Anonymous wrote:Mind blown by all the people who think this is such a shitty thing to do. Do you think the fed government or especially private corporations give a shit about you or would hesitate to screw you over if they had to? NO

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Anonymous wrote:Yup. Happened with me too. I fully planned to return full time but it's amazing how things change when you're IN the situation. I did go back but resigned within a few months, so technically not on leave but not that long after. And frankly when i showed up for work after leave my bosses seemed shocked. It's like they expected I'd change my mind. I remain close with them and they have genuinely supported my decision to take some time away, and wouldn't have held it against me had I made that decision earlier. At the end of the day we're human and sometimes our priorities shift. Some people will understand that, some won't. I wouldn't give a flip about those who don't. There is a professional life to be had after motherhood, should you choose to stay home (and choose to return to the workforce). Don't let pleasing others stand in the way of what you feel is right for your family.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course op can do whatever she wants. But people are delusional if they think there are no repercussions when woman take paid leave and then don't return, fed or not. I've seen it happen a few times and bridges are always burned, It also negatively affects willingness to invest in other women because supervisors worry they will leave as well.

op, if you are not sure, go back for a few months and see how you fee.

I disagree. People leave jobs all the time. Again, the paid leave is annual leave or sick leave. For example, my leave I'm taking is 12 weeks of saved annual leave. I'd get paid out that leave when I left regardless. I think as long as op had a good reputation at work and leaves gracefully then it's no big deal. It's not any different than male employees leaving for another company or position.

Op another Option is to ask to extend unpaid leave for three months and then reevaluate. But this is only if you're willing to pull the trigger now.

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There is a big difference in perception between leaving job and leaving a job after an extended paid time off when your office has made efforts to cover your work load with the expectation you return-- other people are taking on more work to allow op's leave, manager has to arrange and make sure work isn't falling through cracks, etc... To keep the position open is definitely a bigger drag on the office then hiring someone new on day one of leave, when people discover weeks of covering op's work for her was for no reason, they aren't going to be happy. Perhaps you haven't seen it happen, but I have, several times.

If you can't see the difference, you are in willful denial or just not that savvy. And yes, bridges also burned if a men doesn't return from paternity leave.

Anonymous wrote:Yup. Happened with me too. I fully planned to return full time but it's amazing how things change when you're IN the situation. I did go back but resigned within a few months, so technically not on leave but not that long after. And frankly when i showed up for work after leave my bosses seemed shocked. It's like they expected I'd change my mind. I remain close with them and they have genuinely supported my decision to take some time away, and wouldn't have held it against me had I made that decision earlier. At the end of the day we're human and sometimes our priorities shift. Some people will understand that, some won't. I wouldn't give a flip about those who don't. There is a professional life to be had after motherhood, should you choose to stay home (and choose to return to the workforce). Don't let pleasing others stand in the way of what you feel is right for your family.

Anonymous wrote:You obviously don't know anything about commercial leading. As someone who has worked for both big banks and as a broker, it's one of the most unregulated industries out there.

Anonymous wrote:No comment on the ethics of this, but someone once told me not to make any major decisions for the first few months postpartum. It's easy to quit after going back and deciding it's not working. Much harder to not go back and then try to get your old job back, or have to get a new one.

Anonymous wrote:You obviously don't know anything about commercial leading. As someone who has worked for both big banks and as a broker, it's one of the most unregulated industries out there.

Anonymous wrote:Meh. Sales is sales. If you are good at it you're good at it. Relationship building skills don't go away because of a child raising hiatus. If you think everyone who has it good is a liar I feel for you.