the one they want and say "now", and it will happen 90% of the time. Sorry to be so un-PC but women are judged differently on this topic. Men are assumed to be constantly seeking sex and mostly being rejected. So if a guy is "promiscuous" everyone says good job. Women get the "perks" (sex anytime they feel like it) so they have to live with the downside as well -- a bad reputation if they partake too much.

This isn't any more true for women than it is for men. You are going to the wrong bars. Or you are just too scared to point to the one you want and say "now."

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Anonymous wrote:As for the word slutty, I work with words all day for a living, and I've done this for 25 years. And I like that word. Everyone is free to interpret it in any way they like, but when OP wrote "slutty" we all knew exactly what she meant, and we all got a picture in our heads. That's just good, descriptive writing. Let's face it, some clothing is slutty.

So if it's not a judgemental, value-laden word, oh wise wordsmith....what's the male equivalent?

There are many, starting with horndog, which Bill Clinton has been called many times.

And is that word nearly as common as slut? Why not (because I can assure you that the answer is "no")?

There is no male equivalent, because men are not subject to the same scrutiny or damnation. They are free to be sexual and it is viewed as natural.

That would be because most men aren't dressing in an overtly sexually inviting or whatever word you want to use manner in the workplace or out for dinner, etc. Women do, and it's not just for themselves. They want to attract the attention. Nothing wrong with seeking attention by showing your cleavage or wearing a super tight, short skirt, but be prepared for the descriptors that come with it.

Be prepared for the descriptors?!!! Oh lemme guess...she was asking for it, right??

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Anonymous wrote:As for the word slutty, I work with words all day for a living, and I've done this for 25 years. And I like that word. Everyone is free to interpret it in any way they like, but when OP wrote "slutty" we all knew exactly what she meant, and we all got a picture in our heads. That's just good, descriptive writing. Let's face it, some clothing is slutty.

So if it's not a judgemental, value-laden word, oh wise wordsmith....what's the male equivalent?

There are many, starting with horndog, which Bill Clinton has been called many times.

And is that word nearly as common as slut? Why not (because I can assure you that the answer is "no")?

There is no male equivalent, because men are not subject to the same scrutiny or damnation. They are free to be sexual and it is viewed as natural.

That would be because most men aren't dressing in an overtly sexually inviting or whatever word you want to use manner in the workplace or out for dinner, etc. Women do, and it's not just for themselves. They want to attract the attention. Nothing wrong with seeking attention by showing your cleavage or wearing a super tight, short skirt, but be prepared for the descriptors that come with it.

Np. No the reason is that men are more sexual than women even from a young age. A kid when i was 8 grabbed my boobs from behind or whatever i had there. So a man when hes older gets turned on more easy if a girl is flashing her butt or boobs at him. Its then a girl is called slut for atracting sexual attentioj from all men. Now if a guy dresses revealing hes considered a gay and attracring sexual attention from men but not women.

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Anonymous wrote:As for the word slutty, I work with words all day for a living, and I've done this for 25 years. And I like that word. Everyone is free to interpret it in any way they like, but when OP wrote "slutty" we all knew exactly what she meant, and we all got a picture in our heads. That's just good, descriptive writing. Let's face it, some clothing is slutty.

So if it's not a judgemental, value-laden word, oh wise wordsmith....what's the male equivalent?

There are many, starting with horndog, which Bill Clinton has been called many times.

And is that word nearly as common as slut? Why not (because I can assure you that the answer is "no")?

There is no male equivalent, because men are not subject to the same scrutiny or damnation. They are free to be sexual and it is viewed as natural.

That would be because most men aren't dressing in an overtly sexually inviting or whatever word you want to use manner in the workplace or out for dinner, etc. Women do, and it's not just for themselves. They want to attract the attention. Nothing wrong with seeking attention by showing your cleavage or wearing a super tight, short skirt, but be prepared for the descriptors that come with it.