OK, I'll admit since its anon that I think role playing in general is super cheesy and lame.

Anonymous wrote:It's always little creepy when someone you know as well as your spouse reveals a hidden desire like this. Makes you wonder if it's the tip of the iceberg for other...desires that they haven't told you about.

Yet.

You sound fun.

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Anonymous wrote:As a DH whose wife reacted very negatively when I tried to share fantasies, I can tell you that he will find a way to explore them with or without you. I would posit that the more vehemently you reject him for his fantasies, the more threatening to your marriage his outlet will be. The man bared his soul to you and you shut him down and basically told him he is a deviant.

What could possibly go wrong?

Another DH who had a very common fantasy shot down by my wife, with a "that's weird" attached. Rest assured, I stopped sharing fantasies. I found someone online who has the same reciprocal fantasy so it's a safe outlet although the temptation to meet irl is strong.
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Op, I don't think you realize how destructive you are being to your relationship

Did you ever tell your wife how much you were hurt by having your fantasies shut down by her? She must have done so more than once and with enough disdain for you to go outside your marriage. And how did you find this online friend? Someone you know in real life?

It wasn't just one fantasy that was shot down (it was an escort fantasy, FWIW). It was also that I bought her lingerie that gathered dust. Sex toys that never came out. Sex talk that turned into a monologue. Basically, I was solely responsible for our sex life and it got tiresome after a while with an uninterested partner.

I met an amazing woman online whose dynamic meshed with mine on a site similar to this. Total unicorn. Very affirming. Bonus for my wife - she is no longer annoyed by my sexuality.....

It's always little creepy when someone you know as well as your spouse reveals a hidden desire like this. Makes you wonder if it's the tip of the iceberg for other...desires that they haven't told you about.

Yet.

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously can not act. I would suck at this stuff.

Me too. Can't act. Feel corny and stupid also feel ugly because when I usually see women in these get ups they have perfect bodies. I out the outfits on and only see my flab and saggy boobs makes me feel worse.

My husband bought me a leather bra, crotch less leather pants, and stiletto heels. I have a seriously flabby stomach and cellulite issues. Had no interest in putting them on, but I did. Holy hell my husband was done in like 3 minutes. He LOVED seeing me in them (even though I was kinda mortified). Took me a while to realize that he didn't want to do it with some random hot chick in leather, he wanted to do it with ME in leather.

Try it. You may be surprised at the results.

This is so true. My DH hasn't expressed interest in role playing or costumes, but I've tried spicing things up with slutty lingerie. I am not hot. I have, like, 3 bellies. But he went freaking nuts. Surpassed my wildest expectations. With the obligatory caveat for unhappy marriages, men want their wives. Whatever fantasies they have, they would rather fulfill with their wives than random hotties/daughter's friends ( at that - come on, people, really?). I would never say it's the wife's fault if the husband cheats, but I do think that a pattern of rejection in the bedroom, whether of sex in general or particular sexual requests, can make him feel unwanted and unappreciated in a way that increases the likelihood he'll look elsewhere.

I just do not get the unwillingness to engage and explore with your husband this way.

These two women get it! You two should teach a class!

19:17 here.

Why thank you! You may not like the class, tho, b/c despite my willingness to try the leather, no matter how many times he asks, anal ain't happening. I gotta draw my line somewhere!

Other potential co-teacher here. Sadly, my class will also not include anal. I draw the line at OUCH!

Haha. Not a deal-breaker for this guy. I'll stop there since this is non-explicit. Anyway, it's your grasp of the married male psyche that has my admiration, not the individual details!

Teenager isn't what automatically comes to mind when I hear cheerleader fantasy. I think Dallas Cowboys or Laker Girls. I grew up in the '70s and '80s so many of my friends' brothers and dads had sexy cheerleader posters in the garage.

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously can not act. I would suck at this stuff.

Me too. Can't act. Feel corny and stupid also feel ugly because when I usually see women in these get ups they have perfect bodies. I out the outfits on and only see my flab and saggy boobs makes me feel worse.

My husband bought me a leather bra, crotch less leather pants, and stiletto heels. I have a seriously flabby stomach and cellulite issues. Had no interest in putting them on, but I did. Holy hell my husband was done in like 3 minutes. He LOVED seeing me in them (even though I was kinda mortified). Took me a while to realize that he didn't want to do it with some random hot chick in leather, he wanted to do it with ME in leather.

Try it. You may be surprised at the results.

This is so true. My DH hasn't expressed interest in role playing or costumes, but I've tried spicing things up with slutty lingerie. I am not hot. I have, like, 3 bellies. But he went freaking nuts. Surpassed my wildest expectations. With the obligatory caveat for unhappy marriages, men want their wives. Whatever fantasies they have, they would rather fulfill with their wives than random hotties/daughter's friends ( at that - come on, people, really?). I would never say it's the wife's fault if the husband cheats, but I do think that a pattern of rejection in the bedroom, whether of sex in general or particular sexual requests, can make him feel unwanted and unappreciated in a way that increases the likelihood he'll look elsewhere.

I just do not get the unwillingness to engage and explore with your husband this way.

These two women get it! You two should teach a class!

19:17 here.

Why thank you! You may not like the class, tho, b/c despite my willingness to try the leather, no matter how many times he asks, anal ain't happening. I gotta draw my line somewhere!

Other potential co-teacher here. Sadly, my class will also not include anal. I draw the line at OUCH!

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously can not act. I would suck at this stuff.

Me too. Can't act. Feel corny and stupid also feel ugly because when I usually see women in these get ups they have perfect bodies. I out the outfits on and only see my flab and saggy boobs makes me feel worse.

My husband bought me a leather bra, crotch less leather pants, and stiletto heels. I have a seriously flabby stomach and cellulite issues. Had no interest in putting them on, but I did. Holy hell my husband was done in like 3 minutes. He LOVED seeing me in them (even though I was kinda mortified). Took me a while to realize that he didn't want to do it with some random hot chick in leather, he wanted to do it with ME in leather.

Try it. You may be surprised at the results.

This is so true. My DH hasn't expressed interest in role playing or costumes, but I've tried spicing things up with slutty lingerie. I am not hot. I have, like, 3 bellies. But he went freaking nuts. Surpassed my wildest expectations. With the obligatory caveat for unhappy marriages, men want their wives. Whatever fantasies they have, they would rather fulfill with their wives than random hotties/daughter's friends ( at that - come on, people, really?). I would never say it's the wife's fault if the husband cheats, but I do think that a pattern of rejection in the bedroom, whether of sex in general or particular sexual requests, can make him feel unwanted and unappreciated in a way that increases the likelihood he'll look elsewhere.

I just do not get the unwillingness to engage and explore with your husband this way.

These two women get it! You two should teach a class!

19:17 here.

Why thank you! You may not like the class, tho, b/c despite my willingness to try the leather, no matter how many times he asks, anal ain't happening. I gotta draw my line somewhere!

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously can not act. I would suck at this stuff.

Me too. Can't act. Feel corny and stupid also feel ugly because when I usually see women in these get ups they have perfect bodies. I out the outfits on and only see my flab and saggy boobs makes me feel worse.

My husband bought me a leather bra, crotch less leather pants, and stiletto heels. I have a seriously flabby stomach and cellulite issues. Had no interest in putting them on, but I did. Holy hell my husband was done in like 3 minutes. He LOVED seeing me in them (even though I was kinda mortified). Took me a while to realize that he didn't want to do it with some random hot chick in leather, he wanted to do it with ME in leather.

Try it. You may be surprised at the results.

This is so true. My DH hasn't expressed interest in role playing or costumes, but I've tried spicing things up with slutty lingerie. I am not hot. I have, like, 3 bellies. But he went freaking nuts. Surpassed my wildest expectations. With the obligatory caveat for unhappy marriages, men want their wives. Whatever fantasies they have, they would rather fulfill with their wives than random hotties/daughter's friends ( at that - come on, people, really?). I would never say it's the wife's fault if the husband cheats, but I do think that a pattern of rejection in the bedroom, whether of sex in general or particular sexual requests, can make him feel unwanted and unappreciated in a way that increases the likelihood he'll look elsewhere.

I just do not get the unwillingness to engage and explore with your husband this way.

These two women get it! You two should teach a class!

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Anonymous wrote:As a DH whose wife reacted very negatively when I tried to share fantasies, I can tell you that he will find a way to explore them with or without you. I would posit that the more vehemently you reject him for his fantasies, the more threatening to your marriage his outlet will be. The man bared his soul to you and you shut him down and basically told him he is a deviant.

What could possibly go wrong?

Another DH who had a very common fantasy shot down by my wife, with a "that's weird" attached. Rest assured, I stopped sharing fantasies. I found someone online who has the same reciprocal fantasy so it's a safe outlet although the temptation to meet irl is strong.
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Op, I don't think you realize how destructive you are being to your relationship

Did you ever tell your wife how much you were hurt by having your fantasies shut down by her? She must have done so more than once and with enough disdain for you to go outside your marriage. And how did you find this online friend? Someone you know in real life?

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Anonymous wrote:As a DH whose wife reacted very negatively when I tried to share fantasies, I can tell you that he will find a way to explore them with or without you. I would posit that the more vehemently you reject him for his fantasies, the more threatening to your marriage his outlet will be. The man bared his soul to you and you shut him down and basically told him he is a deviant.

What could possibly go wrong?

Another DH who had a very common fantasy shot down by my wife, with a "that's weird" attached. Rest assured, I stopped sharing fantasies. I found someone online who has the same reciprocal fantasy so it's a safe outlet although the temptation to meet irl is strong.

Op, I don't think you realize how destructive you are being to your relationship

That's right ladies you better do whatever your man wants and never hint that it isn't something you wouldn't enjoy.

Know your role!

Grow up.

"Good, giving and game" works both ways. Both partners (regardless of gender) should be open to hearing their partner's fantasies. If the fantasy is not something that is physically difficult or morally repulsive (children, animals, necrophilia, rape), they should consider it. Either way, no shaming someone for fessing up to a fantasy.

No woman do not do that! That is just porn industries BS. Man have to please women, women do not have to do anything in return.

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously can not act. I would suck at this stuff.

Me too. Can't act. Feel corny and stupid also feel ugly because when I usually see women in these get ups they have perfect bodies. I out the outfits on and only see my flab and saggy boobs makes me feel worse.

My husband bought me a leather bra, crotch less leather pants, and stiletto heels. I have a seriously flabby stomach and cellulite issues. Had no interest in putting them on, but I did. Holy hell my husband was done in like 3 minutes. He LOVED seeing me in them (even though I was kinda mortified). Took me a while to realize that he didn't want to do it with some random hot chick in leather, he wanted to do it with ME in leather.

Try it. You may be surprised at the results.

This is so true. My DH hasn't expressed interest in role playing or costumes, but I've tried spicing things up with slutty lingerie. I am not hot. I have, like, 3 bellies. But he went freaking nuts. Surpassed my wildest expectations. With the obligatory caveat for unhappy marriages, men want their wives. Whatever fantasies they have, they would rather fulfill with their wives than random hotties/daughter's friends ( at that - come on, people, really?). I would never say it's the wife's fault if the husband cheats, but I do think that a pattern of rejection in the bedroom, whether of sex in general or particular sexual requests, can make him feel unwanted and unappreciated in a way that increases the likelihood he'll look elsewhere.

I just do not get the unwillingness to engage and explore with your husband this way.

Anonymous wrote:PS. I suspect you hate strippers, boob jobs, false eyelashes, thong tan lines .. Or anything else men lust after.


Real men gotta have it and gonna get it.

Are you getting it now?

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously can not act. I would suck at this stuff.

Me too. Can't act. Feel corny and stupid also feel ugly because when I usually see women in these get ups they have perfect bodies. I out the outfits on and only see my flab and saggy boobs makes me feel worse.

My husband bought me a leather bra, crotch less leather pants, and stiletto heels. I have a seriously flabby stomach and cellulite issues. Had no interest in putting them on, but I did. Holy hell my husband was done in like 3 minutes. He LOVED seeing me in them (even though I was kinda mortified). Took me a while to realize that he didn't want to do it with some random hot chick in leather, he wanted to do it with ME in leather.

Try it. You may be surprised at the results.

You sound really cool.

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously can not act. I would suck at this stuff.

Me too. Can't act. Feel corny and stupid also feel ugly because when I usually see women in these get ups they have perfect bodies. I out the outfits on and only see my flab and saggy boobs makes me feel worse.

My husband bought me a leather bra, crotch less leather pants, and stiletto heels. I have a seriously flabby stomach and cellulite issues. Had no interest in putting them on, but I did. Holy hell my husband was done in like 3 minutes. He LOVED seeing me in them (even though I was kinda mortified). Took me a while to realize that he didn't want to do it with some random hot chick in leather, he wanted to do it with ME in leather.

Try it. You may be surprised at the results.