I think this conversation is pathetic. Women have fought for years for equal rights including equal pay. Many women on this board complain about how men expect sex. It's hypocritical for women to expect men to pay for all dates or even all first dates. I'm in my mid 40's and have been dating post divorce for almost two years. On a first date I always offer to split it. If I like him and plan to go out with him again I'll let him pay if he offers. But I will then pick up the tab for the 2nd date. A few men I've dated insisted on always paying which I actually did not appreciate and for these men it generally turned out that their income or wealth was all they were bringing to the table. If I want to earn as much as a man for equal work, I should be willing to share the cost of dating.

Anonymous wrote:Inviter pays.

This.

Anonymous wrote:The guy pays period. Doesn't matter whether you see it going somewhere or not.

+1

20 bucks? A man should pay for it. If it's more expensive, split the bill.

It's a bad date for her too, OP.

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BE_Jack wrote:I always pay on the date, even if it didn't go well. Chivalry isn't dead people.

Isn't that like Man 101, lol. Every guy should know this.

+1. If IRL I knew OP I would not set him up with one of my friends. As a female, I would worry he would be the type of guy that if the date sucked/they didn't connect he wouldn't even walk my friend to her car, make sure she got home safely. If there was nothing in it for him, forget about it. Maybe I'm wrong about OP, but that's how he came off.

Anonymous wrote:

BE_Jack wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

BE_Jack wrote:I always pay on the date, even if it didn't go well. Chivalry isn't dead people.

Isn't that like Man 101, lol. Every guy should know this.

You would think, but not always the case. And FTR, single

Hmmm. Over 35?

Mid 40's

BE_Jack wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

BE_Jack wrote:I always pay on the date, even if it didn't go well. Chivalry isn't dead people.

Isn't that like Man 101, lol. Every guy should know this.

You would think, but not always the case. And FTR, single

Hmmm. Over 35?

OP - you're bitching about $20. It does sound like you should get out of the dating game for a bit and get a better job.

Anonymous wrote:

BE_Jack wrote:I always pay on the date, even if it didn't go well. Chivalry isn't dead people.

Isn't that like Man 101, lol. Every guy should know this.

You would think, but not always the case. And FTR, single

BE_Jack wrote:I always pay on the date, even if it didn't go well. Chivalry isn't dead people.

I bet you are not single

BE_Jack wrote:I always pay on the date, even if it didn't go well. Chivalry isn't dead people.

Isn't that like Man 101, lol. Every guy should know this.

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Anonymous wrote:Notice in a restaurant the server almost always puts the bill by the man? There's a reason for that, it's call social norms. Men have expectations of women, women have the same.

No they don't. Equal rights, feminism and all that. In case you haven't noticed, chivalry is dead. Women didn't want it anymore

got laid a lot when you were single with that attitude?

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Anonymous wrote:If the date sucked what does it matter? You didn't want to impress her.

If you are on a date that is going really well I recommend paying because it will set a good tone. If date offers to split go with it.

OP here. If I was into her it would have been different. I honestly don't care to see her again.

So why did you say you'd have given it another shot after she messaged you after the date, except that she brought up the splitting the bill thing?

Splitting the bill for me as a man just doesn't feel right I always pay just for that reason alone unless the women insist more than once.

I split the bill in half so no expectations on either side. Much more comfortable.