Anonymous
Post 10/03/2016 10:38     Subject: Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:You are all being ridiculous. Assuming it's not summer, the danger to that child is far greater when the kid is being driven around by the mom than it is when the kid is sitting in the car unattended.

This is a perfect example of this new twisted thinking: If it's morally wrong, then it MUST be dangerous.

http://www.npr.org/sections/13.7/2016/08/22/490847797/why-do-we-judge-parents-for-putting-kids-at-perceived-but-unreal-risk


We are living in a day and age when busy bodies "get involved" (or at least ring the alarm bells) if they see a 9 and 11 year old kid shooting hoops at the neighborhood playground for a half an hour or so unaccompanied by an adult....horrors!!

I don't know what they get out of doing that but in their minds if a parent isn't coptering around their kid 24/7 it makes them very, very nervous. Maybe it's anxiety? Mental health issue?



Anonymous
Post 10/03/2016 10:37     Subject: Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:Tell the daycare.

Perhaps they can talk to her about it.

Do not MYOB because you are in a sense, now a mandated reporter.

If someone carjacked her vehicle thus kidnapping her baby, imagine the guilt that would ensue.




Another parent at the same daycare is not a mandated reporter, in any sense. This is not abuse or neglect. MYOB
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2016 10:35     Subject: Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:MYOB.


No. This is a case where you DO NOT mind your own business. Call police immediately. No 2nd change for this.
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2016 10:32     Subject: Re:Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:She is leaving a sleeping baby in an air conditioned car that is almost certainly locked for two minutes. And you people want to call the police? Y'all are a bunch of loons.


With the new cars, I don't think you can lock the car when the keys are in it. My car automatically unlocks when the keys are near enough to start the engine. I am a very low-key (a lot of people on here would say almost neglectful!) parent, and I don't think this is safe to do on a regular basis. The baby would be safer in a car with the windows all rolled down, but the keys taken with the mom. There's a certain percentage of people that are looking to steal a baby, but they are a pretty small number. There's a certain percentage of people that are looking to steal a car, and they are a much bigger number. If you're playing odds, at least play them smart. Since it's now impossible to hotwire a car, all the car thiefs are looking for cars with keys left in the car. I bet they wouldn't even notice the sleeping baby until they are gone with the car.
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2016 10:31     Subject: Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My friend is a MoCo police officer and also a Dad who has lost a DD to cancer. Parents who do anything that stress or put a child at a preventable risk, including those leave their children in their cars are a particular trigger for him and I promise you if he saw this, this large, fierce looking AA man (totally teddy bear in reality) would have zero sympathy for your excusing yourself for all the reasons stated above for why its OK to do this. He's told us how at least three times when off duty he's come upon kids in cars in Giant parking lots and stands there until parents return and reads them riot act. He has called in once but it mostly breaks his heart that anyone thinks that they are immune from the luck lottery and take the risk. He isn't looking to punish parents (which would punish the kids) but I don't think he'd hesitate if he thought his concerns were dismissed.


Then let him read the riot act. Unless he's filing charges IDGAF what he thinks.


+1. I don't care how large and fierce a person is, or whether he is a police officer or not. Unless I'm breaking the law and charges are being filed, I'm not intimidated by someone trying to get in my face and throw his stature and "fierceness" around.
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2016 10:30     Subject: Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My friend is a MoCo police officer and also a Dad who has lost a DD to cancer. Parents who do anything that stress or put a child at a preventable risk, including those leave their children in their cars are a particular trigger for him and I promise you if he saw this, this large, fierce looking AA man (totally teddy bear in reality) would have zero sympathy for your excusing yourself for all the reasons stated above for why its OK to do this. He's told us how at least three times when off duty he's come upon kids in cars in Giant parking lots and stands there until parents return and reads them riot act. He has called in once but it mostly breaks his heart that anyone thinks that they are immune from the luck lottery and take the risk. He isn't looking to punish parents (which would punish the kids) but I don't think he'd hesitate if he thought his concerns were dismissed.


Just because your friend is a police officer and a parent himself does NOT give him the right to tell me how to parent. Or...as you imply above....punish me because I dismiss his concerns. That's BS.


Umm except its against the law so he would have EVERY right to do so.


In Maryland, yes there is a law. In VA and DC, there is no law against leaving your child in a car unattended.


BUT, what your cop friend SHOULDN'T do is lecture me and then if he believes I have dismissed him, punish me.
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2016 10:28     Subject: Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My friend is a MoCo police officer and also a Dad who has lost a DD to cancer. Parents who do anything that stress or put a child at a preventable risk, including those leave their children in their cars are a particular trigger for him and I promise you if he saw this, this large, fierce looking AA man (totally teddy bear in reality) would have zero sympathy for your excusing yourself for all the reasons stated above for why its OK to do this. He's told us how at least three times when off duty he's come upon kids in cars in Giant parking lots and stands there until parents return and reads them riot act. He has called in once but it mostly breaks his heart that anyone thinks that they are immune from the luck lottery and take the risk. He isn't looking to punish parents (which would punish the kids) but I don't think he'd hesitate if he thought his concerns were dismissed.


Just because your friend is a police officer and a parent himself does NOT give him the right to tell me how to parent. Or...as you imply above....punish me because I dismiss his concerns. That's BS.


Umm except its against the law so he would have EVERY right to do so.


In Maryland, yes there is a law. In VA and DC, there is no law against leaving your child in a car unattended.
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2016 10:27     Subject: Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?
You are all being ridiculous. Assuming it's not summer, the danger to that child is far greater when the kid is being driven around by the mom than it is when the kid is sitting in the car unattended.

This is a perfect example of this new twisted thinking: If it's morally wrong, then it MUST be dangerous.

http://www.npr.org/sections/13.7/2016/08/22/490847797/why-do-we-judge-parents-for-putting-kids-at-perceived-but-unreal-risk
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2016 10:24     Subject: Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:Tell the daycare.

Perhaps they can talk to her about it.

Do not MYOB because you are in a sense, now a mandated reporter.

If someone carjacked her vehicle thus kidnapping her baby, imagine the guilt that would ensue.


Please explain how op is a mandated reporter
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2016 10:22     Subject: Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When my youngest was an infant and my oldest in preschool, other parents always offered to walk the older one out for me. What's wrong with OP that she can't offer a little human decency?


We had a preschool with a kiss and ride line - the staff unloaded the kids right from the car. So nice.


So irrelevant.


No, not irrelevant. Point is, for those people who don't want to deal with carrying sleeping babies into preschool/daycare they should consider a daycare/preschool with a kiss and ride option. You don't *have* to use the kiss n ride. But it is there if you need it.
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2016 10:21     Subject: Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When my youngest was an infant and my oldest in preschool, other parents always offered to walk the older one out for me. What's wrong with OP that she can't offer a little human decency?



Were your kids in preschool in 1970? You can't just walk a random I'd out of a daycare nowadays.


This was in 2013, and I would just call from the parking lot and say "Max's mom is bringing Larla out today." After a while, I didn't even need to do that. Everyone knew we had a young baby, and it was a small Montessori school where folks knew each other.
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2016 10:15     Subject: Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When my youngest was an infant and my oldest in preschool, other parents always offered to walk the older one out for me. What's wrong with OP that she can't offer a little human decency?


We had a preschool with a kiss and ride line - the staff unloaded the kids right from the car. So nice.


So irrelevant.
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2016 10:13     Subject: Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:My friend is a MoCo police officer and also a Dad who has lost a DD to cancer. Parents who do anything that stress or put a child at a preventable risk, including those leave their children in their cars are a particular trigger for him and I promise you if he saw this, this large, fierce looking AA man (totally teddy bear in reality) would have zero sympathy for your excusing yourself for all the reasons stated above for why its OK to do this. He's told us how at least three times when off duty he's come upon kids in cars in Giant parking lots and stands there until parents return and reads them riot act. He has called in once but it mostly breaks his heart that anyone thinks that they are immune from the luck lottery and take the risk. He isn't looking to punish parents (which would punish the kids) but I don't think he'd hesitate if he thought his concerns were dismissed.


Then let him read the riot act. Unless he's filing charges IDGAF what he thinks.
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2016 10:13     Subject: Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:When my youngest was an infant and my oldest in preschool, other parents always offered to walk the older one out for me. What's wrong with OP that she can't offer a little human decency?



Were your kids in preschool in 1970? You can't just walk a random I'd out of a daycare nowadays.
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2016 10:08     Subject: Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:When my youngest was an infant and my oldest in preschool, other parents always offered to walk the older one out for me. What's wrong with OP that she can't offer a little human decency?


We had a preschool with a kiss and ride line - the staff unloaded the kids right from the car. So nice.